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What To Do If Your Crush Doesn’t Reply

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Having a crush on someone feels unbelievable. It’s nearly impossible not to fantasize about them or be inundated with butterflies in your stomach. But then they stop replying to your texts. You start to feel extremely anxious as a result of this, and all you can think about is what you should do in the event that your crush doesn’t reply.

If you messaged your crush once and they haven’t responded, make sure you gave them enough time to respond. Perhaps they are busy and unable to text you back. But if it has been many hours or days and they have been online, then you need to just wait for them to reply.

Give it about a week before reaching out again. However, I must emphasize that you should reach out after a few days if you only texted them once.

If you have sent two or three consecutive texts without receiving a reply, don’t reach out to your crush ever again unless they initiate a conversation with you.

Most people immediately experience feelings of confusion and shock when they are told this.

However, there is some justification for this, so I believe it’s crucial that we discuss the reasons why you shouldn’t keep texting your crush if they don’t respond.

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Why You Should Stop Texting Your Crush

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There’s a basic premise to love and it goes something like this: For love to exist, respect must persist. – Zak

Regardless of how much you adore someone, a man or woman will never feel the same way about you without respect.

What this means is that all your acts of love and adoration will be perceived negatively by your crush if they do not respect you.

To a large degree, we have influence over respect.

By behaving with self-respect, we create the ideal circumstances for another person to treat us with respect.

If they choose not to, then they are not the kind of people we want to be with in any way.

But if we fail to behave with self-respect, then we create the circumstances required to make other people disrespect us.

Who do we blame for this?

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Them or ourselves?

I’m of the opinion that we are to blame because we have the responsibility to respect ourselves enough to know when someone doesn’t appreciate or deserve our time, effort and affection.

What I have noticed is that respect is lost when we give away the best parts of ourselves to people who don’t want them or never asked for them.

To put it another way, if you keep texting your crush and they don’t respond or make you wait a long time each time, you are both disrespecting yourself and supporting their behavior.

Do not confuse a passion for chemistry with a desire for approval. 

They are not the same.

When two people have the chemistry and desire to connect with each other, that is an amazing formula for love to develop.

Unfortunately, you may mistakenly believe that you fall into the first scenario due to your pursuit of and need for validation from someone who seems to be a challenge because they rarely respond to you.

It’s just not the case.

Rejection or a lack of interest drives most people crazy.

We want to feel validated and wanted, especially by people who we deem valuable and worthy.

If they appear to not feel the same way, then this need for validation stimulates emotions that feel a lot like what I described above.

It’s a mistake to lean into this chase.

More often than not, you end up facing more rejection while wasting weeks or months of your life on someone who was never truly interested to begin with.

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How To Deal With Your Crush Who Doesn’t Reply To You

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In a previous article, I mentioned how confessing your feelings to a crush is usually a bad idea. Unless they are ridiculously attracted to you or previously expressed a serious desire to be with you, it is a surefire way to get friendzoned.

Treat your crush the same way you would treat someone else you have an interest in.

What I mean by this is that you should be willing to set aside your feelings and behave as if you are courting someone you just met.

Initiate contact, wait for them to respond to you, appear emotionally mysterious and escalate things to a date each time.

Give the person a chance to miss you and don’t express romantic feelings or a desire for exclusivity unless they show some signs of wanting to be involved with you.

If they don’t reply to your text, wait a few days to a week before trying to contact them again.

By that point, if they do not reply to your second attempt at communicating with them, lose their digits and start moving on with your life.

This is what you need to do if your crush doesn’t reply. 

You could try posting fun updates or good pictures of yourself in an indirect way to get their attention but I don’t really see the point in that.

Personally, I want someone to be thinking about me because they have a high level of interest in or attraction toward me.

Granted, if someone doesn’t know you well enough, that isn’t going to be the case.

In this case, I’d say that it’s okay to do this if you can remain indifferent to whatever happens afterward.

But, for the most part, you have to be willing to walk away if your crush doesn’t show a genuine interest in getting to know you romantically.

Sometimes, by walking away, you can regain someone’s respect or trigger some degree of interest in them if they had overlooked you in the past.

In this case, distance does make the heart grow fonder.

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Final Thoughts

It may seem like the advice in this article is rather straightforward and brief but I assure you that simple behavior changes can make a significant difference in your love life.

I want you to create the expectation of mutual interest in your mind and heart instead of convincing yourself that chasing someone with a low level of interest in you is normal.

It isn’t.

We all deserve to be with someone who sees the value in us. 

The kind of happiness, security, peace and passion that come from pursuing a relationship with someone who values us in the same way that we value them far supersedes anything felt from chasing someone who seems disinterested.

Look, if you walk away and the other person has a change of heart, they’ll find a way to contact you. 

So, in the end, you wouldn’t be losing someone who actually cared about you by following the advice in this article.

Be self-respecting and practice self-love to its highest degree.

You’ll have more success in the future.

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