Approaching and conversing with a beautiful woman can be intimidating. Most guys get taken aback and make silly mistakes that ruin their chances of attracting her. This is why it’s imperative that you study this article on how to talk to a beautiful woman.
Talking to a beautiful woman requires self-confidence, self-assurance, good body language, emotional self-control and an affinity to make people feel good while talking to you.
I used to be an incredibly shy guy who struggled to talk to most women. It got so bad at one point that I’d look everywhere else besides at them.
Something had to change because I kept ruining my chances with women who actually found me physically attractive until I opened my mouth.
After building some confidence and practicing different skills, I can safely say that I’ve completely outgrown that shy boy who stumbled on his own words.
Since then, I’ve garnered up enough experience to know what works and what doesn’t work when talking to beautiful women.
Before we get into the meat of this article, let’s take a quick look at these techniques on how to talk to a beautiful woman.
- Be confident and charming
- Don’t compliment her for being beautiful.
- Maintain eye contact with her.
- Be interesting.
- Ask open-ended questions.
- Make her laugh.
- Control your voice.
- Have good body language.
Now let’s talk a look at each of these tips in more detail so you can get a better grasp of how to utilize them in real-life scenarios.
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1. Be confident and charming
Confidence, in and of itself, is charming. People are drawn to confidence. Women find men who are confident to be sexy, appealing and magnetic.
Why is that?
On one hand, confidence influences our behavior. We act with strength, self-respect and power.
But, on the other hand, confidence is like a mirror.
When we witness it in someone else, what we want for ourselves is reflected in that person.
By witnessing the effects and potential of confidence in others, we find hope and amazement in what we could be and achieve.
Imagine projecting confidence in the face of a beautiful woman.
She’ll not only find you attractive but she’ll feel a strong sense of relatability and passion around you.
How does one project confidence in speech?
Well, start by expressing yourself eloquently and with real intention. Don’t try to subdue your true feelings and thoughts.
Believe that what you have to say or ask is meaningful.
When talking to a beautiful woman, I remind myself that I am meant to be talking to her at this moment.
I’m not any less than her nor am I in competition with anyone else. If there is only one thing you take away from this article on how to talk to a beautiful woman, let it be this.
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2. Don’t compliment her for being beautiful
Let me tell you something, beautiful women know that they’re beautiful. Complimenting a woman on her physical appearance is every guy’s go-to move.
At this point, it does very little for someone who knows they’re beautiful or get that compliment all the time.
You’re not affirming anything new.
You’re not creating more attraction. You’re not connecting with her on a deeper level just by complimenting her.
If anything, you’re shifting the power dynamic in favor of her.
The only time I offer compliments is when I genuinely and sincerely mean it and when someone has made an effort to improve themself in some way or another.
Compliments are far more meaningful when they are rendered after a connection has been established.
Also, it’s a dead giveaway of your attraction for her.
Which isn’t a positive thing when you are trying to be mysterious.
Being mysterious creates a sense of uncertainty.
When she can’t peg you down, it makes her wonder and fantasize about you.
This creates a sense of intrigue which leads to an investment.
By the time you’re done talking to her, she may be more attracted to you than if you just bombarded her with compliments about her good looks.
3. Maintain eye contact with her
The eyes are the window to the soul. And I believe that. Often, you can judge someone’s comfort level and attraction or lack thereof by their eyes.
Eye contact is a great way of engaging someone and connecting with them at the moment.
It’s a sign of confidence as well. Showing her that you’re not intimidated by her beauty is a great way to start off the interaction.
Good eye contact comes from consistent practice.
As a teenager, I was incredibly shy. I just couldn’t hold eye contact with people, especially girls who I found very attractive.
This was further perpetuated when I was going through acne. I didn’t have the confidence to look people in the eyes because I was so insecure about my skin.
Later in life, I was able to conquer my insecurities.
Looking back now, even with good skin, I think how silly I was for allowing something like that to prevent me from just looking at people in the eyes.
Start by looking at people in the eyes while talking to them for just 10 seconds. Get comfortable with that before looking away. Then return back to maintaining eye contact.
Increase that time by 10 seconds as you get more efficient at it.
Eventually, maintaining eye contact with a beautiful woman will come to you naturally.
As a rule of thumb, I like to maintain eye contact for 80% of the interaction. My eye muscles are ‘relaxed’ and I’m blinking naturally.
Some coaches advocate holding eye contact until the other person looks away as a means of establishing dominance.
I’m uncertain of its efficacy in reality and I prefer a more naturalistic approach of holding eye contact.
Another tip I would advocate is to look at her lips from time to time. This is a non-verbal technique for showing attraction and a desire to kiss her.
Ordinarily, I use this technique on a date but it’s a nice way of diverting your view without having to look elsewhere.
4. Be interesting
This is quite ironic but the best way to show your interest in someone is by showing how interesting you can be.
The effort and investment in establishing a connection through dialogue and shared experiences creates interest and shows interest.
Most women have a good idea of when a guy is interested in them.
Usually, they can tell within a few seconds or minutes of meeting you.
Beautiful women have no problem with this at all because most guys make it so obvious. They’re constantly complimenting her, struggling to maintain eye contact, they’re submissive in their demeanor and seeking validation.
There’s no spark because the conversation is not taking place on equal footing.
He’s not showing his true identity.
Rather, he’s trying to cater to what he thinks she wants.
So, all of what he says and does is based on a desire to make her approve and like him rather than being his interesting self.
To combat this, I advise you to focus on yourself.
Believe that what you have to offer to the conversation is of the same value as what she offers.
Even if you have a difference in likes or interest, share that. You don’t have to do so in an aggressive or belittling manner.
She doesn’t need you to be a clone of her likes in order to like you.
Offer your insight and share your truth with her whether she agrees or not.
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5. Ask open ended questions
Open-ended questions are quite simple in that they often elicit answers that require details.
Unlike yes or no type questions, open-ended questions create room for flexibility and the opportunity for the conversation to veer off into any direction which could help make it more fun and engaging.
- Tell me about ‘X’?
- What do you think about ‘X’?
- What was ‘X’ like?
Insert whatever topic or subject in place of the ‘X’ and keep it tailored to her specifically. The more you learn about her, the easier it becomes to ask open-ended questions that are within her wheelhouse of interest.
Something you should always consider is people’s affinity towards talking about themselves.
We like it and we like people who open us up.
Use that to your advantage and you’ll master the art of how to talk to a beautiful woman.
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6. Make her laugh
One of the best ways to break the ice, create attraction and make a good impression is to make a woman laugh.
It’s also a great tool for getting her to let her guard down so that you can try and establish a connection.
Most guys are so afraid of beautiful women that they make the mistake of trying to be too cool or suave.
Unless you have excellent experience with this approach, I would actually recommend opting for a more relaxed approach that focuses on making her laugh.
When I was single and wanted to talk to beautiful women, I experimented with a number of different approaches.
What really worked for me was trying to be intentionally funny and cheesy with a ridiculous pickup line.
I’d admit how corny it was, laugh with her and smoothly transition into a simple conversation with her that ended with me asking for her digits. If you can learn how to make people laugh, you will inadvertently learn how to talk to a beautiful woman.
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7. Control your voice
An article about how to talk to a beautiful woman wouldn’t be complete without talking about your voice. If there was one thing that is often overlooked but plays a significant role in attraction, it’s your voice.
Based on how you regulate it during a conversation with a hot woman, you can either increase her level of attraction for you or decrease it.
Firstly, do not speak too fast or too slow.
It’s hard for someone to keep up with a person who is rambling on and on.
Alternatively, speaking too slow is kind of boring and a great way to put someone to sleep.
Avoid ending your sentences on a high note.
If you pay attention to most women, you’ll notice that they tend to end their sentences on a high note and this is often considered to be a sign of femininity.
If you speak a tad bit softer than you normally do, she’ll have to exercise more effort to pay attention to what you are saying.
And if you have her paying more attention to you, then it increases your ability to engage her in a meaningful conversation.
8. Have good body language
Non-vocal cues are part and parcel of how to talk to a beautiful woman with ease. I cannot begin to emphasize the importance of body language in everyday day life.
Much can be said about a person based on their body language alone.
People can often read your true intentions and your overall demeanor just from these visual cues.
Which begs the question, what type of body language projects confidence and strength?
Stand upright with your shoulders pulled back.
As a man, this broadens your frame, creates a more v-line shape and it projects toughness.
Don’t fold your arms while talking to a woman.
This creates an additional boundary between the two of you and can be interpreted as a sign of hesitation or defensiveness.
At the end of the day, the number one way to get better at talking to women is by improving your self-confidence.
Once you establish a strong sense of self-worth and self-respect, it becomes infinitely easier to make a good impression on them.
It took me a while and I faced some awkward situations at times but all of those experiences helped me develop excellent communication skills, particularly with beautiful women.
Practice makes perfect.
Go out there and focus on having a good time.
If you can put aside your desire for a bit and focus on the moment, your conversations will thoroughly improve.
I hope you enjoyed this article on how to talk to a beautiful woman. Feel free to leave your thoughts and questions in the comment section below.
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