Finding a good man is hard, right? It’s more difficult when you don’t know what to look for in a man to begin with. As such, I’ve decided to compile a complete list of qualities of a good man.
If you want to have a loving, strong, long lasting and honest relationship, it’s imperative that you find a good man who possesses the qualities discussed in this article.
Here’s a quick look at the qualities of a good man.
- He is kind.
- He is considerate.
- He is affectionate.
- He is trusting.
- He is loyal and trustworthy.
- He keeps his promises.
- He is honest.
- He has a growth mindset.
- He is family orientated.
- He’s spontaneous.
- He’s forgiving.
- He knows how to compromise.
- He’s good at communicating.
- He knows how to prioritize.
- He is consistent.
- He takes care of himself.
- He is supportive.
- He’s non judgmental.
- He treats people with respect.
- He is ambitious and driven.
Familiarize yourself with this list because it will help you to identify and disqualify toxic or bad men from your life as well as to attract higher quality men.
With that being said, let’s get into the nitty gritty of this article.
I want to explain exactly how these qualities present themselves in real life as well as how they affect a relationship.
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1. He is kind
To be kind, one must be generous and giving with their time, energy, resources and/or compassion.
If you noticed, the attributes of kindness are all verbs. In other words, they require action.
Saying you’re kind means nothing if your actions don’t match your words.
Kindness is quite possibly one of the best qualities of a good man.
A kind man will give himself to his relationship in a way that is needed for it to thrive and grow.
He’ll give his time, affection and more to make you feel loved and to help the relationship every step of the way.
The best part? Well, it’s that he does this because he wants to and not because he is forced to or for an ulterior motive.
On the flip side, when you encounter people who are simply superficial and materialistic, they often exhibit other traits that are considered toxic.
Here’s the biggest selling point for finding a kind man, he values relationships over objects.
That, in and of itself, sets him apart from a lot of men.
2. He is considerate
To be considerate, one must think about the circumstances surrounding a decision or situation and be aware of how it affects others.
A man who is considerate is able to put himself in the shoes of others and in doing so, is able to exercise kindness and compassion.
Men who possess this quality take care of those around them.
They avoid selfish behaviors that hurt others as much as possible.
And, they make an effort to comfort you, prevent hurt or harm and they cause joy to others.
Someone who causes joy to those around them is a special kind of man.
3. He is affectionate
Despite what some may say, as human beings, we are heavily influenced by emotions.
We seek out good emotions in everyday life.
We attach value based on emotions and we do everything in our power to avoid negative emotions.
In keeping with that, having a man who cares about how you feel by expressing his own affection and emotions is capable of nurturing a healthy relationship.
A relationship should not be devoid of physical and vocal expression of affection.
It adds a great deal of intimacy and enjoyment to a relationship.
In fact, I would go so far as to say that affection is one of the fuel sources required for a healthy and great relationship.
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4. He is trusting
When a man is not trusting, he can become controlling, obsessive and overwhelming.
This is awful and I can assure you that it will lead to a relationship that feels stressful and destructive.
On the flip side, a trusting man is one who is capable of giving you the freedom needed to explore your own identity.
He is secure and assumes the best rather than the worst.
This can result in so few arguments or issues related to trust.
You don’t have to worry that he’s getting the wrong idea about things nor would you feel caged around him.
I would honestly say that this is one of those overlooked and underrated qualities of a good man.
Unfortunately, some women only realize how awesome it is to have a trusting man after they’ve gotten a taste of what it’s like to deal with a man who isn’t.
5. He is loyal and trustworthy
Loyalty and trust are earned through hard work and time.
A man who is willing to stand by your side is one you can latch onto for a long time.
I won’t be self-righteous because a lot of us have made mistakes, including myself.
But, what’s evident is that a man who is inherently loyal and trustworthy will do everything in his power to earn back your trust and loyalty if he messes up.
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6. He keeps his promises
Empty promises are a waste of a time and they create unhappiness as well as trust issues.
A man who does what he claims he’s going to do shows up when he says he will and makes an effort to stay true to his word is a man you can commit to and trust.
Because he cares.
He understands the sanctity of a promise and as such, it makes him a better person to be around because he won’t let you down unjustifiably.
If there’s one thing I know, it sucks to be disappointed by someone who makes promises but never keeps them.
7. He is honest
What I’ve come to realize is that honesty matters more than most things.
With honesty, love can be nurtured, disappointment can be averted and mistakes can be fixed.
Honesty has to be one of, if not, the most important qualities of a good man.
It’s easy to trust a man who is honest.
He’ll get through any walls you’ve put up and being with him feels real.
There’s a sense of comfort in being around a man who is honest because you know that there aren’t ulterior motives at play.
8. He has a growth mindset
There are two types of mindsets – a fixed mindset and a growth mindset.
Someone who has a fixed mindset believes that you are either born with or without a talent and nothing you do can change that.
Someone with a growth mindset believes that with hard work, consistency, discipline and dedication, you can achieve anything you set your mind to and develop the necessary skills to become successful at things, with or without talent.
What you’ll notice is that people with a growth mindset tend to outperform those with a fixed mindset.
They’re also happier and more ambitious people by nature.
A man who has a growth mindset is capable of exercising all of the abovementioned traits in order to build the kind of life he wants.
In a relationship, this would amount to putting in the work on a consistent basis to build the kind of bond and connection that overcomes challenges as well as a relationship that thrives and grows into something unbelievably amazing.
For this reason, a growth mindset is one of the best qualities of a good man.
Rather than accepting complacency, he will make an effort to improve and be better.
9. He is family orientated
We live in a time when people discard their own good parents when they reach a certain age or for materialistic reasons.
I’m all for independence and growth but if a man can throw away his own parents for completely selfish reasons, what’s to say that he won’t do the same thing to you?
Obviously there may be circumstances that force a man to do this and if it can be justified, then we can understand.
But, men who forget their own roots for no reason other than selfish desire are the ones who may not value relationships as much as you’d like.
A family-orientated man, on the other hand, would make a great husband and father because he cherishes his role as a member of a family unit.
10. He’s spontaneous
One of the attraction killers in most relationships is monotony.
None of us set out to be boring but when we spend too much time in the lap of comfort, it affects our mindset.
Routine and monotony are comfortable because of their predictability.
There’s nothing uncertain about a comfortable activity except for the fact that you put yourself at risk of falling into a comfort zone that makes you boring and predictable.
A man who is spontaneous creates excitement and anticipation in his life.
He is motivated by new experiences, is not controlled by the fear of uncertainty and welcomes thrilling new adventures.
Relationships and love thrive via shared experiences.
For this reason, a man who is spontaneous in that he is willing to try new things and have fun will create many opportunities for the two of you to experience amazing things that spark loads of attraction and love in a relationship.
Thankfully, spontaneity is not a talent but a quality that can be developed and enhanced with a simple mindset change.
11. He’s forgiving
Nobody is perfect which means that everyone will make mistakes from time to time.
Even you will mess up at some point in a relationship.
What you don’t want is a man who will hold you hostage for these mistakes.
Forgiveness is an important quality of a good man.
He has a good heart and is willing to look beyond your mistakes because he loves you.
Forgiveness is often closely linked to a person with a very compassionate and understanding personality.
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12. He knows how to compromise
I don’t think a relationship can work without the ability to compromise.
No matter how compatible the two of you are, there will be things that you disagree on.
Your needs will change from time to time and there’ll be times when they will be in conflict.
At that point, compromising becomes essential for the relationship to not just survive but thrive.
WIth that being said, to compromise is to find middle ground.
It’s the ability to negotiate and problem solve in such a way that both parties in the relationship get what they need.
Compromise is also the ability to be mentally flexible.
In other words, being able to entertain different ideas and not fixating on just one.
For this reason, compromise is one of those qualities of a good man that should not be ignored at all.
13. He’s good at communicating
This is one of the non-negotiable qualities of a good man that is required for a great relationship.
Trust me when I tell you that a relationship cannot be nurtured or fixed without communication.
Irrespective of the form of communication used to express oneself, it has to be a part of the relationship that is worked on.
A man who is good at communicating understands how to express his feelings, thoughts and opinions in a respectful manner.
He doesn’t shut down, freeze you out or use gaslighting on you.
Instead, his focus is on expression rather than blame, silence or manipulation.
This, in turn, will allow you to avoid feeling defensive and enable you to skip straight to the part of compromise, understanding and love.
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14. He knows how to prioritize
For a man to have his priorities in order, he must be responsible. Responsibility is a sign of maturity.
As we know, a mature man understands the complexity of a relationship.
Very rarely will you find him doing stupid things that can be avoided.
He doesn’t discard important information or feelings either.
Most importantly, he can make sacrifices for his priorities.
If you are his partner, you can be certain that he will prioritize you and the relationship when it matters most.
15. He is consistent
Have you ever been in a situation when a guy behaved so amazingly during the courtship but once you and he entered a relationship, he stopped doing a lot of the things that made him so attractive to you?
The reason for that is due to a lack of consistency as well as too much comfort.
Being consistent isn’t easy or comfortable.
You have to keep showing up on a daily basis, even if things are going well.
Hence, the quote – ‘if you’re not improving, you’re getting worse.’
Some men tend to forget or not comprehend this idea so once they get the girl, instead of consistently doing the things that made her fall in love with him, they fall back into old and lazy habits.
So, when you meet a guy who is consistent or who makes an effort to shop up and try his best, don’t take that for granted because it’s one of those qualities of a good guy that actually makes a difference as time goes on in a relationship.
16. He takes care of himself
Making an effort to be healthy, look good and learn new things is an underrated method of self care and self love.
It also depicts a sense of pride in oneself (as long as it’s not in a narcissistic manner).
If he can take care of himself, we can at least assume that he would try to do the same for his relationships and other important things in his life.
17. He is supportive
A good man is supportive. He cares about the people in his life and once to see them succeed.
Even if they take the path least walked, he understands the value it has in their life and is there to cheer them on.
There are so many people in this world who get a kick out of holding others down.
They would rather see you live a life of mediocrity rather than watch you embrace the uncertain to chase your dreams and aspirations.
A man who stands by your side and encourages you to challenge yourself in ways that will bring about happiness and growth is a man worth being with.
You don’t need a man who stops you from possibly failing. You need a man who will stand by you even in the face of defeat.
18. He’s non judgmental
Nobody is perfect and we all make mistakes, right?
The last thing we want is to be judged and ridiculed for those imperfections and mistakes.
The problem with judgmental men is that they can make you feel incredibly insecure and not good enough.
That’s not a healthy dynamic at all.
You’ll always have a wall up around him. Because you can’t truly be yourself, it will create a disconnect in the relationship and you’ll feel alone.
This is why a non-judgmental man is a much better fit for you.
He’ll make you feel good about yourself.
During embarrassing moments, he’ll lend you a hand or wrap his arms around you in an embrace rather than laugh at you or make you feel bad about yourself.
19. He treats people with respect
Having respect for others is a character trait that should be placed on a pedestal because it’s that important.
It is the ability to speak with care to others and exercise behavior that is honest, considerate and honorable.
A respectful man is one who people gravitate towards and hold in high regard.
In a relationship, this is immeasurably valuable.
The last thing you want is to deal with a disrespectful man who is abusive and toxic in every way.
Observe the way he treats other people but most importantly, be realistic and observant about how he treats you!
20. He is ambitious and driven
Since we are the sum total of the 5 closest people in our lives, we should do everything in our power to be surrounded by those who are ambitious and driven.
They will motivate and push us to be greater than we are.
Their values are usually aligned with ours or what we want and together, the two of you will create an amazing life with each other.
Also, ambition and drive are quite sexy, wouldn’t you say so?
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I really hope this article on the qualities of a good man helps you to find a man who adds value and joy in your life.
Set your standards high and you’ll avoid a lot of disappointment in your dating life.
There are some break men out there just waiting to be with a great woman.
You just have to look in the right places and be the kind of person you want to attract.
That brings us to the end of this article on the qualities of a good man. If you have any questions or thoughts to add, please leave them in the comment section below.
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