You’ve recently started talking to a girl you like or you want to make a move but you’re afraid of doing so. This makes you think, should I tell her she’s pretty?
Yes, you should tell her she’s pretty but not if you’re trying to impress her. Women get complimented all the time, especially on their looks so it’s not the kind of compliment that will win you any brownie points unless she is actually getting to know you and there’s a sincerity behind your remark.
What I can tell you with absolute certainty is that the best compliments are the sincerest ones. And women have a knack or radar for telling when a guy is being sincere about his compliments or not.
Don’t be afraid to share what you find prettiest about her.
This can be a great way of creating depth and more honesty to your compliment that resonates with her.
Be that as it may, I think it would be a good idea to discuss the reasons why you should tell her she’s pretty.
1. It feels good to receive a genuine compliment
Everyone likes to feel good, right? And to some degree, appreciation for the effort we make to look good is something to be praised and not embarrassed about.
In my opinion, a genuine compliment comes from the heart.
It doesn’t feel generic or forced. When you feel like she’s looking beautiful or pretty, state it to her enthusiastically and appreciatively.
Don’t just compliment her to gain her approval or acceptance.
A compliment that is sincere doesn’t really have any ulterior motive behind it other than to make someone feel good about themselves.
And if you ask me, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that.
2. It shows interest
The best way to show interest in someone, especially during the early stages of courtship, is to be subtle and use certain actions, words or gestures.
One of the most popular ways of showing interest in a woman is through a compliment on her appearance.
Women are also aware that men are, to some degree or the other, physical creatures.
When we see someone who we find to be physically attractive, it is in our nature as men to admire.
Not all compliments translate to an interest in wanting to be with someone but in this case, if it is your intention to do so, then she’ll get the message.
3. It builds chemistry and fondness
At the end of the day, our social needs often lead back to one basic feeling and that is happiness.
We want to feel good about ourselves and the people who bring about that feeling are the ones we like to connect with and stay in contact with.
Granted, this doesn’t always mean that we surround ourselves with the best of people but even then if we look at what drives someone to stick around with someone or people who are not the best, it usually stems from that feeling of happiness.
Chemistry and fondness is the byproduct of happiness.
Telling her she’s pretty a simple way of creating a good vibe between you and her.
She’ll think more fondly of you because we are usually accustomed to receiving compliments from people who are nice to us and that makes us fond of them.
4. It nurtures the feeling of appreciation in relationships
Let’s say that you’re actually in a relationship and you haven’t been very complimentary or expressive with your lady.
This really seems to be the case with men who have been with someone for an extended period of time.
We tend to feel like our partners already know that we find them attractive.
However, what we fail to realize is that knowledge does not eliminate the benefits of expression.
In other words, just because she knows that you find her beautiful doesn’t mean that she won’t feel appreciated, noticed and loved for being called pretty.
This is why it is imperative that you remember all the things you did when courting her.
Those same romantic behaviors and habits will serve you well in a long romance.
Everyone wants to feel noticed and appreciated, irrespective of how long they’ve been in our lives.
A son always wants to make his father proud.
Irrespective of how old he becomes and how often he hears it, being told that he has made his father proud is a feeling of appreciation and empowerment that is always valued.
Similarly, telling her that she’s pretty is a simple reminder of the appreciation you have for the effort she makes to look beautiful.
Situations when you shouldn’t tell her she’s pretty
Up until now, I’ve discussed most of the reasons and situations of when to tell her she’s pretty but there are instances when it is far better not to.
You see, it’s also important to consider whether it’s appropriate to compliment a woman on her looks.
With that being said, here’s a list of situations when you shouldn’t tell her she’s pretty.
1. When you’ve chased her too much
Showering a woman who you chased with compliments will not win you any brownie points.
She already knows you like her and that comes with the natural assumption that you’re physically attracted to her.
More of what you’ve already been doing isn’t going to change anything.
This is especially the case when she doesn’t seem all that interested in you.
It would be far more beneficial to create some mystery rather than to divulge every bit of adoration and desire you have for her.
Leaving nothing to the imagination during those early stages of courtship will ruin the possibility of a great romance.
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2. When you’ve been rejected multiple times
I need to be brutally honest with you, compliments will not convince a woman to take back her rejection.
If you’ve made multiple attempts to get her to go out with you only to be rejected or friendzoned, you shouldn’t be spending more time chasing after this woman or complimenting her.
Additionally, women who are unavailable may enjoy your compliment but it will do absolutely nothing for your chances of pursuing them.
So, there’s really no point unless, of course, you’re just complimenting her without any desire of being with her or courting her.
3. If she is feeling uncomfortable
Not all women respond well to compliments.
In fact, depending on their nature and personality, compliments may be incredibly discomforting, embarrassing and awkward for some women.
You need to judge each situation on a case by case basis before deciding whether it’s a good idea to compliment someone on their looks.
Even if your intention is good, it doesn’t necessarily mean that it will create a fond situation for the receiver of your compliment.
Also, your approach and delivery need to be considered.
If you’ve been acting like a creepy desperate guy who is drooling at the sight of her, she’s probably not going to be comfortable with you telling her she’s pretty.
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There are definitely many instances when you should tell her she’s pretty, especially when your intention is to be genuine and sincere as well as to develop some rapport and fondness between the two of you.
Compliments are also a great way of showing interest and creating a romantic vibe.
As long as you’re genuine and choose an appropriate time to compliment her, it will be great.
However, that doesn’t mean it’s always a good idea.
When you have been chasing her too much, rejected, friend-zoned or behaving creepily, telling her she’s pretty will do little to nothing good.
It would actually serve you well to not say anything instead.
With that being said, I hope you found this article on should I tell her she’s pretty to be insightful and informative. Please feel free to share your opinions and experiences in the comment section below.