I’m willing to bet that what happens when you stop chasing her will blow your mind. We’re all so accustomed and brainwashed by pop media to believe that chasing women will make them want us. That couldn’t be further from the truth.
In reality, what happens when you stop chasing her is that she gets taken aback. It makes her reconsider her opinion of you and greatly improves your chances of winning her back.
In the past, I chased after women who rejected or dumped me and it blew up in my face.
Not only did they reject me again but it made me feel like shit about myself.
And when I think about all the times that I had a wonderful relationship, there was hardly any chasing involved at all.
Those went on to be some of the best relationships I’ve had in my life, without having to bed or plead for anything!
I can honestly say that when I stopped chasing women and started behaving like a man who is confident and emotionally strong, my entire life changed.
Why you shouldn’t chase her
The biggest problem is that you run the risk of looking desperate, weak, needy and clingy.
All of these traits are grossly unattractive to women.
You see, most women want a man who is strong, confident and ambitious.
To have these traits, you must be pursuing your dreams and goals in life.
This means that you won’t have the time to be chasing after anyone, let alone someone who has rejected or dumped you. You’re far too busy developing yourself into a successful and fulfilled individual who is living the life of his dreams.
A man of this nature has an abundance mentality. He knows that there are many people who would love to be in his presence.
His self respect and dignity prevents him from belittling himself by chasing after people who barely see him as a man of value.
The worst thing about this situation is that you end up rewarding someone for subpar behavior.
You should only be making an effort on people who enjoy your company and love the man that you are.
For these reasons, it is imperative that you practice emotional self control and avoid chasing her.
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What will she do when you stop chasing her
At first, you’ll hear nothing from her. Don’t expect her to suddenly have a change of heart.
The effects are gradual and cumulative.
Meaning that as the days pass by, she’ll start to think about you more and reconsider her position.
When enough time has lapsed, not only will she be thinking about you but the bad impression you made will start to fade.
This is how the power of silence can fix a bad situation in your romantic life.
At the back of her mind, she started to assume that you will always be chasing her.
This fed her ego. But, when you walk away or reduce your effort, it unsettles her. She begins to question her own value in your eyes.
Now, she’ll wonder whether you were actually as into her as she thought.
This will have a positive effect on her level of attraction because you have reinserted mystery and uncertainty into the situation.
What we know about being mysterious is that it created excitement and thrill.
Most people who chase others tend to destroy any and all mystery from the relationship.
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How to stop chasing her
You must eliminate the constant text messages and calls.
It’s okay if you double texted her under specific circumstances but you should always wait for her to respond to your initial texts and missed calls.
Allow me to use tennis as an analogy. When you hit the ball into the other side of the court, you have the wait for the other player to hit it back.
If you keep swinging, you’re only hitting air and wasting energy. You’re also investing more in your play than needed. This will frustrate and exhaust you. When a player gets frustrated, they start making mistakes and acting impulsively.
This is what happens when you constantly chase her with texts and calls. Unless she’s willing to hit the ball back at you, there’s no point in constantly swinging.
Secondly, stop trying to win her validation. You don’t need to agree with everything she says and does.
If anything, when she does something disrespectful, it is imperative that you not tolerate this behavior.
Stand up for yourself respectfully. This will make her respect you far more than being a nice guy who has no opinion of his own.
Additionally, stop complimenting and throwing her up. There’s a fine line between flirting and being creepy.
Women are inundated with compliments from guys. She doesn’t need you to tell her she’s beautiful. Open her inbox or comment section on images and you’ll find many people already doing that.
The only time you should compliment her is when you are being sincere and genuine. Also, do so when you actually sense a good connection between the two of you. Definitely compliment her if you’re in a relationship but that’s about it.
Lastly, stop trying to tie her down to a commitment. No amount of negotiating will convince her to be exclusive with you until she’s ready.
Instead, focus on having a fun time with her.
When the connection and chemistry reach boiling point, she’ll exhibit all the signs of wanting a relationship. Heck, she may come outright and ask you for one.
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The amount of self respect you will gain from not chasing her will be irreplaceable. If I could turn back the clock, I would adopt this mentality without even a sliver of doubt.
Take all that effort you would expend on chasing her and use it to improve yourself and to connect with women who actually like you.
Trust me when I tell you that you’ll never regret the decision to stop chasing her.
When she starts to reconsider her decision or starts making more of an effort to gain your attention, focus on having fun and trying new things with her.
Show her that you are a man of confidence who has a mentality of abundance. I’m willing to bet that she will start pursuing you.
With that being said, please leave any of your thoughts or questions in the comment section below and I’ll be sure to reply as soon as possible.
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