When you find yourself feeling underappreciated or like a nuisance to him, I wouldn’t be surprised if you’re asking yourself, will he miss me if I leave him alone?
In all honesty, yes he will miss you. This is particularly so if you have been acting too needy or clingy for a while.
Being too needy or clingy portrays you to be desperate and easy, which you know is not true but that is how it comes across.
When a guy feels like you’re desperate to be with him, it devalues you in a strange way. Why? Because we have a habit of not appreciating things or people who come too easy.
Working for your attention and affection will result in a much better relationship than by hand-feeding him everything you have to offer without him doing a thing to deserve it.
But let’s assume that you haven’t been acting this way. Then what? Well, it could be indicative of low-interest levels, lack of appreciation or he hasn’t noticed your efforts.
Whichever it may be, the truth of the matter is that leaving him alone will make him miss you.
Why? Because in general, people acknowledge the worth of something or someone when they lose them.
This happens because when we are forced to compare our lives without something or someone, we can accurately gage the level of impact they have in our lives.
It may not be the most ideal way of asserting your worth but if he is unappreciative of your presence and effort, removing it may just be the only effective tool for changing things.
I’ve also come to realize that in every relationship, there must be some degree of distance at regular intervals to give each other some time to reflect on the relationship, fantasize about each other and reignite the desire to be with one another.
This time apart also allows both of you to enjoy your individuality which can actually have a profound effect on your relationship.
For a relationship to thrive, each person must invest time and effort into being the best possible individuals they can be.
If you’re happy as a person, you will have an enormously better chance of being happy in a relationship.
So it’s very possible that the reason you feel this way is that he isn’t in the right mindset to show up in the relationship as he should.
This isn’t your fault.
If the problem is within him then it’s obviously his responsibility to do something about it.
Depriving a relationship of the love and effort it required to thrive is a huge mistake. Perhaps leaving him alone for a while is the only way to show him what could happen if he doesn’t make an effort.
Using the no contact rule
Let’s assume that you’re actually pursuing a guy, you’re unsure if he is interested in you anymore and you’ve made or one too many mistakes, what are your options for turning things around?
Evidently, what you’re doing right now isn’t working. So, chasing him or showering him with affection is a big waste of time.
And as Albert Einstein would say, insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result.
Popularly used after a breakup, the no contact rule is an elimination of all communication with your ex to either move on or get them back.
Similarly, getting rejected or overlooked after pursuing or chasing him could call for a form of no contact.
Rather than say anything, this would entail backing off over time by replying or calling him less or complete elimination of communication for about a week or so.
You don’t want to disappear altogether, especially if you feel like the situation with him is not a lost cause.
What you want to do is give him a sudden shock of silence when he has become accustomed to having you around him.
After about a week, come back and act as normal. If he really began to miss you, trust me, he’ll express that vocally or through his overall excitement and eagerness to be with you or speak to you.
Reasons why he lost interest in you
Generally speaking, if a guy was interested in you and exhibited signs of attraction but that has changed over time, it could be related to something you’re doing or not doing.
There are a number of actions that actually diminish attraction and they are as follows:
- You chased him too much.
- You became too clingy and needy too soon.
- You’re spending too much time on the phone with him.
- Something you’ve said over text has been misinterpreted or misconstrued.
- He doesn’t feel like you’re a challenge.
- He’s chasing other people.
If you suspect that his lack of interest or rejection has anything to do with the above reasons, then, in all honesty, the simplest and most effective fix is to back off.
Change your behavior by simply backing off and leave him alone.
Time has the habit of erasing certain emotions and memories. Once he gets over those feelings or thoughts that put him off, there’s a strong chance he’ll be far more receptive when you return.
I think you need to analyze the situation and come to some form of understanding with yourself in regards to how you behave around him.
Someone who considers themselves a catch wouldn’t chase after someone after being rejected or undervalued.
The ultimate form of betrayal is giving yourself to someone who doesn’t deserve your time, effort and affection despite knowing so.
Things you should never do after a breakup or rejection
I can sympathize with the urge to fix the situation by doing something but most of the time, action often leads to dissatisfaction between both parties.
When you’ve dumped or rejected, the best thing you could possibly do is nothing. In other words, utilize inaction to gain back some control over the situation.
I know of many people who would attest to the following remark – when rejecting someone, we often expect them to chase us.
It’s the normal course of action because that’s what we do in our lives. When we want something we can’t have, it only emphasizes that desire and encourages us to try harder.
But when you flip the script and take a completely different approach, it confuses the other person.
Suddenly, you’ve acted in a non-predictable manner. You’ve gone against the grain.
By walking away or doing nothing, you prioritize your time and self-respect over that person.
And that, in and of itself, is something people respect.
If you take this one step further by initiating no contact, then you’ve taken back some control over the situation and attached consequences to their decision to reject or dump you.
Unfortunately, it takes an incredible amount of willpower to pull this off. But, it’s more than possible to do. I mean, if I can do it, anyone can!
- Don’t chase after him at all.
- Do not text him angrily.
- Avoid begging or pleading with him to take a chance on you.
- Don’t look for validation of your worth from him.
- Don’t display your sadness or frustration to him on any platform.
Any of the above-mentioned mistakes will drive him further away or make you look less attractive to him.
Trust me when I tell you that most people who do these things end up achieving nothing good.
The only time I’d say it’s okay to make more of an effort after being dumped is if you royally messed up and did something to really hurt your ex.
Leaving him alone is a surefire way of getting him to miss you, especially if you spent too much time chasing him.
I want you to remember something, you’re a person of value and respect. Act like it. Don’t reward someone for treating you like a second-grade citizen.
If he doesn’t see your worth, walk away and let him experience the gift of silence.
Trust me, if he actually cared about you at all, he will eventually come back and make an effort. If he doesn’t, then you can walk away with your head held high knowing that you made the right decision and didn’t sacrifice your dignity or self worth over him.
With that being said, I hope you enjoy this article and found some clarity on whether he will miss you if you leave him alone.
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