It’s natural to assume that a guy who likes you will call to speak to you. But, that’s not always the case and it can take you by surprise. You may start to doubt his feelings and that uncertainty could drive you crazy. So, in this article, I’m going to share some of my thoughts on why guys don’t call when they like you.
I can almost certainly assure you that it’s one of the following reasons why guys don’t call when they like you.
Here’s a look at what we are going to discuss in this article:
- He’s shy.
- He’s socially awkward.
- He’s afraid of being clingy or nerdy.
- He’s busy.
- He prefers to talk in person.
- He doesn’t like you.
- He’s lazy and expects you to call.
- He’s angry.
With that being said, let’s talk about these reasons why guys don’t call when they like you in more detail so that you can decide on how to deal with this issue.
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1. He’s shy
As a former shy guy, I can attest to the fact that it’s difficult for us to call girls we like because of the sheer nerves that are experienced beforehand.
We absolutely want to call you but the problem is that we are unable to handle those feelings of shyness and that prevents us from dialing your number.
You may notice that even when you call guys who are shy, they often struggle to be animated or they seem on edge and it is usually because of how taken aback they are by the call.
I’m willing to bet that as time goes on and he starts to feel more comfortable around you, he’ll call you up more often!
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2. He’s socially awkward
On the flip side to being shy, socially awkward guys just don’t enjoy or seek out certain social interactions.
They want to call you and have a great conversation but they just feel awkward about it. To avoid awkwardness and discomfort, they often choose to not call when they like you.
It’s not a sign of disinterest.
They’re just trying to preserve their image in your eyes because they’re afraid of saying stupid or embarrassing things on a call.
Similar to guys who are shy, it takes some time before they reach a level of comfort that affords them the ability to call you when they feel like it.
The only difference is that socially awkward guys may still end up having awkward experiences on the call with you because that’s just the way they are right now.
3. He’s afraid of being clingy or needy
Trust me when I tell you that most guys experience rejection from being too clingy or needy at some point in their life.
Some guys find a healthy balance, some don’t change anything whereas others end up backing off completely and take a very laid-back approach in future relationships.
In fact, I’m actually one of those guys who tries to avoid being clingy or needy at all costs but often at the risk of coming across as disinterested or lazy.
If he genuinely likes you but doesn’t call because he’s afraid of being clingy or needy, all you have to do is let him know that you’d feel more loved or wanted if he made the effort to call you at times.
That should be more than enough to inspire him to take the initiative and call you instead of waiting for you to call.
As a side note, one of the telltale signs that you’re dealing with a guy who is afraid of being clingy or needy is if he always takes your calls and doesn’t blow you off.
Clearly, he wants to talk to you or else he wouldn’t answer your calls all the time or be so chatty.
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4. He’s busy
Depending on the nature of his job and the demands in his life, I wouldn’t rule out the possibility that he’s just too busy to call.
I think this is especially true during short phases in life when there’s just an unprecedented amount of work and issues that he suddenly has to deal with.
The problem is that it shouldn’t be an ongoing issue.
If he can’t make time to call you, how is he going to make time to maintain a relationship with you?
This is a valid question and it’s something that he has to work on.
You can’t be the only one to put in all the effort and work.
That will leave you with a very dissatisfied feeling in your heart.
Being busy may be a temporary reason for why he isn’t calling you but not a good enough reason for an ongoing lack of effort.
5. He prefers to talk in person
If he’s not busy or shy, then the next logical deduction is that he’s just not the type of person to enjoy phone calls.
In fact, there are a lot of people who would prefer to text over speaking on the phone.
They may call you to set dates or to make arrangements but not to socialize.
These types of men would much rather communicate in person and save their stories for those dates.
If so, that doesn’t seem like a big problem and perhaps you can find a healthy balance with him if he’s willing to call you at times.
6. He doesn’t like you
Up until now, we’ve explored a bunch of possible reasons why he doesn’t call you when he likes you but we would be remiss not to entertain the possibility that he actually doesn’t like you.
You may feel like he does and you may want him to like you but if his actions say otherwise, you should not ignore it.
If his lack of calls is also accompanied by a lack of enthusiasm to text or meet you and it’s an ongoing issue, then it’s safe to say that he doesn’t like you.
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7. He’s lazy and expects you to call
There is the possibility that he absolutely loves and adores you but just doesn’t call you because he’s lazy.
Perhaps, you made all of the efforts earlier on and now he is in a routine.
Men are creatures of habit and we tend to fall into comfort zones when we feel like we are in a safe space, especially in a relationship.
Unfortunately, we guys tend to take what we have for granted and stop making an effort because we just expect you to be happy with calling.
If this happens to be the case with your guy, then you absolutely need to call him out on this and make it known that you expect him to start making an effort to meet you halfway.
Thereafter, monitor his behavior to determine if he actually calls.
If he does, then this was indeed the reason why he doesn’t call when he likes you.
If he doesn’t, then you know that it’s an issue pertaining to his feelings.
8. He’s angry
If he doesn’t want to call you, see you or text you and this was not how things were, then there’s the possibility that he’s angry with you or upset.
Some guys have an unhealthy relationship with anger and instead of problem-solving, they turn to silence and brooding.
If you feel like there’s a reason for him to be angry or upset with you, then that could be why he doesn’t call you even when he likes you.
He’s probably waiting for you to call him.
Trust me when I tell you that I can absolutely sympathize with you about feeling upset and confused regarding this issue.
But, if he genuinely likes you, then this is not something that you have to really worry about and it can be fixed with a simple conversation.
A lot of us guys tend to be simpletons at these nuances in a relationship but I can assure you that the right guy will make an effort once he knows how you feel.
On the off chance that the reason why he doesn’t call you is that he doesn’t like you, then you don’t need to waste your time and effort on him.
There are going to be even better guys who would be dying to call you.
I promise you!
With that being said, I hope you found this article on why guys don’t call when they like you to be informative and helpful. Be sure to leave your questions or thoughts in the comment section below.
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