After a breakup, it’s not uncommon for an ex to suddenly jump into a rebound relationship. It happens, and it stinks. I’m sure curiosity gets the better of you, which is why you’ve checked up on your ex and their new relationship. Stunned and disappointed, you may find that your ex appears happy. This begs the question, “What does it mean if my ex seems so happy with her rebound?”
She may be happy with her rebound due to the feelings of validation and attention that she’s receiving right now, but that will not erase her feelings for you. A rebound relationship only masks the feelings of pain, loss, anxiety, and fear with temporary happiness. Eventually, she will pass through the honeymoon phase of her rebound relationship, and then she will be reminded of all her residual feelings for you and from the aftermath of the breakup.
When those emotions surface, she will be inundated with memories from the past, and her feelings for the rebound partner will be tested.
Most rebounders struggle with comparing their old relationship with their rebound relationship. This creates a host of problems for rebound relationships and is one of the biggest reasons why they fail.
Believe me when I tell you that just because she seems so happy with her rebound doesn’t mean that she’s completely over you!
This is especially true if the rebound relationship is relatively new and it hasn’t been that long since your breakup.
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Does A Rebound Feel Good?
Yes, a rebound does feel good during the early stages of a rebound relationship. There is a honeymoon or bliss phase that is characterized by high levels of endorphins, optimism, excitement, and passion.
That’s a common trend in most rebound relationships.
They begin with a great deal of passion and enthusiasm, but please take into account the fact that a flame that burns too brightly often dies just as quickly.
This phase can last anywhere from a few weeks to a few months until the rebounder moves into the next phase of the rebound relationship.
When this occurs, those good and novel feelings of a new relationship are tested with adversity, annoyance, doubt, and, most importantly, comparison.
When the rebounder begins to compare their new relationship with the one they just exited, there’s a great chance that things take a turn for the worse.
It’s a challenge that every rebound relationship will face.
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Do Rebound Relationships Last?
Some rebound relationships last, but not many, because rebound relationships are more of an escape and a source of easy validation than anything else.
That’s not to say that they can’t become long-lasting real relationships, but that only occurs when the rebounder passes through all the stages of a rebound relationship, overcomes the comparison stage, lets go of their attachment and residual feelings for their ex, and falls in love with the new partner.
During the early stages of a rebound relationship, I would characterize the feelings of the rebounder as infatuation at most.
It’s not a bad starting point, but often, the rebounder is intoxicated by certain attributes of the new partner or relationship based on what did not exist or persist in their previous relationship.
What this tells us is that from the get-go, there’s an attachment to the previous relationship, which is unhealthy.
In healthy new relationships, people are drawn to each other based solely on attraction, mutual interest, chemistry, and connection. This is when most people forget about their ex, but the rebounder doesn’t, and that’s a warning sign for trouble ahead.
If the rebounder hasn’t taken the time to process, accept, and detach from their ex and the relationship they shared, those feelings of attachment and loss will rear their heads once the infatuation or honeymoon stage of the rebound relationship ends.
When it does, that’s when most rebounders come to an epiphany or realization that they are either not in love with their new partner yet or not completely over their ex yet.
At that point, the rebound relationship experiences its greatest hurdle, and it’s also the point where most rebound relationships fail.
That’s not to say that the rebounder won’t get over their ex or won’t fall in love with their new partner.
It’s just an obstacle that not many people are equipped to overcome.
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Do Dumpers Regret It After A Rebound?
Some do, some don’t. That’s the best and most honest answer to this question. It’s such a subjective experience that we can’t truly quantify it in any way other than through personal anecdotes.
However, regret is usually preceded by some kind of problem or issue that arises due to a specific decision.
So, if the dumper experiences some kind of issue that arose from the rebound relationship, whether it be an external or internal issue, then that would create feelings of regret.
A big one is if the dumper realizes that they still love their ex.
What this indicates is that they had an entire relationship with someone else without actually falling in love with that person.
If they are forced to end the rebound relationship because of that realization, then regret is a natural reaction, unless it was the rebound relationship that made them want to be with their ex again.
But, then, regret is still a factor for the dumper because they probably feel bad for hurting the other person.
The dumper who moves on emotionally from their ex after a rebound relationship may not have much reason to regret their decision.
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I just want to emphasize that just because she seems so happy with her rebound doesn’t mean she has no feelings for you or that she’s over the breakup.
Most people jump into rebound relationships for the wrong reasons. They want to escape the pain that follows a breakup, they want to escape loneliness, they want to avoid the suffering that comes from massive change, and they want easy validation and attention to mask their true feelings of heartbreak.
Sure, there’s some degree of attraction and passion for the rebound partner, but rarely is it enough for a rebound relationship to transition into a serious, long term relationship.
This is why most rebound relationships fail.
What you need to do right now is focus on yourself. Do not follow in the footsteps of your ex.
Instead, process your feelings, heal from them, work on your life, suffer through the loss until it becomes manageable to live with, and avoid chasing your ex.
Your number one priority needs to be you. And I promise you that things will get better.
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