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Why Has He Read My Message But Not Replied? (The Truth)

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Why has he read my message but not replied?

This question precedes a period of confusion, anxiety and fear. It’s natural to be concerned, especially if you weren’t expecting him to read and not reply to you. In this article, we are going to discuss the reasons why he read your message but chose not to reply.

More often than not, he ignores your text for one of the following reasons:

  1. He’s busy.
  2. He got distracted before he could reply.
  3. He’s angry with you.
  4. He’s ghosting you.
  5. He has lost interest in you.
  6. He’s dating someone else.
  7. He doesn’t know what to say to you.

There are certain signs and patterns that provide clues as to which reason applies to your case.

Sometimes, it’s a sign that points towards something unfortunate and upsetting whereas other times, it’s not a big deal and is rectified within a day or two.

What you don’t want to do is chase him or lash out because that will never work to your advantage. 

With that being said, let’s take a closer look at all the possible reasons why he read your message but didn’t reply.

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7 Reasons Why He Read Your Message But Didn’t Reply

reasons why he read your message but didn't reply

1. He’s busy.

When a man is disciplined, mature and responsible, he will spend his time on highly valuable activities or in the pursuit of accomplishments.

Due to the nature of his character, he shouldn’t have time to sit around all day texting people.

That’s actually a red flag unless he is already successful and runs a business that requires him to be on his phone all the time.

Even then, it doesn’t mean that he’s on his phone for leisure. 

It’s possible that he’s busy and has decided to reply to you when he can give you his full attention.

Usually, within a few hours or by the end of his day, he should get back to you and his texting should return to normal.

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2. He got distracted before he could reply.

There will be times when he may read your message but get pulled away by something that requires focus.

Perhaps he had to drive off somewhere or he just entered a meeting.

He could be having a meal or pulled away for a conversation in person.

All of these possibilities would explain why he has read your message but not replied.

If this is the case, it should be a singular incident and he ought to reply to your message as soon as he can.

When he does reply, he’s most likely to apologize and explain why he forgot to reply to your text even though he read it.

But, if you find that this keeps happening and he takes days to reply to your messages, then it’s indicative of something else.

3. He’s angry with you.

Anger manifests itself in different ways in people. Some people choose to express their anger verbally whereas others close up altogether.

It could be possible that in his anger, he has decided to stop replying to you.

This is especially true if he appeared cold or annoyed in his previous texts.

If that is the case, he probably won’t reply to you until he cools off or you make amends with him for whatever it is you’ve done that has upset him.

Sometimes, all it takes is a text asking if something is wrong to open up a person who is angry with you.

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4. He’s ghosting you.

As much as we can all agree that phones have enriched our lives in so many ways, there are some cons that ruin the experience altogether.

Ghosting is the act of fading away from someone without explanation. A person will stop reading and replying to all your messages.

Sometimes, they go so far as to block you from every social media site and leave no point of access open to you.

The fact that someone can randomly ghost you without saying goodbye or providing closure in the form of a simple text message is indicative of their character, or lack thereof.

There aren’t many signs that point to someone who will ghost you but typically, a slow fade is noted.

Messages start to slow down and they become extremely vague in their replies.

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5. He has lost interest in you.

A man who was once interested in you can lose all interest over time.

Unfortunately, this is one of the realities of searching for love.

Someone may exhibit a high level of interest in you early on and over time, that interest will diminish and disappear altogether.

The problem isn’t necessarily with you.

Sometimes, people have an idea or fantasy of who they want us to be during the early days of courtship.

As they get to know us, it becomes apparent that who we are is not congruent with the idea or fantasies they have.

Naturally, they’re going to lose interest because we are not their type.

It doesn’t mean that who we are and what we have to offer are not good enough. It’s just not what he’s looking for and so he stopped replying to your messages.

6. He’s dating someone else.

Unless you have an honest conversation with a man about expectations during the courtship, you should just assume that he’s talking to other women.

It’s not ideal but it’s reality.

This is probably why it’s not a good idea to get attached to someone too quickly until they seem to be invested in getting to know you on a serious level.

He might have grown more interested in or in love with another girl, or perhaps an ex has reappeared.

This would explain his sudden disappearance and lack of replies to your texts, especially if you catch him online for extended periods of time.

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7. He doesn’t know what to say to you.

Nothing frustrates me more than one-sided conversations or close-ended text messages with someone who wants to develop a romantic relationship with me.

It is interpreted as a lack of interest or a lack of communication skills.

Either way, it destroys rapport and ruins attraction.

If they can’t have a good conversation, I advise people to refrain from texting. 

Opt for calls instead. 

I wouldn’t waste my time with someone who sends me texts that lack effort or interest. 

Examine your text messages to figure out if they came across as boring, uninteresting, or close-ended.

Should You Double Text Him?

No. Do not double text him unless you’re genuinely concerned about his safety and it has been more than a few days since he read your message but didn’t reply.

The reason why you don’t want to double text him is because it has the potential of coming across as needy and desperate.

Communication in a relationship should look a lot like a game of tennis or badminton.

Once you have hit the ball over to their side of the court, the only thing you have to do is wait until they hit the ball back.

If they don’t, the game comes to an end.

There are a few exceptions to this rule but in most cases, it doesn’t make sense to chase a guy who is showing a lack of interest, investment and care for you.

Unless you have done something to upset him or caused him to lose interest due to a lack of effort on your part, there is no good reason for you to double or triple text him.

The last thing that you want to do is teach him that ignoring you will be rewarded with more of your attention, affection and time.

If he still cares about you and hasn’t met someone else, he’ll reply to you and make things right.

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Final Thoughts

This brings us to the end of our discussion on the reasons why he has read your message but not replied.

I hope that you have found the answer you were looking for and that you are able to respond to this situation in an appropriate manner.

Please listen to me when I say this.

Do not waste your time on someone who considers you to be a low priority in their life.

You deserve so much more from a man, especially if you are a great woman.

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