So, you’ve met someone who has blown your socks off but lately, they haven’t been replying to your texts or taking your calls. You’re utterly confused and looking for an answer to just one simple question, why is my crush ignoring me?
The reason why your crush is ignoring you is that they don’t like you or feel the same level of attraction as you do. Alternatively, they’re busy, they met someone else or they’re upset with you for some reason or the other.
Understandably, this can be quite frustrating and confusing. I get it. All you want to do is treat this person right and hopefully nurture a romantic relationship with them.
But, at the end of the day, you cannot and must not force someone to be with you or to be receptive to your advances.
Instead, direct your energy and attention to those who actually show a keen interest in getting to know you on an intimate level.
With that being said, let’s get into the meat of this article on why my crush is ignoring me.
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1. They don’t like you
Neither attraction nor love can be forced. Love dictates freedom. You can never make someone love. Sure, you can nurture feelings of love but they cannot be manufactured against the will of the individual.
Just because you like your crush doesn’t mean that the feeling is mutual.
In fact, I’ve seen some people completely turn off their crush and create negative feelings due to their behavior.
They still like their crush but the other person genuinely dislikes them in return.
It’s a sad turn of events but it’s part of reality.
Alternatively, your crush is completely indifferent towards you. Meaning that they don’t really like or dislike you. They don’t really think about you or have any interest in you right now.
And so, they just ignore you almost unintentionally because you haven’t really crossed their radar.
2. They don’t feel the same level of attraction as you do
Unfortunately, attraction can’t be manufactured. There has to be a base level of attraction before anything can happen between two people.
On a scale of 1 – 10, a base level of attraction would amount to at least a 5 out of 10.
I don’t mean to use this scale as a derogatory tool that validates superficiality.
But, I would be remiss not to mention the importance of attraction.
Here’s the deal – attraction is not just physical appearance. It entails the way you carry yourself, dress, speak and the overall energy you give off.
So, if your crush finds you to be at least a 5 out of 10, you have a chance of developing a romantic relationship with this person. It is also important to note that attraction can develop as feelings mature.
But, that base level is the minimum starting point.
Obviously, you can’t quantify this number in real life but usually, if your crush finds you attractive, they’ll display some degree of romantic interest in you.
Otherwise, all of your attempts will fall on deaf ears and you’ll find yourself reading this article on ‘why is my crush ignoring me’.
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3. They’re busy
I’ve come to realize that just because I may be ready to talk to someone doesn’t mean that they are available to talk to me.
People get caught up with life. They may not prioritize their social life or love life as much as you do right now.
That’s okay because everyone is on their own journey and if your crush is trying to handle the demands in their life, it’s only natural to factor in the possibility that they are ignoring you because they are too swamped with their own life.
But, let’s be frank, surely someone can find a minute to text you back in their day or at least within a few days.
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4. They met someone else
This one stings because not many things suck or hurt as much as unrequited love.
Throughout my life, I kind of felt like love would naturally be returned. I struggled to truly grasp the idea that one-sided love is a part of reality.
When I finally did, I was able to make peace with it. This occurred in my very late teens.
Your crush could be ignoring you because they’re crushing or in love with someone else.
It’s highly possible and it happens all the time.
What I want you to know is that this doesn’t mean that you are undeserving of love. It doesn’t make your crush a bad person.
It doesn’t mean that you have to feel bad about yourself.
5. They’re upset with you
I’ll be the first to admit that love can make us do silly things at times.
We don’t necessarily measure our infatuated ideas and behavior against reality and that can be problematic.
Perhaps your crush actually likes you as well but you engaged in some form of behavior that was upsetting.
Perhaps he or she doesn’t like you but is angry with you for doing something.
Look back at the last few interactions you had with your crush and try to objectively determine whether there’s any cause for anger.
If so, then it’s highly likely that your crush is ignoring you because they are upset with you.
Just to summarize, the reason why your crush is ignoring you is that they don’t like you or feel the same level of attraction as you do. Alternatively, they’re busy, they met someone else or they’re upset with you for some reason or the other.
It could be any of the reasons above and you would have to look at the situation objectively to find the real answer.
What you shouldn’t do is chase after your crush like a crazy person during this time.
If you have double texted, that’s fine. Leave it at that.
When they are ready to get back to you, I’m sure they will and you would have prevented yourself from appearing desperate.
But, if they don’t get back to you, then that is an answer in itself.
Even in that situation, you would have saved yourself embarrassment from chasing after someone who wasn’t interested in you.
With that being said, I hope this article on ‘why is my crush ignoring me?’ was insightful and helpful to you. If you have a specific question, head over to the comment section below and let me know. If you’d like email coaching, please check out my services page for more information.
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