The topic of marrying for money is polarizing. People are afraid to talk about it, but should we be? Like any decision in life, there are pros and cons.
In some parts of the world, especially where arranged marriages are popularly practiced, financial standing is a focal point in the decision-making process.
It’s ridiculous to shame ourselves for having realistic conversations.
Let’s set aside societal standards and opinions for a second, and let’s discuss the pros and cons of marrying for money.
1. Financial security
The most obvious advantage of marrying for money is the promise of financial security.
It is common knowledge that one of the leading causes of divorce across the globe is financial issues.
It has the propensity to place overwhelming stress on a relationship, which is probably why the allure of a comfortable lifestyle that is free of financial concern is tempting to some.
We would be remiss not to acknowledge the benefits of financial security for a family, especially if you plan to have many kids.
2. Reduced stress
During my early teen years, I remember the amount of stress in our household because we were going through a rough time with money.
My parents argued or bickered all the time, and that didn’t help us in any way.
You wouldn’t just be signing yourself up for reduced financial stress, but also your children. In certain communities, this is a priority during the matchmaking process.
It’s difficult to turn off anxiety and stress when you’re overwhelmed by bills and obligations.
3. An exciting lifestyle
Life can get really boring and monotonous when you can’t access things outside of your pay grade.
One of the things money tends to amplify is opportunity.
Also, a wealthy spouse has the means to afford travel, a nice home, luxury items, and leisure activities.
Life is certainly easier when you are richer.
4. Access to opportunities
It’s easier to connect with people and find new opportunities for yourself when you’re around other people with power, status, money, and influence.
Perhaps you’ve had a dream of running your own business alongside your partner. That can be a reality when you marry for money.
The old adage that the rich get richer is grounded in this idea of connectivity.
People with resources band together and create more money.
1. Shallow foundation and incompatibilities
A marriage founded and built on money will always be dependent on money.
In the event that something bad were to happen, there’s a risk that the marriage falls apart because love, connection, attraction, and friendship are non-existent.
What if the rich person you marry has habits or addictions?
Can you cope with someone who is addicted to drugs, alcohol, or partying?
These are realistic questions to ask because it’s pointless to marry for money only to be stuck with a spouse who makes your life a living nightmare.
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2. Unequal power dynamics
When you marry for money and your spouse is aware of this, it has the potential to create an unequal power dynamic.
The spouse with the money can call all the shots and exercise a degree of control over their partner since they hold all the resources in the marriage.
The spouse who feels powerless and dependent will often feel claustrophobic and trapped in the marriage because they’re unable to have a voice.
3. Poor emotional connection
I struggle to see the point of a marriage without love.
There’ll always be hard times, misunderstandings, and periods of frustration in a marriage. What helps most couples weather storms and consistently fall back in love with each other is the existence of a strong emotional connection.
An emotional connection is established through mutual desires, shared values, good communication, and shared experiences.
Without it, you’ll have a marriage of convenience that never truly satisfies you emotionally, physically, or spiritually.
4. Low self-esteem and insecurity
The spouse without money will always feel threatened and insecure if marriage is built on a financial basis.
Conversely, the spouse with money will feel insecure knowing that their spouse is only with them for financial gain rather than love, attraction, connection, and desire.
This may cause both spouses to act irrationally and chaotically while battling feelings of resentment for each other.
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Both rich and poor men cheat, but rich men have far more opportunities than the latter.
Unless they’re driven by a strong moral compass grounded in religion and culture, there’s a strong chance that they’ll have other women.
Because in this materialistic and status-driven society that we live in, most women want the upper echelon of men.
Men with power, status, and money can afford to have many women.
As a woman, if you’re willing to marry for money, shouldn’t you entertain the possibility that there are other women who are willing to be a mistress or second wife for the chance to have a rich and easy life with a rich man?
These are the pros and cons of marrying for money. If you’re a woman reading this, I want you to think deeply about what makes you happy as a person.
Can you be with a man who doesn’t engage you emotionally, spiritually, and physically in exchange for a comfortable life?
The reason I ask this question is because luxury and ease become normal and uninteresting after a certain point.
You may not enjoy what money provides if you can’t stand the person you married for money.
Think about that before you commit your life to someone who can only fulfill you financially. Also, consider whether that person would feel cheated and betrayed to learn that you only married them for money.