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My Ex Reads My Messages But Doesn’t Reply!

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So, your ex reads your messages but doesn’t reply. What does it mean? Why won’t your ex reply? Is there still hope of getting your ex back?

I’m sure these questions are running through your head while you send messages to your ex.

I suppose it’s natural to feel obsessive after rejection.

The problem is that you are exposing yourself to more rejection by texting your ex.

More messages will not magically make them want to be with you again.

You can’t convince someone to come back to you by sending them message after message, especially if they don’t reply.

Be that as it may, I think it’s best that I answer the questions you have about why your ex reads your messages but doesn’t reply.

My objective for this article is to reason with you. I want you to understand why texting your ex is detrimental during this difficult time in your life.

Believe me when I say that grand declarations of love to someone who has ended a relationship are ineffective. They will not change their minds over words. At best, you’ll make them feel bad for leaving you.

At worst, you’ll provide them with all the validation and comfort they need to move on from you and find someone else. 

This is why it is imperative that you separate your actions from your feelings.

Taking action may feel like the most compelling thing in the world. The idea of doing something or anything to get your ex back is intoxicating.

However, it is rarely the correct decision to make.

Desperation in romantic scenarios never produces the kind of results you want.

If you can get to the point of exercising emotional self-control around or with your ex, the chances of attracting them again increase significantly. 

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I’m talking from experience.

Listen to me and what I have to say to you about texting your ex, because I will save you from more rejection and heartache. 

Take it from someone who has made every mistake in the book. Texting your ex, who ignores you, is an absolute waste of your time and energy.

What you need to do is gain back some power and change the perception that your ex has of you by not chasing them over text.

Why Are You Texting Your Ex?

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When I was going through a breakup many years ago, I found myself repeatedly texting my ex, and I didn’t understand why. 

I just felt compelled to text my ex despite knowing that the relationship had ended. 

In fact, I could argue that deep down, I knew that it was a fruitless endeavor.

But I kept lying to myself. 

I told myself lie after lie to continue texting my ex.

  • I just want to be friends with her.
  • She misses me and needs me.
  • I’m only texting her because I don’t want to be rude and disappear. 
  • I think that I can get her back by saying this or that.
  • I need to be in contact with her or else I won’t manage the silence.

In reality, this was all untrue. 

That’s what happens to most of us.

We concoct reasons to validate our feelings. 

I want you to recognize that your feelings do not have to control you. Sometimes, the way you feel about something or someone could absolutely lead you astray.

This is why it’s important to reflect on why you are texting your ex beyond just feeling a strong desire to do so.

Look at things logically and rationally. 

If texting your ex, who ignores you, doesn’t make logical or rational sense, then, the lies you tell yourself will no longer hold much weight.

Eventually, you won’t be able to outrun reality, and it will become easier to walk away. 

You need to read this article: How to let go of an ex you still love!

What Are You Telling Your Ex?

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You have to consider the possibility that the main reason why your ex reads your messages but doesn’t reply is because you are being inappropriate or unsettling.

Guilt tripping, shaming, begging, pleading, and lashing out at your ex will absolutely destroy any chances you have at getting them back.

Scratch that! 

In this case, it destroys any chances that they will even reply to your text messages. 

The same could be said for bargaining with your ex to take you back using logic and reasoning.

It just doesn’t work, and anyone who has tried it knows that I’m telling you the truth.

You have to consider whether your texts and overall behavior inspire a positive perception of you as a person and as a partner.

When has desperation ever looked good on someone who was trying to get their ex back?

Only in movies will you find that begging and pleading for an ex to take you back is a good idea.

In reality, it will get you ignored or blocked forever.

You need to read this article: What to do when an avoidant pushes you away!

Should You Stop Messaging Your Ex?

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Yes, absolutely. 

You should stop messaging your ex immediately. 

Always approach texting like a game of tennis or badminton.

Before taking a swing, wait until the other player hits the ball back into your side of the court.

When texting an ex, wait for him or her to reply. If they don’t, you should not text them again.

At most, you can send a double text a few days later, but thereafter, you should cease all contact with your ex.

It is a sign of low self-worth, desperation, and low self-respect to entertain someone who ignores your texts.

A man or woman will never love you if they can’t respect you.

And the only way to be respected by others is to behave with self-respect.

Self-respect empowers you to avoid or be intolerant of disrespectful people in your life.

You need to read this article: He blocked me without explanation!

Reasons Why Your Ex Doesn’t Reply To Your Texts

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1. They are incredibly upset with you.

It might be hard to accept, but sometimes an apology or even multiple apologies or explanations over text aren’t enough to dispel pure anger.

If you hurt your ex in a traumatic manner and they are absolutely livid with you, it’s not uncommon to be ignored by them.

You have to accept that your ex isn’t ready to communicate with you right now.

2. They don’t trust you.

Without trust, you have nothing. A relationship cannot exist or persist without a solid foundation of trust.

If that trust that once existed was damaged or destroyed, there’s no guarantee that it will ever return.

Perhaps the reason why your ex reads your messages but doesn’t reply is because a part of them still cares about you, but they can’t get past the breach of trust that occurred in your relationship.

3. They are hoping that silence will defeat you.

If you simply refuse to see logic and refuse to accept no for an answer, your ex may choose to ignore you until you stop contacting them.

In a way, you’re being ghosted until you leave them alone.

This is why it’s never a good idea to chase an ex, especially if they ignore your attempts to communicate or reconcile.

As Albert Einstein once said, “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result.

You need to read this article: Will no contact work if he lost feelings?

4. They are punishing you.

If your ex feels wronged or is the vindictive type, don’t be surprised if they are ignoring you to punish you.

Perhaps your ex feels vindicated and powerful as they watch you chase them down and grovel at their feet.

While you’re hoping that they will reply to one of your texts, they’re hoping that you keep texting them so that they can continue to ignore you.

5. They don’t know what to say to you.

Have you considered the possibility that your ex has no idea what to say to you?

Go back and read the string of texts that were ignored.

Would you reply to those texts if the tables were turned?

I’ve seen people completely unravel over text, especially when they are ignored. From groveling to lashing out, their texts turn into an entire dramatic fight with themselves.

If this is what your texts look like, it would explain why your ex won’t reply to your messages.

You need to read this article: 10 Reasons for exes to block you!

6. They are confused about you.

There’s always the chance that your ex is on the fence about reconciling with you.

Backed into a corner, your ex feels overwhelmed and completely confused about how they feel and what they want.

Rather than make any definite decision, they’re choosing to say nothing until they know for certain whether they want to walk away for good or possibly reconnect with you.

Stranger things have happened, so I won’t rule this out.

7. They are dating other people.

It’s not uncommon at all for ex’s to start dating after a breakup.

To avoid feeling the loneliness and pain that come with being single again, people test the dating pool to see what’s out there.

Right now, your ex may be enjoying the high of being single and meeting other people.

Chasing him or her right now isn’t going to change that at all.

8. They moved on with someone else. 

Casual dating is one thing, but it’s also possible that your ex lined up a replacement and jumped into a new relationship.

These rebound relationships may be short-lived, but they are incredibly common.

People who are petrified of being alone tend to rebound quickly.

They may not even be over their ex, but they will line up a new partner because they need someone to feel whole.

You need to read this article: What does it mean if my ex ignores me but doesn’t block me?

Key Takeaway

It should be abundantly clear to you by now that texting your ex repeatedly while they ignore you isn’t the right way to approach this situation.

You’ve said everything you probably need to say.

Now, what you need to do is the thing that you are desperately trying to avoid. Stop texting your ex and give them the space they want. The resurgence of attraction and desire may be a consequence of distance and space.

Give your ex a chance to experience what it’s like to lose you entirely. If they come back, then you’ll know that there’s a genuine chance of rebuilding something with them.

If they don’t, at least you can walk away with self respect and dignity.

In the end, your ex will respect you for it.

By all means, make amends. Expressing sincere regret should be your top priority if you hurt or wronged your ex. 

Thereafter, give your ex the time they need to make a decision while you work on yourself and improve.

With that being said, I hope you found this article on “My ex reads my messages but doesn’t reply” insightful and eye-opening. If you would like my help with this problem, be sure to check out my services page for more information on my email coaching package.

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