Not hearing from a guy you like can be frustrating and confusing. It also adds a level of anticipation that triggers excitement and anxiety. But, it also makes you doubt his intentions. So, in this article, I’m going to share all the reasons why he doesn’t call you.
What I want you to do is have an open mind and be prepared to face reality. Not calling you could be a sign of something good or bad.
You’d have to measure all the circumstances in this potential relationship to decide which reason likely applies to your case.
Here’s a quick look at the reasons why he doesn’t call you.
- He doesn’t like you.
- He is playing hard to get.
- He’s busy with work and goals.
- He’s dating other people.
- He’s waiting on you to call him.
- He’s afraid to call you.
- He prefers in-person conversations.
- He’s angry with you.
- He’s not looking for something serious.
- He doesn’t have your number anymore
Let’s take a closer look at each of these reasons why he doesn’t call you and decipher the meaning behind them.
1. He doesn’t like you
I want to begin this article with the worst reason why he doesn’t call you.
A lack of feeling like attraction, affection and interest usually results in silence from a guy.
Because his interest level is so low and doesn’t like you, he doesn’t see the need to invest in you by calling or texting.
Perhaps he chose to exchange numbers with you after hanging out as a way of being polite. This would be far better than to just reject you to some guys.
For this reason, you won’t receive calls from let alone get him to answer your calls.
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2. He is playing hard to get
Some men find it difficult to let themselves be viewed as volatile so they will hang back and not call.
They want to be viewed as the prize and in doing so, avoid rejection from over pursuing you.
It’s not necessarily a bad thing that he’s giving you space to miss him but the problem with this approach is that it leaves you feeling confused and doubtful of his intentions.
In this case, playing hard to get will actually work against him if he doesn’t actually make time to talk to you as well as spend time with you.
Trust me when I tell you that this is definitely one of the reasons why he doesn’t call you.
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3. He’s busy with work and goals
A man with purpose is a man who carves out time on a daily basis for his career, goals and dreams.
It is imperative that every person seek out their true purpose in their life in order to unlock greatness and discover happiness.
You’re dealing with a man who has his priorities in order and wants to create a life for himself through hard work and dedication.
This is the kind of behavior displayed by a high-quality man.
As such, he may be extremely caught up with work and goals right now which is why he doesn’t call you as much as you’d like.
I will say this – just because he’s busy with work and goals doesn’t mean that he should ignore you altogether and make no effort to court you the right way.
This is one of the reasons why he doesn’t call you that doesn’t necessitate panicking because he’ll be back once he gets a handle on his work and business life.
4. He’s dating other people
It’s not uncommon for guys these days to be talking to multiple girls or dating other people.
Unless things have been escalating at a rapid pace with you or there’s been some agreement not to see other people, I wouldn’t be surprised if this is the case.
While he’s dating other people, he’s not going to call you because his attention is diverted to the one who is capturing it.
The woman who is doing everything right and is blowing his mind will be the one who gets most of his attention while the others take a backseat until they’re ignored altogether.
Personally, I don’t agree with this approach at all.
With age and maturity, I realize that it’s far more healthy to focus on one person at a time until you find someone who you want to be with.
But, this is something that still happens and it’s highly possible that dating other people is the reason why he doesn’t call you.
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5. He’s waiting for you to call him
Put aside the guys who tend to blow up your phone, text you all day or chase you like crazy because they’re not the guys who are actually getting your attention.
The men who are slightly harder to get a hold of, who are busy, who don’t chase you like mad and who act with confidence don’t sit on the phone trying to call women all day.
In fact, I’d be inclined to believe that he’s waiting for you to reach out so that he can escalate things by asking you out on a date.
Go ahead and give him a call.
If he answers or gets back to you once he’s free and asks you out, then this is definitely the reason why he doesn’t call you.
6. He’s afraid to call you
Believe it or not, our society has been programmed to prefer texts over voice calls.
Most people would let their phone ring off before texting the very same person to find out what they need.
This, coupled with social anxiety or shyness can make a guy feel really afraid to call you.
If he perceives you to be a woman of high quality and is extremely attracted to you, the fear of rejection or looking like a fool may be holding him back from picking up the phone and calling you.
Shy guys go through this all the time.
7. He prefers in-person conversations
Some men are completely opposed to sitting on the phone and communicating with women.
They may answer your call but don’t expect them to have a full-blown conversation with you because that is out of their wheelhouse.
Instead, he would rather not talk all week and then see you in person.
For men like this, the time away makes them miss you and gives them an excuse to not only see you but pursue you like crazy in person.
8. He’s angry with you
Not everyone is good at communicating when they’re angry. In fact, I’d be so blunt as to say that most people don’t. They would much rather take some time to cool down before calling you to talk.
On the same note, you may not even be aware that he’s angry with you if he’s terrible at communicating his feelings.
So, you could be waiting for him to call you but in reality, he’s angry about something you said or did and now he doesn’t want to call you.
Until the issue is dealt with or he has cooled down and started to miss you, I wouldn’t be surprised if he doesn’t call you.
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9. He’s not looking for something serious
Perhaps your intention was to develop and nurture the connection you share with him into something serious and real but he might not be on the same page.
He could have just been looking to flirt and have fun without even approaching the subject of a relationship.
Hence, his lack of calls to you.
I don’t stand by this behavior and believe that it would be a lot better to be upfront and honest about your intentions from the get-go.
But, not all guys are even interested in doing that because they see no harm in it.
10. He doesn’t have your number anymore
As ridiculous as this may seem, it’s a possibility. He could have lost his phone or damaged it in such a way that his software had to be wipe cleaned.
As a result, he lost your number.
And for that reason, he doesn’t call you because he actually can’t.
It wouldn’t hurt to give him a call, in this case, to find out how he’s been doing. If this occurred, he’ll probably tell you about it immediately.
I completely understand your desire to bridge the gap between the two of you by making use of a resource that’s so easily available but you can’t force someone to want to be with you.
It might be a hard pill to swallow but you must.
By all means, try to get a hold of him. Make an effort to call him and even express your desire for him to do so.
If you struggle to get a hold of him or if he doesn’t even make an effort to do so, then you need to be prepared to walk away if he isn’t willing to give you what you need.
On the flip side, if he doesn’t call you but makes all the effort in the world to court you in real life and take you out on dates, then this is nothing to worry about.
Calls do not matter as much as the interaction you have with him in person.
With that being said, I hope this article on the reasons why he doesn’t call you was eye-opening and helpful. If you would like to ask a question or share your thoughts, head over to the comment section below and let me know.