One of the most frustrating experiences for most women is investing all this time in a guy who seemed interested and then suddenly rejects them or disappears. This can leave a lot of people feeling disillusioned with one burning question in their mind, why would a guy reject you if he likes you?
In cases such as these, it’s highly probable that he has commitment issues, unresolved feelings for someone else, he’s rebounding or is simply not looking for a relationship right now and wants to save you from getting hurt unnecessarily.
The only other plausible reason for why a guy would reject you if he likes you is based on a lack of deep feelings.
In other words, he may like you but not enough to actually want to be involved with you.
I understand if that seems confusing to you which is why I highly encourage you to read on because I’m going to get into a detailed explanation of all the reasons why a guy would reject you if he likes you.
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1. He has commitment issues
Guys with commitment issues understand all too well what it’s like to have feelings for someone and yet be deathly afraid of a serious relationship.
I’ve been there and I can’t begin to tell you how many times I’ve scared myself off from possible relationships with good people.
Here’s the thing, irrespective of these commitment issues, if he truly likes you and cares about you deeply then he’ll come back.
Because the fear of losing you is far greater than any fears he has that contributes to his commitment issues.
Keep that in mind when you encounter men like this.
You won’t have to convince him to stay or to be with you, even if he initially rejects you.
Commitment issues are a real concern and they can show up in even the most charming and honest men.
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2. He has unresolved feelings for someone else
After a breakup, guys try to move on by dating others or even rebounding.
They may even go on to meet women who are amazing and who they like.
But, that doesn’t erase the feelings he still has for his recent ex or the girl who rejected him.
This causes a conflict in your relationship with him and the fear of moving forward with all these unresolved feelings influences his decision to reject you even though he likes you as a person.
This is one of the reasons why so many rebound relationships end.
It’s not because the rebounder doesn’t care about their new partner, they just care about their ex too much and that brings about a realization that they aren’t ready for a relationship.
3. He’s not looking for a relationship right now
Unfortunately, you will meet guys who like you and who you like that just don’t want a relationship right now.
It’s not that you aren’t good enough or that he doesn’t like you. He simply isn’t looking for something serious right now and just wants to have fun.
That’s his prerogative but you shouldn’t feel the need to waste your time on someone who isn’t looking for something that you are.
Sure, things may change in the future but if there’s no guarantee of that, then you need to decide whether you’re willing to take the risk or not.
4. He doesn’t actually like you
I hate to say this but it could be the truth.
It’s possible that he wanted to let you down easy and to avoid hurting your feelings, he made it seem like he likes you whilst also rejecting you.
Guys who are toxic may lead you on to believe that they like you when they actually don’t.
That’s why it may come as a surprise to you that he rejects you out of the blue when things seem to be going so well.
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5. He’s rebounding
When a relationship ends, some people take the time to be alone and heal before they move on while others choose to evade the loneliness and pain by trying to move on as quickly as possible.
They may not even set out to use anybody or to rebound but it happens nonetheless.
He could really like you and find you attractive but the courtship he has with you can’t erase the memories or unresolved feelings he has from a recent breakup.
That’s why he rejected you even though he likes you.
Those feelings for his ex are still festering under the surface and now he realizes that he needs to deal with them.
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6. You’re moving too fast
It’s exciting to start falling in love with someone but you must understand that everyone moves at their own pace.
Sometimes, they sync up with you and other times, they don’t.
If you try to speed things up, he’s going to reject you even if he likes you because the pace that you’re moving on is too fast for him.
Trust me when I tell you that it’s okay to take things a bit slower. Give it some time for the attraction and connection to mature.
When he’s ready for more, I’m willing to bet that he’ll be all over you and dying to be in a relationship.
It can be really painful and disappointing when a guy rejects you and it seemed as if he liked you but atleast you know that it’s not your fault.
Unless, of course, you did something really bad to turn him off or break his trust, the decision to reject you is not caused by you being deficient in any way.
In times like this, you really need to prioritize your own well being.
Focus on doing what’s best for you and take care of yourself before deciding to chase him or something to that effect.
You deserve to be with someone who likes you as much as you like him.
With that being said, I hope this article provided you with the explanation you were looking for on why would a guy rejects you if he likes you. Please feel free to leave your questions or thoughts in the comment section below.
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