After being rejected or dumped, it’s a monumental task to separate your emotions from your decisions. But, to preserve your dignity and to stand the best chance of reattracting a woman, you need to behave like a man who is clear minded and composed. Some people say it’s best to just move on, while others argue that you should fight for your love. So, with that being said, should I fight for her or move on? Here’s the best answer!
You should fight for her, but without sacrificing your dignity and self respect as a man. If your relationship failed due to your lack of effort or bad habits, then by all means, fight for her by making the necessary changes to win her back. But, if she dumped you for no good reason or rejected you for someone else, you should not fight for her and move on.
Fighting for a woman who doesn’t see your worth or chooses other people over you is a blatant disregard for your worth, value, and dignity.
I would go so far as to equate it with rewarding her for discarding you.
In no way will that win her back, nor will it assert your value in her eyes at all. It would do the opposite. You’d chase her into the arms of another man and completely destroy any respect she may have had for you as a man.
Here’s the kicker about all of this – a woman who doesn’t respect you could never truly love you.
Respect is the prerequisite for love.
So, if fighting for her completely destroys your sense of dignity and self respect, it’s best that you just let her go and move on.
But, I also know that you love her, and it would feel like giving up or failing to fight for your love in some way.
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How To Fight For The Girl You Love
There’s a way to fight for her, even if she left you or rejected you for no good reason. It doesn’t entail chasing her or begging her. It certainly doesn’t entail being her friend while she navigates the dating marketplace.
Sometimes, fighting for love means surrendering to your greatest fears.
Right now, I’m sure your greatest fear is letting her go.
Inaction is the last thing on your mind, but that may just be the best way to fight for her.
Rather than trying to convince her to come back, you can fight for her by channeling all your energy towards undoing your bad habits and improving yourself in some significant way.
I think this is most relevant to cases where she dumped you or left you because she claims to have lost feelings for you or because there’s someone else she’s interested in.
Frankly, I wouldn’t even bother with a woman who did this, but it does happen.
If you weren’t in a committed relationship, you had to accept that you were competing against other guys.
So, in this particular case, rather than trying to win her over by groveling and chasing, you ought to let her go and focus on maximizing yourself as a man.
Give her reasons to take a second look at you! Give her reasons to regret leaving you or rejecting you!
You have all this energy in you that comes from the loss of a woman.
Instead of wasting it on groveling and chasing, why not channel it towards growth and separating yourself from the pack of men who are all just groveling and chasing her?
You have an opportunity to prove her and anyone else wrong.
You don’t have to be the weak, desperate, and insecure guy who chases women who don’t want him.
You can become the type of man who masters his emotions and chooses to set the standards in his life.
Show them that you fight by leveling up and not by chasing people like a lost puppy.
Most guys may try, but they never stick to it.
Be the one who does, and watch how that drastically transforms your life. Watch how girls come back for round two and how better quality women gravitate towards you.
Most importantly, watch how much self-respect you gain from not being a punk and facing your fears like a real man.
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When To Move On From Your Ex
As a man, I can recognize the need to fight for who we love and what we want.
There’s no point in blaming yourself for making an effort to win a girl back, even if you made the mistake of chasing her when she chose someone else over you.
But, at a certain point, when you’ve tried your best to get her back, it’s time to move on.
You simply cannot and should not stop living life because of a breakup.
I know how intoxicating romantic love can be, but that was not why you were created.
I believe that each and every one of us was born to do something great with our lives.
Not everyone ends up realizing their potential or fulfilling their purpose.
But, as long as you have breath in your lungs, you still have time to do something great with your life for yourself and for this world.
Any man who knows a sliver of truth about relationships and love will tell you that romantic relationships should always come second in your life.
If you’re a believer in God like I am, you know in your heart that the number one spot in your heart belongs to God.
When it feels like you’re wasting your life waiting for or chasing a woman who left, it’s time to move on.
On the flip side, don’t just try to move on immediately after a breakup or rejection.
Rebounding appears to be nothing more than an escape from pain.
We cannot be so weak that we need to escape our emotions in this way.
By all means, comfort yourself and find some solace, but don’t use rebound relationships or other vices as an escape.
Moving on means feeling your emotions and still choosing to perform in all areas of your life.
I know how miserable you are going to feel at first because I’ve been there.
But, who cares?
Nobody is going to do the work for you. Nobody is going to just gift you the life you deserve. So don’t listen to those who enable you to waste your life escaping painful emotions.
Conquer them by conquering yourself.
You do that by doing what is required of you, regardless of how you feel.
That’s how you actually move on.
You don’t just think about moving on or proclaiming it while meeting other people.
You move on from someone by just living your life.
One day, maybe weeks, months, or even years from now, you’re going to wake up and go through your day, except you’ll notice something has changed.
You know what that change will be?
The way you feel!
No longer will you walk around with a dark cloud over your head or a heavy weight on your chest. Your ex will not consume your every thought anymore. You’ll feel engaged with your life and empowered.
That’s the change which signals that you have moved on
By then, I’m willing to bet that you’ll end up meeting the next love of your life, and she will be head over heels in love with the type of man you’ve become.
Alternatively, you’ll end up reattracting your ex.
Either way, it’s a win-win situation for you!
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- Fight for a woman you love if you lost her through a lack of effort, mistakes, or bad habits.
- Walk away from someone who chooses another guy over you.
- Fight for love by growing as a man.
- Become the type of man that she regrets losing by focusing on your own development.
- Feel your emotions to heal them.
- Perform and accomplish your duties regardless of how you feel. This is how you gain control over your emotions. Feel them, but choose to do what is necessary for you to do as a man.
- Move on once you’ve actually made a genuine attempt to get her back, but to no avail.
- Don’t escape your pain through vices or rebound relationships. Moving on means choosing to live life regardless of how you feel.
Gentlemen, that brings us to the end of this discussion on whether you should fight for her or move on.
Do what is necessary to heal, but not at the expense of all your dignity as a person.
Women are inspired by men who make genuine changes. If you lost her because your actions didn’t match your words, change your behavior and give her a genuine reason to come back. That’s the best way to fight for her, not by begging or chasing her desperately.
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