I wouldn’t be surprised if one of the first things that popped into your mind after being dumped is how to make your ex regret breaking up with you. It’s okay to feel that way.
Feeling discarded and tossed aside after a breakup is normal. Your self esteem takes a hit, especially if you were on the wrong side of the breakup.
It sucks and I get it. Take solace in the fact that everyone has experienced a breakup at some point or the other. You’re not alone in how you feel. And the best part is that most of us bounce back stronger after a breakup.
That’s what you need to focus on. The ultimate form of revenge is success. In whatever form that may be.
With that being said, let’s analyze this topic on a deeper level with the intention of understanding every single thing you can do to make your ex regret breaking up with you.
Step 1: Get over them
The dumper usually experiences a sense of power and control when they end a relationship.
On the flip side, the one who was dumped often feels discarded and powerless.
You didn’t really get to have a say in the decision. That’s the unfortunate thing about ending a relationship.
When the decision to walk away isn’t mutual, one party is always left feeling powerless.
The only way in which you can take back some power is to do everything you possibly can to move on.
This may require you to be single for a while or to work through your heartbreak alone. Do it. Take the time to get over your ex. Do it for yourself first.
The fact that it’s one of the best ways to make your ex regret breaking up with you is secondary and supplementary in nature.
The moment when you wake up one morning feeling like you’re no longer the person who was dumped or inlove with your ex, that’s the moment you start to win at life and romance.
Why is this so effective?
Well, when you move on, your ex and the old relationship no longer has any power over you.
Nothing they say or do can diminish you any more.
Getting over them and moving on is truly the ultimate form of ‘revenge’.
Step 2: Completely cut contact with your ex
It is unavoidable to experience feelings of loss, uncertainty, doubt, regret and pain after a breakup – even if you were the one to initiate the end.
However, depending on how the other party reacts, the dumper can either find themselves feeling worse or better.
Here’s what you shouldn’t do after someone breaks up with you:
- Contact them incessantly.
- Shower them with compliments and affection to win them back.
- Chase after them.
- Let them know you miss them dearly and feel miserable.
If anything, you should maintain a state of composure and indifference.
Obviously you’re feeling hurt and upset. Otherwise, you wouldn’t be reading this article or bothering about the break up at all.
So it’s okay if you can’t act like everything is peachy. But you have to pull yourself together infront of your ex.
When you appear to be accepting of the breakup, displaying control over your emotions and eliminate all contact with your ex, it’s going to have a very peculiar effect on him or her.
Rather than forget about you, they’re going to wonder why you didn’t react in the way that they thought you would.
Eventually, they’re going to consider the possibility that you may not have been as into them as they thought you were.
At some point or the other, you’ll receive a text or call from your ex out of the blue.
They have no reason to reach out to you but they’ll make something up. It’s to find out what is going on with you. Why aren’t you falling apart or chasing after them? That’s what they want to find out.
Rather than reply instantly or act emotionally charged up, just be indifferent.
If you really want them to regret breaking up with you, don’t reply or take their calls at first.
Make them wait.
Not only will this make them feel regret and concern but it will help you close the door on this relationship once and for all.
Step 3: Become the best version of yourself
The dumper usually enacts a breakup when they have come to the decision that they can do better. Hard to hear but it’s the truth. That doesn’t make it true. It’s just their opinion.
You can either use it as motivation to become a bitter person or to become a better person.
You have a choice to make that could heavily influence your future.
The former proves your ex right whereas the latter will make them regret. But if you look at this objectively, the only person who stands to gain is you.
Even if there’s some truth to what your ex believes, he or she has now given you a blueprint of ways in which you can become a better person and partner.
Use this to your advantage.
Analyze your behavior and life with the intention of leveling up. Think about ways in which you could have been a better listener, lover or confidante.
Thereafter, make a list of areas in your life and self that require development.
Just taking on this approach places you in a much more favorable position than a lot of people who get dumped and give up.
With this mindset, you are building a better future.
After putting in the work and transforming your mind, body and soul, not only will you feel better about yourself but there’s a great possibility of outgrowing and getting over your ex.
You may start attracting and finding interest in men or women who are so much better than your ex was.
At such a point, you won’t even care about the position your ex holds in respect of the breakup. Making him or her regret leaving you won’t factor in your life at all.
Because you would have grown so much that there would be no room for holding onto the past.
One thing is for sure – your ex will find out about this transformation and it will be a massive slap in the face.
Just don’t let that be what drives you to the end goal. It’s okay to use it as motivation to start working on yourself. Ultimately, the end goal is to grow so much that your old relationship doesn’t matter to you anymore.
Step 4: Bring up good memories
There will come a time when your ex reaches out or enough time has passed that you can.
Rather than initiating a conversation that is random, remind them of a fond or amazing memory from the time of your relationship.
It could be anything from a particular movie you watched together or a place you two visited.
The point is to make them reflect on a time that was emotionally compelling with you.
A walk down memory lane makes most of us feel nostalgic. And let me tell you something, nostalgia is a powerful drug that makes the past appear better than it even was.
Not only have you reminded them of a great moment from your past relationship but the fact that you never reached out them coupled with your amazing transformation is bound to have an effect on him or her.
Step 5: Don’t be easy
In other words, play hard to get.
Regret is built on the backbone of making a mistake. For one to feel as if he or she made a mistake to breakup, they must be placed in a situation of not having certainty as to whether or not they can undo their action.
By playing hard to get, you create uncertainty and doubt within your ex.
Eventually, that uncertainty and doubt will transform into regret.
It may not happen as soon as you’d like but it will definitely happen. Especially if he or she has not completely moved on.
If someone opted out of your life, it shouldn’t be so easy for them to gain access back into it. They have to earn a chance.
Until they do, don’t just offer your attention and heart on a silver platter, no matter how much history you may share together.
You’re the prize now! Remember that!
You come first now
Wanting to make your ex regret breaking up with you is all good and fine but at the end of the day, your well-being, peace of mind and future matter more than your ex now.
You have to make your happiness a priority.
Don’t do any of these things just to get back at your ex. Do it for you first. Make these changes in your life to invite a brighter future.
Chances are, if you prioritize your well being and personal growth, by the time you reach a point of being completely happy as a single individual, you may meet a phenomenal person who knocks your socks off.
Trust me when I tell you that there’s so much more to be gained from making peace with the past and focusing on the future.
My hope is that not only do you know how to make your ex regret breaking up with you but also how to move on entirely from the breakup and find happiness.
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