It’s confusing and unsettling when a guy who pursued you and constantly made an effort to talk suddenly stops texting you. You’re left without any answers and the only question running through you mind is this, why did he stop texting me?
He stopped texting you because he lost interest in you. Most of the time, a man will lose interest in a woman when she plays too hard to get or if she does too many things to turn him off. Additionally, he may have met someone else who he likes more.
Understandably, you’re confused and hurt. Anyone in this situation would feel the same way. All you’re looking for is some answers so that you can either try to win him back or move on with your life.
I hope that in this article, I can shed some light from a man’s perspective as to why he stopped texting you.
If there’s one thing I hate about this digital era we live in, it’s the concept of ghosting. Half the time, you can’t even predict when or if it will happen. One minute he’s hot and heavy and the next he’s gone.
I’d just like to emphasize that it’s not always your fault. You could have done everything perfectly and he may still stop texting you and disappear. This is particularly the case when you are dealing with a man who is a commitment phobe, a player or afraid of confrontation.
With that being said, let’s take a closer look at all the reasons why he stopped texting you.
1. You played too hard to get
During the early phase of courtship, being a challenge can be very attractive and make a man chase you. Most human beings tend to place a higher value on things and people who are hard to get.
But, that’s only half the equation. Most people quit chasing and texting someone when their effort is not rewarded enough.
A man will only stay interested in you for as long as he feels like there’s an end goal. When he starts feeling as if you’re not interested or that he can’t get you, he’ll walk away.
It’s okay to play hard to get but only if you give him enough to stick around. At a certain point, you have to start making an effort and open some doors for him to progress in the relationship.
2. You were rude and insulting
Love and attraction develop through great shared experiences and mutual affection. When a woman does a 180 and turns disrespectful, any man with a shred of self respect will walk away and not put up with that sort of behavior.
You have to be honest with yourself and think about whether you said or did something rude and insulting that hurt his feelings.
Everyone is susceptible to getting hurt, irrespective of how tough he may seem.
3. You were boring and predictable
Imagine doing and saying the same thing every single day without fail, wouldn’t you get bored of it? I would. Relationships are meant to be fun. They add happiness and joy to life but when someone acts like a wet blanket all the time, the relationship turns boring and ultra predictable.
I always advocate the need for spontaneity and a bit of mystery in all relationships.
The uncertainty builds anticipation and sexual attraction which are very beneficial, especially if you’re trying to keep a man texting you, let alone chasing you.
Don’t regurgitate the same responses to him all the time.
Trust me when I tell you that it doesn’t matter how hot or beautiful you are, if your personality is the equivalent of a dry wall, guys will lose interest in you all the time.
I hate to be so straightforward like this but it’s the truth. I want you to have the best relationships possible with men who make you incredibly happy. That can only happen if I’m honest with you and you’re willing to consider my advice.
Change things up a bit.
- Let loose from time to time.
- Flirt with him.
- Tease him.
- Text him at different times than you normally do.
- Step out of your comfort zone.
These little changes will keep him texting you.
Related post: 15 proven ways to make him miss you
4. He met someone else
Sometimes, you can do everything by the book and be on your best behavior but that may still not be enough to keep a hold of him. Why? Well, because he met someone else who he feels more attracted to and their chemistry is stronger.
It sucks. I get it. To see a guy transition from texting you excitedly to ignoring you can be so jarring. But, it’s not your fault.
You don’t want to waste your time on a guy who is so easily swayed by the sight of another girl who gives him some attention. Nowadays, it’s so easy to meet people online but hard to fall in love because not many people are willing to put in the time to truly connect and build something special with someone.
Whereas in the old days, it was harder to meet people but easier to fall in love because people were so excited and willing to make a better effort when they met someone remotely interesting.
Just because he met someone else and stopped texting you doesn’t mean that he’ll fall in love with her. Which is why I strongly encourage you to actually do nothing.
5. He is confused about his feelings
When a man is overwhelmed by his feelings, he will often run into his ‘Batcave’ to reassess his life and figure out what he wants. Some men will just run for the hills until they realize that what they lost is far greater than expected.
There’s very little that you can do about this other than wait for him out and carry on with your life. You can double text him but if he is ignoring you, then the best thing to do is nothing.
Give him the silence he desires. This will either bring him running back to you or send him off for good.
Either way, the outcome is good for you. If he comes back, he truly cares about you and values your worth. If he doesn’t, you just saved yourself from wasting more effort and time on a guy who was not meant for you.
6. He’s a player
I saved the worst for last. Players have the tendency of disappearing when they find someone new. They’re not tied to one single person, despite how caring they may seem.
Don’t be fooled by a player – they are incredibly manipulative.
A tell tale sign of an untrustworthy guy is when he disappears and stops texting you only to come back after a week or more acting as if nothing changed and that he missed you.
He’ll make up an excuse, convince you of giving him another shot only to do it all over again.
How to make him regret ignoring you
The first thing you should do is get out of the mindset of trying to figure out what you did wrong. That’s not to say that you shouldn’t learn from your mistakes and improve your game. That’s the point of this entire article on why did he stop texting me.
But, to win him back or to maintain your self-respect and dignity, you need to draw on your dignity and ignore him.
It’s probably the last thing you want to do. In fact, your go-to reaction is to chase after him in hopes of convincing him of your worth.
But, that will only devalue your worth. A woman who truly values her time will not waste it chasing after a man who doesn’t realize her worth.
Instead, you should be focusing on yourself and on the people who want to be in your presence. I know, it’s hard to ignore someone who made you feel rejected but it’s something we must all learn to do.
If he comes back after weeks, make him wait for a significant amount of time before texting him back.
Wait him out until he is forced to double text you and then only engage with him. This will also teach him a lesson – If he takes you for granted, he will lose you.
I’d strongly recommend you read about the no contact rule for more information on how not talking to him after he rejects or ignores you will bring him back or help you move on.
With that being said, I hope you found this article to be insightful and informative. If you have any questions, feel free to leave them in the comment section below.
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