Every relationship is susceptible to falling into a routine. Even though it’s not a dealbreaker, boredom and predictability can suck the life and joy out of a good relationship. This is why it’s imperative that you study and utilize these tips on being mysterious in a relationship.
Granted, it’s not easy to maintain an air of mystery when you’re with someone for a long time.
But, there are ways of being mysterious to the perfect degree.
Before we actually dive into these tips on being mysterious in a relationship, we need to establish our goal.
What do you want to achieve from being mysterious?
Ideally, it should be to miss each other, create some excitement and to maintain some of your independence and identity so that you don’t fall into a boring routine forever.
As soon as you and your partner start missing each other, get excited to spend time with each other and feel good about yourselves, that’s when you should make an effort to be with him or her.
Or else, you risk being too withdrawn and disconnected in the relationship to the point of it becoming a problem and pushing your partner away.
With that being said, let’s discuss these tried and tested tips on being mysterious in a relationship.
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1. Be spontaneous
Boredom is one of the most unexpected and annoying problems couples may face after being together for a long time.
It really comes down to falling into a comfort zone.
We all want to feel a sense of security, stability and comfort but what we don’t realize is that comfort is not accompanied by excitement, joy and thrill.
If you’re not getting better, you’re getting worse.
That applies to most things in life. Just because you’re okay with being in a comfortable routine, doesn’t mean your partner is.
A high level of boredom can create feelings of uncertainty and doubt about the relationship.
There’s a simple fix – Try new things.
Go out to different restaurants, experience new adventures together, meet on different occasions and times, be experimental and plan for greater things.
2. Avoid texting constantly
The problem with texting is that there isn’t much of a reward for it. Everything you say can’t stimulate someone like it would in person.
Most people make the mistake of having their best conversations on text.
When they meet, they have nothing exciting to talk about because they texted about it already.
Some distance away from each other can be healthy for a relationship.
Not only does it create some mystery because neither of you knows what the other is doing for a few hours of the day or so but it also gives both of you the opportunity to miss each other.
When two people miss each other, it’s often accompanied by a strong feeling of desire and attraction.
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3. Hold back on revealing too much of yourself at first
Understandably, the whole point of a relationship is to share yourself with someone else but that doesn’t mean you have to do so during the first few weeks of getting to know them.
In fact, it’s far more beneficial to reveal details about yourself over an extended period of time because it leaves some room for mystery and uncertainty.
This will force the other person to fantasize about you which will have a positive effect on his or her level of attraction for you.
4. Don’t talk about your feelings all the time
One of the main reasons why nice guys and girls who chase people get rejected so often is because they aren’t a challenge at all.
They come on too strong and leave very little room for uncertainty.
What they don’t realize is that uncertainty is mysterious. It creates anticipation and wonder in a relationship.
You don’t have to be a cold fish but it’s unhealthy to be expressing your feelings constantly.
You risk scaring the other person away or coming across as desperate.
Part of the excitement for falling in love is the unspoken feelings experienced between two people.
This continues to build until neither party can hold back expressing themselves.
At that point, they’re both experiencing the height of their feelings and it’s a magical moment.
Don’t steal that experience from your partner or yourself.
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5. Be open and authentic
Most of us are complex individuals.
We experience a host of different moods on a regular basis, react in unique ways to different situations and express ourselves in extraordinary ways to events and people who bring out our best and worst sides.
Show that to your partner.
Don’t try to be a pushover that never stands up for him or herself.
Another common reason why nice guys and girls get rejected, ghosted or dumped so much is because they’re always seeking approval at the expense of their own needs, wants and opinions.
There’s nothing wrong with having a different opinion compared to your partner.
If you can express this in a healthy and respectful manner, your partner will love this about you.
It adds a layer of mystery to you because he or she will not know whether you like or dislike something because you’ve had differing opinions in the past.
6. Pursue your passions
What I’ve come to realize is that it’s hard to stay mysterious, engaging, fun and full of depth when your life rotates around your relationship.
People who are content with remaining stuck in a comfort zone or being complacent are often boring.
They’re not willing to try new things, they don’t see a need in self development and they’re content with being just good enough.
The entire point of a relationship is to grow and experience life together with your loved one.
If you are not making an effort to grow or experience life, what’s the point of being in a relationship in the first place?
For your partner to remain even remotely interested in you as a person, you must work on yourself and maintain your identity as an individual.
Make a list of 100 things to do, be or become and use it to guide you through life.
This will open many doors of opportunity for you as well as marvelous memories to share with your partner.
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Why being mysterious in a relationship is important
It creates and maintains attraction
I feel like you never have to worry about getting bored with each other or with infidelity if you’re both making an effort to keep the relationship fresh and exciting.
Being mysterious is known to create excitement and anticipation. Imagine feeling super hyped and happy to see your partner regularly, wouldn’t it be amazing?
That’s what happens when you give each other some space and get busy pursuing your own goals and dreams.
There’s no need to be constantly showering your partner with love and attention. More often than not, this will burn you out and make them feel overwhelmed by your clinginess.
I’m not saying that you should completely stop this, just slow it down a bit.
Sometimes, by not constantly chasing your partner and blowing up their phone with text messages about how much you miss and love them, they may actually be the ones texting, calling and trying to meet you.
Because they miss you and desire you.
Balance is what you should strive for. Practice being mysterious in a relationship by makiong small changes over time. Don’t just disappear altogether and expect your partner to be happy when you pitch up out of nowhere days later.
Sometimes, subtlety is most effective.
Once you master the art of being mysterious enough to keep your partner engaged and excited to be around you, all you have to do is rinse and repeat the same actions for the same results.
Remember, it’s not about playing games.
Most of the tips in this article are considered normal for couples who understand how to balance their personal life and romantic life in such a way that they both thrive.
You can achieve the same thing with effort and consistency.
With that being said, I hope you found these tips on being mysterious in a relationship to be insightful and informative. Feel free to leave your thoughts or questions in the comment section below.
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