Let’s say that you’ve recently been rejected or dumped and you can’t get him out of your mind. You’re probably desperate to figure out how to stop thinking about him. Fear not because in this guide, we’ll go through every single possible way to stop thinking about him.
Here’s a quick overview of what you need to do.
Distract yourself with challenges, focus on your career and goals, meet new people and experience new things as well as completely cut all contact with him.
These are but some of the essential things you can do to stop thinking about him in a relatively short space of time.
I used to struggle with the concept of controlling my thoughts. I had no idea what that even meant until I started meditating and practicing mindfulness.
Thoughts are controlled by measuring your actions.
Most of us are ruled by our emotions that are triggered by thoughts. When you find yourself wanting to take action on a negative or self-defeating thought, that’s when you should exercise control over yourself.
When you can stop yourself from acting impulsively, that’s when you start to gain a deeper understanding of how to control your thoughts.
With that being said, let’s take a closer look at how to stop thinking about him once and for all.
1. Initiate no contact
Whenever someone goes through a breakup or rejection, my first piece of advice to them is to initiate no contact.
Not just for 30 days or a short period of time but for an indefinite amount of time.
None of us are wired to react a specific way within a specific time. That’s why it is imperative to account for all factors before giving advice.
No contact means that you should completely remove him from all social media and avoid all interactions in person.
Doing this guarantees that you move on by removing any new stimulus related to him.
During this time of no contact, you can focus on improving yourself and getting used to the idea of not having him in your life. It may be hard at first but if you can take this step, it will almost guarantee that you eventually stop thinking about him.
2. Distract yourself with new challenges
Much like any limb or muscle in your body, if you don’t use it, you will lose it.
Our minds are designed to be used. Thoughts flow in and out of it at a rapid speed.
What dictates more focus are events and challenges that require deep thinking.
As much as we are great at multitasking, our thoughts flow in singular fashion.
When you embrace challenges that are complex and engaging, it requires an extreme level of focus. In other words, the challenge itself distracts you from other thoughts and issues.
The more invested you are, the easier it becomes to enter a state of flow. During a state of flow, all thoughts which are not related to the challenge at hand are dulled out completely.
You will think solely about accomplishing the mission at hand. That’s the beauty of setting challenges in your daily life.
3. Focus on your career and goals
The relationship you have with your career and goals is just as important as the relationships you have with other people. They play an instrumental role in the person you become and how fulfilled you feel on a regular basis.
An idle mind is the devils playground.
I have experienced this first hand. During one of the worst periods of my life, I spent much of that time doing nothing but moping over what and who I had lost.
This achieved nothing other than set me back in my career and keep me chained to the past.
I like to believe that confidence can be established by investing your energy and effort into your career. Why? Because it will pay off and it’s an investment in your future.
When trying to get over someone and stop thinking about them, you can redirect your thoughts and energy into yourself.
4. Meet new people and experience new things
I don’t think it’s entirely possible to forget someone you shared a very special bond with but you can forget details and overall memories that create an emotional response within you.
The only way I know how is to make new memories by meeting new people and doing new things.
Experiencing the world gives you ample opportunities to fill the pages of your mind with an abundance of things to think about and reflect on.
The more memories you make, the easier it becomes to stop thinking about him.
Go on a few dates, hang out with friends and visit new places. Live life to the fullest and you’ll find yourself thinking more positively about life.
5. Remove all reminders
Get rid of photographs, videos, letters and messages as quickly as possible because they will keep you stuck in the past.
Reminders often trigger feelings of nostalgia which happens to be an addictive emotion.
Another problem with reminders and nostalgia is that they often create a false sense of reality in your mind. Rather than view the past accurately, it appears better than what it really was.
As someone who battles with living in the present moment, I can vouch for the efficacy of this technique.
It has helped me detach from the past and people who opted out of my life.
If you really want to move forward then focus on what’s happening right now and what you would like in the happen.
Check out The Power Of Now for an elaborate look at how to focus on the present moment and enjoy life to the fullest.
Time is your best friend
The beautiful thing about time is that it creates never ending change. As long as time ticks away, so does everything else.
If you’re going through a rough time right now, find solace in the fact that this time will pass too.
Eventually, even this time in your life will become an old phase. One that you can choose to remember of as a curse or a phase that pushed you to grow and evolve as a person.
Even if you find yourself thinking about him often, don’t allow those thoughts and feelings to dictate the way you live.
Remove the power it holds over you and eventually, it will disappear.
With that being said, I wish you all the best and I hope that this article provided some insight into how to stop thinking about him.
For now, start by drawing up a 5-year plan for your life consisting of goals for your personal and professional life. Convert that plan into a vision board for your home and focus on it as much as you possibly can.
If you’d like to read more content on this topic, be sure to check out this guide on how to stop overthinking about someone.
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