Getting blocked hurts like crazy. I’m sure you know what I’m talking about when I say that it feels like rejection coupled with confusion and betrayal. The hardest part is dealing with a lack of reasons or explanations for why he blocked you. So, in this article, I’m going to share all the possible reasons why a guy would block you.
Here’s a quick summary of this list of reasons why a guy would block you.
- He’s impulsive.
- He’s dating other people.
- He’s in a new relationship.
- He’s trying to move on from you.
- He’s stonewalling you.
- He’s trying to make you chase him.
- He’s trying to help you to move on.
- He’s toxic.
It can be quite shocking to the system to wake up, grab your phone unsuspectingly and discover that you’ve been blocked without even a message to say goodbye.
Whatever you’re feeling right now is justified and normal for a situation like this.
Unfortunately, there’s only so much you can do to avoid going through this.
At some point, it’s out of your hands and this is the risk we take of being in communication with people online.
Be that as it may, I think it’s important for you to get some closure by finding it within yourself.
I’m hoping that this article will do that for you by painting a possible picture for why he blocked you.
Let’s get into the nitty gritty of all the reasons why a guy would block you.
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1. He’s impulsive
It’s pretty cliche but a lot of guys are quite impulsive, especially the hot headed ones.
They can escalate a small issue into something big within minutes and that can be really problematic.
You could be having an argument with him or maybe having an off day that he interprets as disrespectful or upsetting and blocks you.
He may not have taken the time to really consider everything that’s going on because he acted purely on emotion rather than logic.
This notion of men being logical is a fallacy.
I’ve seen too many men behave erratically and impulsively to buy into this narrative.
For this reason, he blocked you.
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2. He’s dating other people
Another cliche that turns out to be true is that men will try and move on really quickly after a breakup while women will mourn and grieve.
But, as we know it, by the time women are feeling good again, men are crashing and realizing the pain of losing their relationship.
In fact, I read a study somewhere claiming that men take much longer than women to heal from heartbreak.
Whether that’s true or not is up to debate but there’s something to this.
We’re seeing an ongoing trend where men rush to date other people and fail to put in the work when dealing with a breakup.
I know that I’m going off on a tangent but I’m just trying to illustrate how men can block you and try dating again relatively fast as a coping mechanism.
3. He’s in a new relationship
Whether it’s a rebound relationship or a normal one, it would still explain the reason for why a guy would block you.
He’s trying to move on from you or he’s moved on from you and is in love with someone else now.
Perhaps, he doesn’t want you to know about it or he feels like it’s the right thing to do in order to respect his relationship.
This will depend on the circumstances surrounding his new relationship, the time between your breakup and his new relationship and the kind of person he is.
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4. He’s trying to move on from you
Building on the above, it’s not easy to move on from a serious relationship or courtship that ended.
When your heart feels pain, it doesn’t matter the extent of the relationship.
What matters is how you feel and we can argue that he’s struggling to deal with that pain while still remaining in contact with you.
Some people cannot heal in the same place that made them sick.
So, they choose to walk away and shut the door behind them indefinitely.
It’s highly possible that he needs to block you and close the chapter in his mind to truly heal and move on.
5. He’s stonewalling you
Now, I must admit, I could never wrap my mind around why someone would stonewall their partner.
It didn’t make sense to me in the past and it still doesn’t make sense to me now.
But, that’s the thing about manipulative, narcissistic or conflict driven individuals, they’re wired to believe that this is acceptable and justifiable behavior when it isn’t to someone like you and I.
To someone who stonewalls, they would rather cut all contact and block you instead of communicating through conflict or potentially embarrassing issues.
Their value system is messed up and they are battling inner demons that we cannot comprehend.
It’s highly possible that in his mind, you’re trying to gain the upper hand on him and so he opts to stonewall you to protect himself.
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6. He’s trying to make you chase him
This is an interesting one because as you can tell, the effects of being blocked triggers a response within a lot of people.
Their fight or flight response kicks in and they want to protect themselves from the pain or danger of being blocked.
A lack of reasoning or closure can also heighten these feelings.
Then you find yourself on a website reading about why he blocked you and what you can do to get some answers from him or get him back altogether.
To some extent, it works.
And yet, I think it’s one of the most toxic things to deal with and you shouldn’t be wasting your time on a man who blocks you every time he wants you to chase him.
It’s unnecessary and childish, especially when there’s no reason for him to do it.
7. He’s trying to help you to move on
When it comes to matters of the heart, I try to be as understanding as possible and I believe that judgment is unnecessary.
People deal with rejection, betrayal, loss, pain and so forth, in very different ways.
It can be predictable but it varies from person to person.
Some people struggle to let go.
I have a friend who has been festering emotions for over a couple years from a rejection.
That’s not something I can relate to but I can understand that people deal with these things in their own way or fail to deal with it.
It could be possible that he’s noticed how much you’re struggling to let go of him or the relationship.
Maybe you even started to chase him incessantly or lashed out every time your feelings were not acknowledged or reciprocated.
This is definitely a plausible reason why a guy would block you.
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8. He’s toxic
I hate to say it but there are people out there who thrive on toxicity and drama.
I can’t explain why they feel this way or why you ended up encountering a guy like this but it happens.
For him, this is just a big game and he gets a thrill out of blocking people and engaging in weirdly toxic behavior.
People like this rarely change and they can only change if they want to.
Not you or anyone else can make them change.
They’ll continue to self sabotage or ruin relationships because this toxicity feels normal to them.
It just so happens that you got caught in the line of fire and he blocked you.
If this describes him well, then you know what, you should count your lucky stars that he blocked you.
I understand that even though you may have these reasons why a guy would block you, it doesn’t really make it right or make you feel any better.
Just know that there are so many people who have been blocked before and who just got blocked along with you.
This pain of rejection, confusion, disrespect and betrayal of trust is normal for what you’re going through so please don’t judge yourself harshly for being upset about it.
Sometimes, we never really get to ask the questions that play on our mind and the only closure we can get is from within ourselves.
If you can’t do it for yourself, then I want to give you permission to let this go and try to move on with your life as best as you can because with the right people, you won’t face issues like this.
With that being said, I hope you found this article on the reasons why a guy would block you to be insightful but also a source of comfort and closure. If you have any questions or thoughts on this subject, please feel free to let me know by visiting the comment section below.