Should you block your ex on WhatsApp or are you being overly dramatic and extreme? Some people will argue that it’s imperative that you block an ex to move on while others argue that it’s unnecessary. But, to figure out the correct answer, we need to examine the effect it may have on you and your ex instead of relying solely on opinions. Be that as it may, here’s how I feel about blocking an ex.
You should block your ex on WhatsApp if you cannot remain in contact without crossing lines, disrespecting boundaries, obsessing over each other or interfering in each other’s romantic life to the point of causing pain and suffering.
It’s ridiculously difficult to transition from lovers to friends. Most people fail or fool themselves in relation to this.
Every decision or choice we make has either a net positive or net negative in our life.
Is remaining in contact with your ex a net positive for the two of you or a net negative? Do the pros outweigh the cons?
The answer to these questions will usually paint a clear picture on whether you should block your ex on WhatsApp or not.
But, it’s going to require extreme honesty and self awareness or else you’ll convince yourself of an answer that’s easy for you rather than correct for you.
You need to read this article: 12 Reasons why you should block your ex and for how long
8 Reasons To Block Your Ex On WhatsApp
1. Talking to your ex hurts too much
Regardless of how composed and calm you are, a breakup is not easy to navigate.
You’re not just dealing with the end of your relationship but the fantasy of a future with your ex which took residence in your mind.
You’re grieving in many ways and it’s not easy to deal with.
I don’t think breakups are ever easy, even if they take place amicably.
If you were dumped, it’s going to hurt more than if you ended the relationship.
Until you’ve taken time apart to accept the breakup, rebuild your confidence and redefine your identity, it may not be a good idea for you to be talking to your ex.
I’ve noticed that people have a hard time accepting the end of a relationship when they are in constant contact with their ex over WhatsApp.
You’re going to feel bothered by the change in their texting habits with you. No longer are you the priority nor will their texts be romantic or loving.
To avoid all of these issues, it may be best for you to block your ex on WhatsApp.
That way, you don’t have to be talking to them or obsessively fixating on their online activity.
It may be an extreme reaction but if you are struggling with the breakup, it’s probably for the best.
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2. It’s preventing you from healing and moving on
“You can’t heal in the same place that made you sick.”
I’m not sure who said that but I believe this to be true.
We can go one step further by saying that you can’t heal with the same people who make you emotionally sick.
Loving someone often implies that we give them the ability to also hurt us.
It’s the risk we take with enjoying the fruits of love.
It’s a risk worth taking.
We trust that the person we love will be cautious and caring of our heart.
When they are not, it’s going to hurt.
That hurt may damage trust, temporarily or permanently.
At that point, it becomes our responsibility to decide whether we can work through that pain or if we need to leave in order to heal.
If healing requires you to part ways with your ex forever and block them off WhatsApp, you have to do it.
The downside of not blocking them is that you risk reliving the same pain and trauma caused by the breakup or their behavior.
This can lead you into a toxic spiral that never ends and results in ongoing pain and suffering for the two of you.
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3. You keep lashing out or fighting with your ex
A broken heart will really test a person’s emotional and mental fortitude. I’ve seen strong men and women turn emotionally unpredictable after a breakup. It’s sad to see but understandable. Loss requires an incredible amount of patience to overcome.
Not everyone is prone to angry outbursts but it’s something you have to take into account on a case by case basis.
Examine your moods and thoughts while talking to your ex on WhatsApp. If you feel resentment, anger, bitterness and desperation, it’s a sign that you’re not ready to be in contact with your ex.
Perhaps, those emotions have spilled over into arguments and fights that were initiated by you. The key sign is initiation. If you’re the one who blows up and initiates fights, then you should block your ex on WhatsApp.
Not to punish them but to prevent a destructive cycle from developing between the two of you.
I’m sure that the last thing you want is to turn your ex into an enemy.
For that reason, take time away to work through your feelings before considering the idea of chatting on WhatsApp again.
4. There’s a lack of respect for boundaries
Healthy boundaries create a safe and free space for us to be ourselves without hurting each other.
An issue arises when a couple breaks up and they remain in contact.
Without boundaries and adherence to them, exes run the risk of hurting each other or causing undue stress on each other.
When there’s an intention to move on or find other people, it is disrespectful and unfair for an ex to behave in a manner that is now inappropriate.
You cannot be flirting with each other, engaging in intimacy, sharing secrets or intruding on new relationships as exes.
It’s inappropriate and a recipe for disaster.
At this point, the only suitable solution is to block your ex on WhatsApp.
Either this will prevent them from disrespecting your boundaries or it will help you to avoid disrespecting your ex’s boundaries.
5. They won’t leave you alone
Rejection is known for breeding obsession.
Under certain circumstances, it can be helpful.
Being intolerant of rejection when it comes to success and persevering in the face of adversity to build a business can be an incredible feat.
But, that doesn’t translate over to matters of the heart.
One should never have to force themselves into the lives of another.
There is no such thing as persevering through someone’s rejection. It shouldn’t be that way. You should align yourself with those who are enthusiastic about having you around.
The fact that your ex refuses to accept this and continues to force himself or herself into your life is unacceptable.
Understandably, you feel guilty about ending the relationship or not wanting to reconcile.
But, that’s your right.
You aren’t forced to be with someone out of guilt or remorse.
As much as it hurts to do, you should block your ex on WhatsApp. It’s the only way you’re going to be free of this dramatic situation and it’s also an act of kindness or mercy to your ex.
You’re helping them accept and get over the breakup by closing the doors of communication.
Some people require complete closure before they can move on.
Leaving the door open even a little may be too tempting for them.
So, you don’t have much of a choice.
You have to block your ex on WhatsApp to help them move on and to help yourself move forward.
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6. They don’t have good intentions for you
Be careful of who you allow into your inner circle and who you allow to remain within it because it is a role that provides them with power to influence you in a good way or in a bad way.
When our guard is down, we are easily persuaded by the whispers of those in our circle.
I remember a time when I was going through a traumatic experience and I turned to this person who I thought was a friend.
Her advice turned a bad situation into a terrible situation.
That doesn’t automatically mean that it was her fault, right? There have been times when we have tried to help our family and friends but our advice did not result in what we hoped it would.
But, when I reflected on her advice months afterwards, it dawned on me that it’s the kind of advice I would never give to a person who was in my shoes.
I spoke to a few other people who have been amazing figures in my life and they all agreed on the same sentiment that I help.
This experience taught me a valuable lesson.
To avoid being misled and used as a guinea pig for someone else’s humor, only surround yourself closely with people who are good and people who genuinely care about you.
I don’t believe that this friend has malicious intent but she did not appreciate the situation that I was in with the same level of consideration and care that my other family and friends did.
Ultimately, it is my responsibility to filter out those who don’t really care about me and those who are not wise enough to advise me correctly.
Similarly, an ex may not be a bad person but they may not care about you in the way that you deserve.
Alternatively, their intentions may not be as pure or innocent as you assume it would be.
In communicating with them, you may be exposing yourself to advice and opinions that do not have your best interest at heart.
If you find this to be the case, you should block your ex on WhatsApp.
Don’t give yourself reason to regret not doing it later on in life.
7. It’s preventing them from moving on
We touched on this earlier but I think it’s important to speak about this again.
I am of the opinion that it is unloving and inappropriate to prevent an ex from moving on when you have no intention of reconciling with them.
Remaining in contact with your ex, knowing that it’s keeping them attached to you, is not a good thing to do if you are dead set on moving on in your life.
It is better to suffer through the breakup and deal with the effects of it than to use your ex for comfort and attention without ever intending on attempting to fix things with them.
That’s selfish and your ex deserves better than that.
Even if your ex doesn’t deserve it, the person you aspire to be deserves for you to do what’s right and noble.
At the very least, be honest about your intentions.
Don’t just communicate with your ex on WhatsApp under the false impression that you are going to reconcile.
Be better than that.
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8. It’s disrespectful to your new partner
This is going to ruffle some feathers but I have to be honest with you. Talking to an ex while you’re in a relationship is disrespectful.
What could you possibly need to talk to your ex about that you can’t talk to your partner about or to your friends and family?
Unless, of course, you have a child together. That changes things. But, even then, the majority of conversations with your ex should only be about parenting and your child.
The same energy you spend on talking to an ex could be directed to your partner, your friends, your family, your career, yourself and your purpose in life.
I’m not saying that you necessarily have to pretend like your ex is dead but you shouldn’t be talking to them on a regular basis.
If talking to your ex is getting in the way of your new relationship or distracting you from being a good partner, you should block your ex on WhatsApp.
I think you’re shooting yourself in the foot by remaining close to your ex.
To fully commit, we need to remove the idea of backup plans or orbiters from our life.
I stand by this.
If you want to have a much better chance at creating a long lasting relationship, you need to leave your exes in the past and focus on who is a priority in your life right now.
You can always unblock your ex if things don’t work out in your new relationship.
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Whatever decision you make, please be considerate and loving to yourself.
I know how difficult it is to close the door on someone you still care about, even if you were the one to end things.
But, you have to live with integrity and honesty.
And you owe it to yourself to be the most integrous and honest with yourself, first and foremost.
Often, acts of integrity are the most uncomfortable and inconvenient. But, that’s what makes integrity so valuable as a character trait.
When your intentions align with your actions, good things eventually happen, even if it causes some immediate discomfort.
Blocking your ex on WhatsApp may be uncomfortable and painful right now but it may just turn out to be the kindest thing you could do for yourself, your ex and other people.
With that being said, I hope this article on whether or not you should block your ex was helpful and eye-opening.
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