Let’s say that you’re interested in someone, you’ve tried to win his affection but you’re worried about him losing interest. Things were hot and heavy at first but now he isn’t anywhere to be found. If a guy doesn’t text you for a week, here’s what you need to do.
Either send him a short and ambiguous message or initiate no contact with him. You may even post a hot selfie or an update about something good that’s going on in your life.
What you don’t want to do is chase him or try to ascertain a reason why he hasn’t replied to you.
If he genuinely cares, he’ll give you a reason for why he hasn’t texted you in a week.
If he has lost interest, you’ll find that he doesn’t address it at all nor does he make an effort to explain why he has been missing in action.
Unless he has a very plausible and understandable reason for why he couldn’t carve out a minute to reply to your text in a week, you really need to consider making some changes to your approach because he is either losing interest or entertaining other prospective love interests.
The advice below is designed to maximize your chances of winning his heart and attraction back without belittling yourself or diminishing your self-worth.
But before we get into the nitty-gritty of what you should do if a guy doesn’t text you for a week, let’s talk about what you shouldn’t do at all.
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What you shouldn’t do if a guy stops replying to your texts
If you’re thinking about chasing him, don’t do it.
Do not do it at all!
By chasing him, you only make yourself look more desperate, needy and clingy. None of these traits or characteristics make you appear attractive to him.
They have an adverse effect when a guy is already losing interest in you.
It will make him undervalue your attention and effort even more because you’re giving it to him without any work whatsoever.
Think about this – chasing him amounts to rewarding subpar behavior. What kind of message does that send?
Nothing good, I can tell you that much. People who consider themselves to be of high value and who possess self-respect would not reward someone for this sort of behavior.
On the flip side, you also don’t want to react negatively and lash out to him.
Unless he is in a relationship with you, he actually isn’t under any obligation to reply to you.
Neither of you are.
It may be considered rude and disrespectful but that’s a risk you take when trying to find love and romance.
By lashing out, demanding an explanation or losing your cool, it may depict you to be controlling, crazy or weird.
There was this woman I was getting to know for a short while. I was dealing with the passing of a family member and had not replied to her for 2 days.
When I eventually replied to her on the 3rd day, she was acting cold, weird and passive-aggressive.
She called me and literally had an outburst on the phone. She cried and even insulted me.
At which point, I had enough and cut the call. My contention was simply that I was dealing with a crisis. We were only speaking for about 2 weeks. This reaction was uncalled for and inappropriate.
Needless to say, I lost interest and moved on.
We spoke a few times thereafter and I tried to look past that event.
However, it became more and more clear to me that this particular girl was just not the one for me and that outburst was to repeat. I did not ignore the warning signs and have no regret for running in the opposite direction of her.
The point of this story is to indicate how lashing out and acting erratic can blow up in your face. You have very little to gain from it.
Send him a short and ambiguous message
In a lot of cases, I advise people to avoid double texting because if they receive no reply to that text, then they face the pain of rejection or concern all over again.
Because they caved and double texted, it becomes easier to triple text and then just unravel altogether.
So, if you’re someone who has a difficult time being patient and maintaining emotional self-control, I would advise you to skip this step and just wait for him to reach out again in the future.
When sending a double text, keep it short and sweet.
Don’t send essays or multiple texts. A quick and simple text is enough to get his attention.
You don’t want him to think that you’re upset that he hasn’t texted you in a week. Concern, however, is a good approach. It shows him that you care but in a nurturing and kind way.
“Hey, thinking about you. Hope you’re okay.”
There’s nothing desperate about this text nor is it demanding anything from him.
As I said, I don’t advocate double texting but if you’re going to do it, I’d rather you send something ambiguous and simple like this text than something elaborate which actually reeks of desperation.
When you send this text, do not follow it up with another. I forbid you from triple texting him. You must wait for his reply.
Now, let’s assume he replies, don’t open his message immediately. Make him wait for some time, especially if you notice from his reply that he seems unexcited or is cagey.
He just made you wait for a week before replying to your texts, there’s nothing wrong in making him wait a day or two for yours.
Now, instead of you being the one on the waiting end, he is.
And while he’s waiting, certain thoughts may pop into his head. He may have been expecting you to be eagerly waiting for his reply.
So much so, that you would have replied immediately or blown his phone up with calls.
The fact that you are waiting to reply will plant a seed of doubt in his mind. Perhaps, his assessment of you was wrong. Maybe you aren’t as interested or into him as he thought.
Suddenly, you’re no longer the woman he has wrapped around his finger.
You’re now the one who may be losing interest or entertaining someone else’s attention.
The fear of loss creates or influences the value of worth in something or someone. Always remember that.
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Do nothing and initiate no contact
This is probably the hardest thing to do right now but if the situation calls for it, you have to initiate no contact without saying anything to him.
So, when should you initiate no contact?
If you find that he is online but ignoring your texts, posting social media updates as if life is normal or simply reading your texts but not replying. If you feel like you’re being ghosted, then it’s probably a good idea to use no contact.
No contact means eliminating any and all communication with him. Do not text him or interact with him on any social networking platforms unless he directly messages you or calls.
By doing no contact, you are making the decision to allow this situation to play out in whatever way it will.
You’re not going to interfere with it by chasing him or doing something that diminishes your self-worth and self-respect.
No contact, in my experience, is the number one way of asserting your worth.
If someone isn’t willing to make an effort to talk to you or maintain the relationship, then they should be prepared to watch you walk away.
Trust me, if a guy is trying to ghost you or reject you without actually saying anything, this is your only move to make that doesn’t damage your self-image.
In fact, it’s a power move. You’re choosing your own well being over him and the situation.
Most guys expect you to unravel and chase after them. This doesn’t make you appear anymore attractive to them.
On the contrary, it’s damaging. Using no contact guarantees that you avoid chasing him and it improves your ability to exercise emotional self-control.
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Eventually, he’s going to reach out and come back. If there’s even a sliver of attraction left, he’ll text you in the future.
When he realizes that you may have moved on, if he gets rejected by someone else or if he feels alone, he’ll think about you and reach out to find some comfort and hope.
At that point, you’ll have control over the interaction. Being in this position of power will afford you the ability to dictate what happens next.
That’s honestly one of the greatest effects of using the no contact rule properly.
Act normally online
It may seem a tad bit childish but it’s a great way to strip the perception and power from someone who thinks that you are probably going to unravel when they stop talking to you.
Most women will attest to this idea. You don’t win a man’s attention by being mopey and depressed when he seems to lose interest in you.
You’re better off doing nothing at all than letting him know that you desperately wish he was still around.
Be tactical and selective when sharing things online. Don’t post about other guys directly. Don’t act as if everything is absolutely perfect because he’ll suspect that you are doing it to get back at him.
Just go on as normal. Be positive, share a hot selfie of yourself or be playful online.
Subtle hints of happiness and contentment in your dating life are fine as well. But, if you’re not good at being tactful and deliberate in your social media, avoid this step.
By acting normal and positive, it will make him consider the possibility that you really weren’t all that into him. That may bruise his ego and cause him to reconsider his position.
Alternately, your positive behavior online may remind him of the reasons why he originally liked you.
Rather than fear that you will be angry or crazy when he reaches out again, he’ll feel as if you’ll be more receptive and calm.
Either way, it depicts you in a good, attractive and healthy manner in comparison to emo, negative and distasteful posts.
Focus on yourself
During this time, I can relate to how difficult it is to stay composed when someone you genuinely like has disappeared.
It’s only natural to think about them and the situation but that can quickly turn into overthinking. Don’t be surprised if you find yourself in a state of anxious desperation.
Try to avoid doing this by focusing on yourself. Redirect your attention to work, your fitness, other people or family.
I tend to remind myself that there is a greater plan at play and if God wills it, things will work out between us or I will find someone better. Looking back at my own life, this feels incredibly true.
Surrender your love life to destiny and you may just find some control over yourself during anxiety filled moments.
What I can promise you is that no matter what happens, you won’t regret spending extra time on your own self when he disappeared.
With that being said, I’d just like to conclude this article by saying that if a guy doesn’t text you for a week, there’s nothing to worry about.
It’s highly possible that something has happened in his life that has consumed all his attention. If so, then he’ll be back soon.
Alternately, if he has lost interest now, then inaction and no contact is the best solution. Always remember, someone who doesn’t see your true worth is not someone you need in your life.
Chasing after him is a foolish errand if he is trying to reject or ghost you.
I hope you found some clarity in this article on what to do if a guy doesn’t text you for a week. Feel free to share your thoughts or questions in the comment section below and I’ll be sure to reply.