The fact that you are thinking about why girls don’t like you is a testament to your desire to improve. It tells me that you are willing to fix your mistakes and improve your game. That’s more than enough to get you started.
The truth of the matter is that girls don’t like you because you’re either acting too desperate, boring, selfish, disrespectful, weak, and so forth.
I understand how difficult it is to recognize these traits in yourself. I’ve been there myself. But life is about self-actualization and growth.
Both of which require an openness to self-critique and analysis.
Be that as it may, I took the liberty of compiling a list of the top 10 reasons why girls don’t like you, along with a solution for each of these problems.
Why Do Girls Not Like Me?
1. You act desperate
If confidence is the most attractive feature in a guy, desperation would be the most unattractive.
When someone is desperate, it implies that they can’t get what they want. And if they can’t get what they want, there must be a reason for it.
Once this kind of thought enters a girl’s mind, it’s game over for you.
The other problem with appearing desperate is that it makes a girl feel like you’re just interested in her because you can’t get anyone else, not because she is special.
There’s no way attraction is going to develop when such thoughts are running rampant.
You’ll never know what it feels like to have a girl chase you if all you do is chase them.
2. You’re boring
The most valuable currency you have to offer in a relationship isn’t money; it’s feelings.
Your ability to make a girl feel a variety of different feelings will depend on just how interested and attracted she feels towards you.
Far too many guys take an uninterested and boring approach to dating.
They assume their looks or financial capabilities are enough to make a girl fall head over heels in love.
It really isn’t.
Perhaps some women are more driven towards those things, but the majority are more interested in the quality of the experience and the person.
In which case, try to spice things up.
Be ‘unpredictable’ by trying new things, visiting new places, and stepping out of your comfort zone.
3. You don’t groom or take care of yourself
To some extent, we are all superficial. But that doesn’t necessarily mean you have to look like a movie star to land the girl you want.
If anything, what you need is confidence.
And a typical sign of confidence is being well groomed.
It indicates that you care about yourself. You are willing to make the effort to look good because you believe you can.
That matters in the world of attraction.
My advice to you would be this: spend an extra 10 minutes styling your hair, shaping or shaving your facial hair, wearing well-fitted clothes, and smelling nice.
4. You’re rude and selfish
I have witnessed some of my friends literally talk a girl out of liking them without even realizing it.
Oh, by the way, these were girls who had a genuine interest in and attraction for these friends of mine before they ruined it.
Without proper communication skills, it’s very hard to nurture and build attraction, let alone a relationship.
Simply consider someone else’s feelings before you say something related to how they look or act.
Take this piece of advice and learn it by heart: if you have nothing good to say, say nothing at all.
5. You are disrespectful
With respect comes care. Being respectful takes into account the feelings of others around you. It adds a layer of thought and consideration before you do or say something.
Now, when you lack respect for others, it’s very easy to do things that hurt people and create a very poor image of you for other people.
Women may put up with a guy who can say rude things, but only up until a certain point.
The moment you step into the territory of disrespect, that’s when any woman with self-respect will disqualify you without question.
6. You have no confidence
I challenge you to ask as many girls as you want the following question: What do they find most attractive in a man?
I’m willing to bet that confidence will be the most popular answer.
Confidence is considered to be the most attractive feature in a man. Why? Because confidence comes with self-acceptance.
Being able to take ownership of your strengths and weaknesses is a rare trait in this day and age.
You’ll often find men who are confident, assertive, fun, engaging, and sure of themselves.
7. You place girls on a pedestal
Nice guys tend to be the most guilty of this crime. Rather than treating a girl like a person, nice guys go above and beyond to treat her like a celestial being.
Where things go off the rail is when they sacrifice their own needs, wants and self respect to always cater to the girl.
At that point, you’ve created a power dynamic that is beyond reconciliation.
You’ve placed her so far up while you’re down in the dumps. She won’t even notice you. That’s when you find yourself constantly getting stuck in the friendzone.
Because you’ve valued her much higher than your own self.
How are you going to act normal or stand up to her when she is wrong if you’re just a humble peasant talking to a goddess?
That’s some food for thought.
8. You don’t stand up for yourself
If you can’t stand up for yourself or what you believe in, how are you to stand up for your girl?
When it comes to standing up for yourself, it’s not about being confrontational. It’s about having courage. The courage to face your fears because you strongly believe in something.
That is a sign for confidence and self-respect.
It may even require standing up for yourself when a girl is treating you poorly.
Not only will she find you more attractive but she will respect you and that is a game changer.
9. You don’t know how to flirt
There is a subtle art to flirting that I believe takes a lot of experience and willingness to change.
Often I encounter guys who are willing to try but they fail to adapt their approach irrespective of the results.
There’s no surefire way of flirting. You can’t get every girl you flirt with. Also, you will absolutely face rejection. But, if the rejection is a constant, then it’s time to change your approach.
Rather than blame the girl, be objective and analyze what you’re saying or doing. This can often shed some light on where you are messing up.
And if you’re not good at flirting in a specific way, don’t do it. Stick to a less risky way of flirting.
Refine your game and this will no longer be a reason why you can’t get a girlfriend.
10. You don’t know what you’re looking for
Have you considered the possibility that you are investing your time chasing after girls who are just not suitable for you?
As ludicrous as it sounds, this is the sort of thing that happens all the time.
I understand that we can’t help who we are attracted to. But, you can change the things you feel attracted for by developing yourself as a person.
Through maturity and self-awareness, you can draw up a list of things you want in an ideal partner.
This list can be your guiding force.
With time, what you will find is that your mind and attraction signals start to synchronize with the description of the most ideal girl for you.
At that point, not only will you have a clearer image of what you’re looking for, but the type of woman you invest in will be far more suitable for you than before.
What You Can Do Right Now
Through self-mastery, all that you desire in life can be achieved. Personally, I realized in my early 20’s that you cannot find happiness in another person.
True happiness is found within oneself.
Achieving that requires a massive amount of work on personal development but surprisingly, it is the work itself that brings about the greatest sense of peace, joy and happiness.
When a woman comes in contact with a man who attains a level of self-mastery, his discipline and purpose-driven demeanor will be magnetic.
Spend as much time as you can finding happiness by yourself and watch how your romantic life starts to prosper.
It’s okay to have flaws and weaknesses. We all do. And I understand how some societal norms can encourage us to feel bad about ourselves.
But that is not a good enough reason to roll over and give up.
If anything, we must work harder to find peace and self acceptance even amidst all the self-defeating chatter.
My best advice to you is to build a better relationship with yourself.
Once you start to recognize everything you are capable of achieving and the gifts you have been blessed with, that’s when most of the problems you face with girls right now will fade away.
And they won’t just like you, they will absolutely love you.