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It takes courage to approach a girl or confess your feelings for her. Unfortunately, it may not work out and you’ll be faced with rejection. In this article, I want to advise you on what to do after a girl rejects you to maintain your self-respect and dignity as well as how to leave the door open for her to come back and pursue you.
After a girl rejects you, take it on the chin and politely wish her well before walking away. The key is to maintain your composure and dignity by not resorting to a childish reaction. In other words, don’t give her reasons to validate her decision to reject you.
Far too many men allow rejection to alter their entire state of mind and place too much importance on it.
It’s all about having healthy self-esteem coupled with a healthy attitude about relationships and attraction.
Let’s be honest, you’re not everyone’s cup of tea nor should you be. None of us are. Sure, we may encounter someone who ticks the boxes we have but that doesn’t automatically mean that they’re right for you or that they will feel the same way about you.
When dating, I remind myself of the fact that every rejection refines my approach but also gets me one step closer to meeting the next woman who is meant for me and vice versa.
Often, men who handle rejection confidently and politely tend to attract the very same girl down the line.
Not all rejection is based on a lack of attraction.
Unless you know for certain, girls may reject you for a number of other reasons such as the following:
- She has a boyfriend.
- She has feelings for someone else.
- She’s not looking to date someone right now.
- She’s hung up on an ex.
- She doesn’t know you well enough.
- She’s dealing with a personal crisis right now.
These are valid reasons for why you may get rejected by a girl without it being a reflection of whether she actually would be interested in you if circumstances were different.
This is why it’s so important for you to handle rejection with dignity and respect because you could create the perfect situation for her to actually reach out to you in the future when circumstances change for her.
That’s not going to happen if you lash out, be rude, act overly hurt or beg and plead for her to reconsider.
It’s unattractive to handle rejection in such a way.
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How To Deal With A Girl Rejecting You
There have been times when a girl rejected me and literally hours later, send me a text to apologize for coming across as too impolite. Guess what? I went on to have dates and situationships with these girls because I handled rejection in a confident manner.
I didn’t act cold or unaffected either.
Some men attempt to act like a robot after rejection and they’ll go so far as to even call a girl unattractive afterward.
This is ridiculous and everyone knows so, especially the girl who rejected you.
You want to be genuine while also maintaining your self-respect.
Understandably, this isn’t going to be easy when you’re pursuing a girl for weeks or months and then you’re suddenly rejected.
In such a situation, it’s understandable that you’re upset.
It’s okay if you want to express that but always do so in a manner that doesn’t diminish your character.
In life, you are bound to encounter people who hurt, anger or betray you but if you allow them to affect you on such a level that you completely change and abandon your good energy, then you’ll always be susceptible to this.
What you want is to remain grounded in who you are, regardless of who crosses paths with you.
At the same time, I want to emphasize the importance of growth and maturity.
Approach each rejection or heartbreak with the mindset of growth and you’ll find lessons in every situation that helps you to find what you’re looking for.
As long as you understand the basic principle of what to do after a girl rejects you, there’s really no need for a specific quote or choice of words because no matter what you say at this point, it’s your actions that matter most.
This brings me to the most important thing you need to know on what to do after a girl rejects you.
Walk away.
Do not waste your time agreeing to be friends or sticking around despite the rejection.
When has that ever worked out for a guy?
If it has, how long did the relationship last and was he considered a top priority by the girl eventually?
Getting a girl is one thing but having a partner who values and cherishes you is another.
A man of value has little time to waste on someone who does not see his value.
It’s as simple as that.
People will repeatedly treat you in a manner that you allow.
In other words, when someone disrespects or rejects you, it is your duty to hold them accountable and draw your boundary.
In this case, you’re being rejected so it’s best for you to walk away because it’s displaying a strong sense of self-worth.
You’re sending a message that you are consistent with your wants and needs.
Men complain about being friend-zoned when they don’t have to be.
You’re not forced to be friends with a girl you like.
That’s a self-inflicted prison.
Have the self-respect and courage to walk away. It’s the only bargaining position you really have in any romantic relationship.
Unless a girl has some degree of fear that if she steps out of line you will leave her, she’ll walk all over you, especially if she’s messed up and has issues.
Here’s what you do, be respectful and calm when facing rejection, express your feelings in a controlled and honest manner without blowing up emotionally and then walk away while leaving the door open.
“That’s disappointing because I think you’re fantastic. Thank you for being honest with me. If anything changes and you’d like to explore something fun and romantic, you can hit me up. If not, it’s been great knowing you and I’ve seriously enjoyed it. Take care of yourself, alright.”
This is along the lines of how I would respond to a girl who rejects me.
I promise you, this approach leaves you with little to no regret.
When you walk away, irrespective of how she felt about you before, she’ll take note of how much respect you have for yourself and that will make her respect you to some degree.
One thing we know for sure is that a woman will never fall in love with you or be attracted to you in a serious way if she doesn’t have respect for you.
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Final Thoughts
Take it on the chin like a man. I hate to sound machismo but it’s honestly important for us men to develop a thick skin to rejection.
You cannot allow rejection to shake your core as a man.
Everyone feels fear and pain. But, those who achieve anything in life are often the ones who proceeded despite fear and rejection.
They continued to look and strive for what they wanted and felt they deserved.
Eventually, God heard their prayers and requests.
The slow-killing poison of settling in life due to the fear of rejection is far more painful than that of rejection itself.
Once you get over this fear, it becomes easier to deal with.
You’ll gain a new perspective on rejection that helps you grow as a man.
With that being said, I hope you found this article on what to do after a girl rejects you to be insightful, practical and helpful. If you have any questions or thoughts that you would like to share with me on this topic, please do so by visiting the comment section below to let me know.
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