What You Should Do If He Doesn’t Care About Your Feelings

There aren’t many things as disillusioning as being in doubt over whether someone you care about actually cares about you. Romantically speaking, it can be catastrophic for the relationship, and this is probably one of the most commonly cited reasons why women leave relationships. If you’re in this position right now, this article will touch on some pivotal things you should do if he doesn’t care about your feelings.

You can’t force someone to care about your feelings, no matter how much you want to. In fact, it is a disservice to yourself to entertain the possibility of making someone care about you. You deserve to be with someone who chooses to love you and respect you. 

The reason I bring up respect is because feelings of love or care only exist when respect is present.

A guy who respects you will find ways to behave in a manner that honors your feelings. Granted, he may mess up from time to time. None of us are perfect, and mistakes happen. But, his actions should be overwhelmingly respectful and considerate if he actually cares about you.

Through respectful behavior, care is fostered because it takes a lot of consideration, thought, and effort to respect someone.

Obviously, you know that it’s important to distance yourself from people who don’t care about you or your feelings.

It’s not our job to change people or how they treat us. All we can do is draw firm boundaries and give people a chance to behave correctly around us.

But, there are instances when you’d expect someone to care about you, and it’s not easy to walk away from them.

Case in point, a husband who seems to not care about your feelings anymore.

You may know that he cares about you because he obviously chose to marry you or be in a committed relationship with you. But, you can’t help but feel like he overlooks how you feel and what you think.

Perhaps, he doesn’t take the time to consider what you want before making a decision that affects both of you. He may no longer consult you about things. He seems to be distracted or uninterested in what you have to say.

Noticing this change in his attention and behavior would make any woman feel abandoned or disillusioned.

What he’s depicting is behavior that is synonymous with someone who doesn’t care about your feelings but, at the same time, is your partner and claims to love you. So, there’s this internal conflict going on, and it’s tearing you up from the inside.

Often, men show up as their best selves during the early days of courtship. But, once they get comfortable in the relationship, they start to take what and who they have for granted. 

It’s almost like accomplishing a goal.

You’re willing to work hard to achieve it, but to maintain the same action and effort after you do so requires some degree of intentionality and commitment. 

That’s one of the mistakes people make in relationships.

They don’t truly comprehend what it means to be “committed” to their partner.

Commitment requires an intentional decision to honor, love, respect, and court your partner on a daily basis.

It doesn’t really matter how wonderful you were yesterday or the day before. It doesn’t really matter that you were loyal up until now. What truly matters is how you show up today. It means showing up even when things aren’t great or when you feel lazy.

I think people need to ask themselves certain questions on a daily or weekly basis to maintain healthy relationships for a long time.

• Am I making an effort to love my partner in the way they need me to?
• Am I paying attention to them when we are interacting?
• Am I expressing my feelings and thoughts to my partner so that they can feel connected to me?
• Am I counting my blessings enough?

I feel like men need to read this article because it has the potential to save many relationships that were once healthy and fulfilling.

But, for all you wonderful women going through this issue, try the following.

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Women Need To Express Their Needs In A Relationship

I’m well aware of the fact that there’s this unspoken desire or expectation that our partners should know how we feel or what we need in the relationship.

But, to make things a little easier on them, we should also try to humble ourselves enough to speak up.

Rather than just expressing your discontent, it is more helpful if you also express what he needs to do to make you feel cared for and loved.

If that means planning dates again, calling you to check up on you sometimes, having a zero-distraction conversation with you for some time in the day, or whatever it may be, say it clearly to him.

Alternatively, let him know what specific behavior makes you feel disrespected and uncared for.

A mature man who is committed to you will not get stuck in his own feelings over any form of criticism.

It may catch him off guard at first, and some of us react defensively when critiqued. But, once he reflects on it, he most likely will make an effort.

It may not be exactly how you want it to be or to the extent you want it to be, but give it some time.

As long as he shows a genuine interest in making you feel cared for, encourage him with positive affirmations. 

Let him know that what he’s doing is appreciated and makes you feel happy.

This is how we build a healthy and long-lasting relationship, rather than allowing it to disintegrate over a lack of communication.

Get your partner to read a book called The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman. Perhaps, he or she expresses love in a love language that doesn’t really make you feel cared for. But, to him, he probably feels confused because he actually does care. 

So, reading this book may help him and you understand what type of love makes the two of you thrive.

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You Must Be Prepared To Walk Away From The Wrong Relationship Or Partner

Whatever stage of the relationship or courtship you find yourself in, it is important to still maintain the ability to walk away if you are being abused, mistreated, or ignored.

As much as security creates an environment for people to thrive and flourish, not everyone responds to a committed and loving partner the same way.

Some people have the propensity to get lazy, unappreciative, and unfairly demanding when they have something stable in their lives.

Remaining in a committed relationship or courtship with someone who has abandoned the role they should be playing in this relationship or courtship is a violation of your worth as a person.

Believe me, I understand how difficult it is.

Often, the ones who are committed and loving are not looking to end the relationship. You want to fix things, and you want the relationship to be as good as you know it can be.

But, you have to be honest with yourself and observe the person you are with.

If he is clearly indicating signs of a toxic partner, you have to be willing to walk away.

We can be forgiving individuals, but we should never be doormats. 

When you begin to feel like this man doesn’t respect you anymore and that you are the glue that’s holding this entire thing together, it may be time for you to consider walking away.

We can control what we attract in life by controlling what we allow into it.

That’s a very important distinction to make.

You will attract both things and people you want and don’t want in your life. The only way to filter through all this and get what you want is to disallow those people and things that do not belong in your life because they are toxic or unworthy.

What I’ve noticed is that people sometimes need to lose someone to realize that there’s a boundary that shouldn’t be crossed.

They need to see self-respect in others before they catch a wake-up call and begin to behave respectfully toward those very people.  

A reminder of what life can look like without you might just be enough to make him reconsider his own behavior.

Again, this isn’t to say that you should just walk away from someone to manipulate them.

Please don’t do that, because it never ends well.

Rather, you’re doing what’s right for you while leaving the door open for him to win you back.

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Final Thoughts

Before you leave this article, I want you to take a second to make a list of all the reasons why you deserve to be cared for and loved.

Far too often, platitudes are dished out without considering whether people actually believe they deserve to embody such advice. 

It’s easy for me or anyone else to tell you to walk away or express your needs unashamedly. But, if you don’t feel like you’re worthy or deserving of what or who you want, you’ll find reasons to stick around in unfulfilling and disrespectful relationships.

You deserve to be with someone who adores you.

I’m telling you right now that there are people right now in relationships that are absolutely beautiful. It’s not perfect by any means, but the care, respect, commitment, and loyalty are almost palpable between these couples. 

I’d rather be alone and deal with the hardship that comes from it than be in the wrong relationship or with the wrong person.

I didn’t always feel this way, but I started to believe that I deserved better by recognizing all that I bring to the table and by appreciating my intentions.

As you develop a healthier and more caring relationship with yourself, you’ll find it simpler to handle people who don’t care about your feelings.

With that being said, I hope you found this article on what you should do if he doesn’t care about your feelings to be insightful and helpful. If you’d like to get an ex back, I highly recommend grabbing a copy of my eBook, Reconcile, because it is a compact but extensive guide on reattracting people. Also, if you’d like to work with me directly, check out my services page for more information on my email coaching package.