Let’s assume that you’ve been through a breakup, you’re heartbroken and you are completely afraid of being alone. The question of is it possible to get your ex back pops into your mind frequently. Here’s the truth.
It is possible to get your ex back provided you didn’t chase or turn them off after a breakup. If enough time has passed and there is unfinished business or attraction between you and your ex, the possibility of getting back together is real.
The issue with breakups is how you handle it, especially if you are the one who has been dumped.
Most people freak out and start to chase after their ex. You may spend days, if not weeks, trying to convince your ex to change their mind. This is often supplemented with begging, pleading and excessive apologies.
All of which accomplish nothing other than make you come across as weak, desperate and unattractive to your ex.
Right after being dumped, the best thing you can do for yourself and the possibility of getting your ex back is to go no contact.
I’ve written about the no contact rule extensively, highlighting how it works to bring back an ex as well as instances in which no contact rule does not work.
Here’s why it’s possible to get your ex back.
1. They still have unresolved feelings for you
As much as we try to be logical beings, our lives are often controlled by emotion.
It’s easy to list every reason in the book to walk away from someone but if the heart desires that person, it’s hard to ignore those feelings.
If your ex still has unresolved feelings for you, it’s highly possible he or she will come back and get in touch with you.
This isn’t out of the ordinary, especially if a strong bond existed between you and your ex.
All you have to do is wait and be patient. When your ex reaches out, focus on having a good time and eliciting positive feelings.
If you can do that much, you won’t need to be asking is it possible to get your ex back.
2. The breakup was premature
Some people are extremely impulsive and make impromptu life-changing decisions on the fly.
In the heat of the moment, they honestly felt like breaking up with you was the right decision but as time passes, they come to their senses and decide that it was a mistake.
These cases are pretty clear cut.
You can almost expect your ex to come back, especially if he or she was being unreasonable for breaking up with you or it’s something that happens often.
If you are quite certain that the reason for breaking up was a silly fight, a simple apology may be all that’s needed to fix the situation.
3. You didn’t chase or beg after being dumped
Being dumped by your partner is a power move because he or she decided to unilaterally end the relationship.
Even if you disagree, you can’t force them to be with you. So, irrespective of what people say, it’s a power move.
How you react can greatly determine what happens next.
If you chase after your ex with incessant apologies followed by begging, you give your ex more power over the situation. Now they know with absolute certainty that you are hung up on them.
That makes it easier for your ex to deal with the breakup because they know you’ll be desperately waiting for them to change their mind.
You have provided him or her with enough comfort to remain broken up.
On the flip side, if you go no contact and avoid making all those above-mentioned mistakes, not only is it confusing to your ex, but it’s a power move on your end.
Rather than being powerless, you made the decision to end all communication and that gives you some control of the situation.
Not only is the no contact rule a great way of getting back some power but it also prevents you from doing things that would diminish you of self-respect and dignity.
4. Your ex doesn’t hate you
The average breakup that happens over a disagreement or conflict of interest doesn’t rule out the possibility of making up.
At some point or the other, you’re more than likely to hear back from your ex.
Where things become less favorable is if you did something that necessitates being cut off permanently from your ex’s life.
Whether you were abusive or unfaithful, actions that break your ex’s heart and trust often lead to hate and an unlikely possibility of ever getting them back.
If you’re fairly certain that your ex doesn’t hate you, then there’s a reasonable possibility to get your ex back.
5. You’re a great partner
As you get older, you may notice that good people are hard to come by. What’s even harder to find is someone who makes a great partner.
If you are fairly certain that the relationship was wonderful up until the breakup and if you were a great romantic partner, chances are such, that after your ex encounters people who are less than good, he or she may come back to you.
That is one of the reasons why I created this site.
Not to focus on hookups or things of that nature but to elaborate and concentrate on having long-lasting relationships with awesome people.
I also want to focus a lot of my energy on creating articles that help you be an amazing partner to your guy or girl.
The greatest way to get your ex back is to have been a great partner during the relationship.
If you weren’t, then the next best step is to show your ex that things have changed and you are now more suitable to be a great romantic partner.
Work on improving yourself after a breakup
I think this is the single most valuable piece of advice I can give you after you’ve been through a breakup.
Wasting away months or years of your life crying over what has gone will deprive you of valuable time that could have been spent productively.
I understand how difficult and painful it is to go through a breakup. I’m not telling you to just be happy when your heart is in pain.
But if you spend that time improving yourself as a person, not only do you stand a better chance of getting your ex back but it will benefit your life for many years to come.
This advice is based on my own experience.
After a terrible breakup, I wasted almost two years of my life. I regret not using that time more effectively.
My business, health, fitness, relationships and social life could have benefited and grown exponentially in that time, had I just made an effort to focus on what I could control.
And that’s something to remember – you can only control what you can control.
Whether you can get your ex back isn’t something you have total control over.
So why waste years of your life on something that is left to the universe or God to decide?
Focus on improving yourself so that if your ex does gravitate back into your life, he or she will be blown away by how much better you’ve become.
And that is how it is possible to get your ex back.
Let me know your thoughts in the comment section below. I’m looking forward to it.
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