When things are going well in a relationship or courtship, everything feels amazing. You walk around feeling confident and assertive. But, as soon as things take a turn you run into an obstacle, you find yourself falling apart. I understand this all too well and I know that this is something that affects a lot of you women out there if a guy doesn’t contact you for a day.
In today’s article, I’m going to explain what it means if a guy doesn’t contact you for a day as well as what you need to do about it to avoid losing him or losing your self-respect in the process.
If a guy doesn’t contact you for a day, don’t panic or lash out at him. There’s no reason to send him countless texts because it’s highly probable that he is just busy or dealing with something that requires all of his attention.
Unless you’re in a relationship with him, I don’t advise you to start chasing him or triple texting him because you run the risk of possibly looking desperate.
Sometimes, not hearing from a guy for a day can actually be a good thing.
It provides both of you with an opportunity to miss each other.
Some distance makes the heart grow fonder.
That is proven by the fact that you’re here reading this article. If it’s having this effect on you, I’m willing to bet it can and will have the same effect on him even though he is the one who is busy and away.
That’s not to say you can’t or should not send him a text.
You can and probably should if the two of you usually chat daily.
This will also show him that you do care and want to talk to him.
But, that should be it. If you decide to double text, keep it casual and to the point. Don’t send any lengthy messages and absolutely do not project your fears.
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What does it mean if he doesn’t contact you for a day
I’ve seen people fall into a state of anxiety and start desperately looking for assurance that they’re not being ghosted or ignored.
Doing so will not really help in any way and could make you look slightly insecure. For this reason, it’s better to keep your texts casual and to avoid making assumptions.
Besides, not hearing from a guy for a day isn’t so out of the ordinary, especially if you know that he’s extremely busy, dealing with something or isn’t the type of person to just ignore you.
If you’re going to assume, it’s best to assume the best.
You gain nothing from assuming the worst and it only feeds into a negative or pessimistic mindset that strips away most of the happiness you can feel from a relationship or courtship.
In your shoes, it would be far more productive to use this as a tool to test the character and interest level of this guy.
Here’s what we know for certain, this is either a case of him being extremely busy or dealing with a personal problem or he’s starting to lose interest.
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Will he contact you after a day?
I can tell you with absolute certainty that a good guy who is really interested in you would definitely reach out the minute he gets a moment to do so.
He’ll have a valid or fair reason for not texting you and things will return to normal as soon as he returns.
That will affirm your belief in him and create a better bond between the two of you.
On the flip side of the coin, a day will turn into a week and you’ll begin to see his true colors or true intentions.
Ordinarily, when I write articles of this nature, I tend to list a ton of reasons why someone is behaving a certain way, what it means and all the things you need to do but I don’t think that’s really necessary here and I’ll explain why.
Finding yourself feeling anxious, confused, afraid and impatient after only a day of not hearing from him is indicative of something.
It’s either a big problem in the sense that something bad has happened to him and you’re sensing it or you’re codependent or insecure.
If it’s the former, then by reaching out, you’re doing the right thing.
If it’s the latter, then you’re dealing with an issue that has to be addressed or else it’s going to land you in a lot of pain and suffering someday.
A relationship cannot thrive when partners are codependent on each other or insecure.
It’s just unhealthy and unsustainable.
And it usually means that you have some demons in your past that need to be exorcised.
Why would you panic? Why would you assume the worst? Why would you be so anxious to hear from him to the point that you’re freaking out?
I’m going to make the assumption that you’re a wonderful person who has a good heart. You’re a decent human being who treats those around you with respect and kindness. You’re beautiful in your own right and you add value to the relationships in your life.
Why should you be so afraid of someone disappearing and rejecting you after a day if you are all of those things?
You would have to be in doubt about those things and lack the self-awareness to know your value.
Again, if you knew these things and believed it with all your heart, you wouldn’t be panicked or upset even if he is losing interest because you’d know that you’re only interested in entertaining those who are willing to treat you the way that you deserve.
This is something that you need to address or else you’ll find yourself unraveling every time you run into a situation like this.
Worst of all, you’ll fear it more. And what I’ve come to realize is that we tend to attract what we fear.
So, even if he is losing interest or ignoring you because he’s talking to someone else now, use this as an opportunity to conquer your fears and to gain greater emotional control.
Essentially, what I’m trying to say is that the only person who loses out by him not contact you is him because you are the prize and not him.
It’s his loss if he can’t see your wonderful value.
But, if he does contact you after a day which I feel like he will if there isn’t any reason to believe that he’s ignoring or ghosting you, then it just proves that he is interested or at the very least, not a terrible guy.
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I don’t want to drag this article on for much longer because I feel like you’ve got everything you need from this but I just want to emphasize the importance of remaining calm and giving him the opportunity to prove that he isn’t losing interest or disappearing.
He could genuinely be busy or dealing with a personal problem like a loss in the family or a health scare that has consumed his day.
It’s okay if you double texted to get his attention or to find out if he’s okay but leave it at that.
If you don’t hear back from him after a few more days, then reach out once more.
Thereafter, please just leave it be and don’t contact him again, especially if you’ve seen him online and he has chosen not to contact you in days.
When he eventually contacts you again and he doesn’t immediately apologize or explain where he disappeared to, then I think you have a good idea of what type of guy you’re dealing with.
With that being said, I hope you found this article to be insightful and helpful. Please feel free to head over to the comment section below if you would like to share your thoughts or questions with me.
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