In this article, I want to share all the scenarios of when to give up on a girl so that you avoid wasting precious time and effort on someone who isn’t meant for you. Instead, you can use those resources to find the girl of your dreams.
When I was young, I spent a significant amount of time settling for subpar behavior. This often led to disappointment and heartbreak.
It was only when I started giving up on a girl who wasted my time for almost a year that I purged this habit from my life.
Ironically, it was this action that led me towards my next girlfriend. Since then, whenever I give up on a girl, I tend to find someone better.
This has taught me a valuable lesson – sometimes you have to walk away from one thing to find something better.
And walking away from those who are not good for you is a form of self-love. You will develop a better relationship with yourself which will guide you towards finding a girl who is of high quality.
I understand that it isn’t easy to walk away from a girl you like but for your own happiness and sanity, it has to be done.
With that being said, let’s get into this article on when to give up on a girl as well as reasons why you should walk away from her.
1. When she ignores your texts
Looking back at my own love life, I realize that I wasted a ton of time during my early 20’s on girls who didn’t want to text with me.
I thought that I could charm them into having an interest in talking to me and this was counterproductive because I wasted time on them instead of investing it in girls who actually wanted to talk to me.
That’s a lesson I carry with me to this day.
I don’t reward people with my attention and texts if they ignore me or don’t make the time to talk to me.
If you want to know when to give up on a girl, start with observing her replies to you and if she ignores your texts, give up on her and walk away.
Recently, I came across an interesting statistic that reinforced this idea in my mind. The average person checks their smartphone 58 times per day. (source)
Are you telling me of those 58 times she checks her phone, she can’t respond to your texts?
Here’s the truth, it’s not that she can’t respond to your texts, it’s that she chooses not to.
So, why should you waste your precious time and energy on her?
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2. When she constantly stands you up
Texting is one thing but making the effort to meet you is a whole different ball game.
This is one of the ways to filter out the girls who genuinely like you or have an interest in you from those who are just entertaining your advances as just a pass time.
Sometimes, people cancel dates. It happens. When there’s a reasonable excuse, it’s not a big deal.
But, when someone stands you up on more than one occasion and she has made little to no effort to see you thereafter, then it’s time to give up on her.
If she stands you up and doesn’t provide a date for when she can meet you again or she comes up with another excuse for why she can’t see you soon, it might be time to reconsider your decision to pursue her.
Related post: When your girlfriend loses interest in you
3. When she gets into a relationship
The fastest way to torment yourself and to lose self-worth is by accepting to be friends with or waiting for a girl who gets into a relationship.
You cannot put your life on hold for someone who already has a serious relationship or loves someone else.
Let her pursue that relationship and exercise some respect for it.
Instead, go focus on the girls who actually like you and are available.
Not only will you have a much better time with them but you’ll have a fair chance of actually cultivating a serious relationship with one of them.
Life is far too short and precious to be spent chasing after something that isn’t meant to be.
4. When she chooses other guys over you
You could be a great guy with a ton of potential as a partner but none of that will make you feel good when she chooses other guys over you.
To me, that’s a sign of low interest and possibly even disrespect.
What you want is to be with someone who actually values you and wants to make an effort to be with you.
Things may not be perfect but with someone like this, you can actually create a beautiful relationship with.
A girl who keeps you on the back burner only to pursue other guys is not worth your time because she doesn’t see your true worth.
And since she won’t, you might as well acknowledge your worth by withdrawing your time and effort from her and investing it in someone who actually deserves it.
In this case, I would strongly advocate giving up on a girl who behaves in this manner.
5. When she refuses to treat you with respect
Respect is one of the most important components of any relationship.
There have been times in my life when I put up with some pretty disrespectful behavior from girls and that really hurt me.
I traced the problem back to my own self worth.
You have to recognize that as someone who tries to respect others, you deserve the same kind of effort from others in your circle.
If someone refuses to respect you and is rude, insulting, offensive or degrading, then it’s on you to attach consequences for their behavior.
In my own experience, walking away and giving up on a girl who is repeatedly disrespectful is the only solution.
There’s a difference between working through problems with a girl and allowing yourself to be blatantly disrespected and undermined.
Related post: 15 Signs she doesn’t love you anymore
6. When she ghosts you
Ghosting is the coward’s way out of taking responsibility for the end of a relationship of any sort with someone.
Granted, people do opt for this approach online to avoid rejecting you in such a way that it hurts you.
But, ghosting results in the same pain except without the respect of being told that they aren’t interested.
I’ve been ghosted on and I’ve ghosted people.
The only time I’ve done it is when I wasn’t truly all that interested in that person and I regret that behavior.
So, I’m telling you to give up on a girl when she ghosts you, especially repeatedly, because she really isn’t all that into you.
Related post: Why ghosters always come back
7. When she keeps lying to you
Trust is another essential and non-negotiable component of any relationship. Without it, you don’t have much.
You can’t be exercising this much effort on someone who keeps lying to you.
Trust me, I get why it can be difficult to be honest when you’re in a bad position.
Our instincts are to take the easy and safest route out but the only way for a relationship to survive and thrive is to do what’s hard.
Even if that means being honest about making mistakes.
For her to be constantly lying means that she’s not willing to do what’s difficult to be a better partner and person.
If she lies constantly and without remorse, it might be time to give up on her because you can’t force someone to be better.
8. When she rejects you
When you constantly chase a girl who rejects you, it has detrimental consequences. For one, you take the risk of appearing as a desperate stalker.
Secondly, you undermine your own self worth.
Well, because someone who respects themselves and who values their self-worth wouldn’t chase after someone who doesn’t recognize their worth.
Someone with a good sense of self-worth and self-respect is too busy pursuing their goals and surrounding themselves with people who actually make an effort to be with them.
For me, this was a huge reason to give up on girls after getting rejected.
I wasn’t willing to sell my soul for someone else’s validation and attention.
It would just enforce these ideas that I don’t deserve better and that is dangerous.
More than anything, I just feel like you shouldn’t reward someone for rejecting you by chasing after them.
I hope I have managed to convince you of when to give up on a girl by sharing some of my experiences and thoughts on the topic.
Trust me when I tell you that I get emails on a daily basis from guys who are chasing after girls who are not good for them and I have to point it out.
There comes a time when you have to pack up and move on.
Most of the time, when you give up on a girl, you end up finding someone way better who actually wants to be in your life.
So, to me, I look at this as not giving up but actually choosing someone better suited for me.
If you don’t look out for yourself, who will?
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