You had a fight with your significant other, she just stormed off somewhere and won’t talk to you. Worried about losing her, you’re searching for answers on how to make her miss you after a fight. Here’s what you should do.
Apologize sincerely and genuinely, let her know you understand her point of view, give her some space, don’t chase after her, don’t try to bring up the argument again and let her come to you.
It’s not that she wants to just hear you say sorry.
More often than not, sorry doesn’t cut it.
Why? Because it doesn’t stipulate anything specific.
Why are you sorry? Is it because there’s an argument or that her feelings have been hurt?
There’s a subtle but significant difference between the two.
If you’re just apologizing to ease the situation, it won’t make much of a difference.
Furthermore, you want to know how to make her miss you after a fight, not be even more frustrated with you.
So it’s in your best interest to listen up because this can save you a ton of stress.
Let’s take a deeper look into everything I said above.
1. Apologize sincerely and genuinely
Expanding on what I said above, the words ‘I’m sorry’ only hold significant weight in a relationship when you insert sincerity behind them.
It’s not just about the disagreement or fight.
Your lady wants to feel like you genuinely care about her. This includes making an effort to speak about how she may be feeling.
When you can prioritize her feelings over being right in the moment, that’s how you break down those walls she has up now.
Being able to set aside the argument and your ego to acknowledge how she feels will project a strong sense of masculinity and compassion.
Two traits in a man that women love.
Rather than appear weak, she will view you as a strong and confident man who genuinely cares about her. Your willingness to care for her even when she is unable to do so during an argument will make her miss you like crazy.
Most guys let fights get too far.
Rather than stopping it before your lady loses her cool and possibly becomes enraged, men will argue their point without listening. Don’t participate in relationship fights, nobody wins. That’s my philosophy.
With that being said, a real apology touches on two things:
- Why she feels hurt.
- How your actions contributed to her feeling hurt.
If you can touch on both of these things in your apology, chances are such it will calm her down and speed up the time in which she starts missing you after a fight.
Here’s an example – “Honey, I’m really sorry. I said some pretty rude and selfish things in the heat of the moment. It was wrong of me and uncalled for. My behavior must have made you feel unheard and disrespected. I am really sorry and I love you.”
2. Try to understand her point of view and vocalize it
An argument or fight doesn’t actually stem from a difference of opinion. In actuality, it is the disregard of each other’s opinion or account of events with the intention to be right.
Is that always a bad thing? I don’t know. That’s debatable. I’m sure circumstances play a big role in deciding that.
However, most fights can be avoided or diffused by taking the time to understand the other person’s point of view.
It doesn’t make their point of view automatically right.
But it equips you with the ability to diffuse the situation whilst showing her where her actions may have been wrong.
Not to judge her, but to help her understand Your point of view.
When you’re rendering that apology, be sure to mention the merits of her ‘case’.
Let her know that you understand where she’s coming from. One of the worst things you can do in a relationship is to make your partner feel unheard.
The idea behind these first two points is to get her out of that fight mode. Thereafter, she has nothing left to fight about and that’s when she’ll start to miss you.
Most of us remain angry when we feel like we didn’t get our point across. Remove that from the equation and you’re halfway there.
3. Give her some space and don’t chase after her
If you’ve tried to be reasonable, apologized and even did your best to explain that you understand her point of view but she doesn’t budge, that’s when you should stop and give her some space.
Most guys chase after their girl non stop, beg for forgiveness or explode when she doesn’t budge, all of which makes the situation worse.
She starts to see you as a weaker guy who falls apart without her.
Don’t be tricked into believing that this behavior is cute, it’s not. It’s an attraction killer. It may have worked when you were a teenager but that’s where it ends.
In most fights, both parties are to blame. Don’t be the only one trying to make amends.
At the end of the day, it takes two to tango.
So don’t text and call her like a crazy person. Give her some time to cool off and start thinking about what you’re doing or how you’re feeling.
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4. Ignore her
Up until this point, I shared a lot of advice that was based on you making amends, especially if you were wrong for overreacting or behaving like a jerk.
However, if your girlfriend is in the wrong and is behaving like a spoilt brat, you don’t have to put up with it.
First, try to be fair.
Try some of the steps above to diffuse the situation but if she relents and refuses to see reason, you have every right to walk away from the fight until she is willing to be loving and respectful to you.
If she doesn’t, don’t talk to her until she is willing to do so.
Why should you reward unhealthy and toxic behavior?
For a relationship to work, two people must come together with the intention to love, honor and respect each other at all times, not when it’s convenient.
If she fails to live up to that oath, then it is justifiable to ignore her.
Normally I don’t advocate ignoring someone, it can quickly tip into the side of immature and unhealthy behavior.
But, I would be amiss not to mention how effective this is in respect of how to make her miss you after a fight. Check out this article on how to make her chase you by ignoring her.
Ignore her until she reaches out saying she misses you or shows a desire to talk things out reasonably.
Then by all means, go back to being a loving and understanding partner.
Beware: Never ignore your woman when she is trying to fix things with you. This technique only works when she is being unreasonable and explosive.
5. Don’t blow up at her
I’ll tell you why. Unless the reason for the fight is astronomical, eventually she’ll get over it.
But if you fought like a maniac during the fight, it not only extends the period of which she remains angry but it makes her question whether you can handle her.
Women analyze all of these things to determine whether a particular person can make an ideal spouse.
If you manage to maintain your calm and not fall into a pit of rage where you act other than how you normally would, she’s going to come out of this fight being even more attracted to you.
Imagine how strong willed you are to remain composed in such a situation.
That’s what she’s going to be thinking about.
Watch how quickly she starts to miss you thereafter. It works like a charm.
Love is patient
Trying to rush someone to feel a specific way is a pointless endeavor. You can never truly do that.
Instead, be patient. It’s a virtue that will benefit you tremendously in a romantic relationship.
More often than not, patience was the answer to any problematic romantic situation.
I have always had a problem with being patient. My preference is to take action in life and find a way to fix a problem but I’ve taught myself how to remain patient over the years.
The time you spend waiting becomes time spent diffusing your own anger. By the time you and your partner start talking or discussing things again, you’re in a much healthier headspace to deal with it appropriately.
That’s the end of this article on how to make her miss you after a fight. I hope it was informative and enjoyable to read.
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