If you’ve met a girl who knocks your socks off, I can imagine how nervous and excited you are to be with her. The only problem is that you’re not sure of how to make her like you.
The most important tip I can give you is to be authentic. Nothing is more sexy and attractive to a woman than a man who is confident enough to take ownership of his true self.
Being authentic simply means to understand what you like or dislike and to allow that understanding to be expressed in your life.
Most guys sacrifice their authenticity to be a nice guy and yet nice guys finish last and get rejected all the time.
Rather than be a man of substance and opinion, they become Yes Men who are desperate for the approvals of women.
Unfortunately, in seeking that approval, they are rewarded with denial and rejection.
Place a greater emphasis on being your authentic self around her. And if she can see your value, then there’s a great chance you will make her like you without having to do much work other than being yourself.
Now let’s take a quick look at the best 15 tips on how to make her like you.
- Make her laugh.
- Don’t chase her.
- Take her on fun dates.
- Be spontaneous.
- Be charming and romantic.
- Be mysterious.
- Get to know her soul.
- Be trustworthy.
- Give her space to miss you.
- Leave her wanting more.
- Make an effort to look good.
- Drop hints about how you feel.
- Be as patient as you can be.
- Make her a little jealous.
- Avoid insulting her or your ex.
With that being said, let’s talk about each of these tips on how to make her like you in more detail and how they apply to real-life situations.
1. Make her laugh
The quickest way to a girl’s heart is by making her laugh.
Laughter is associated with good feelings like positivity, high energy, joy and fondness.
Expectedly, a feeling like love is nurtured through those above-mentioned feelings.
People are actually not that hard to understand. We gravitate towards those who stimulate some form of compelling feeling within us.
In a romantic context, making her laugh will make her feel good. Sooner or later, she’s going to associate happiness with you. And that, will have a profound effect on whether or not she begins to like you.
2. Don’t chase her
Despite what you may think, women are used to being chased by guys all the time.
If it worked, they wouldn’t be single ever or those guys would be successful. But, they’re not.
It’s simple. Chasing a girl has the potential of making you look weak, needy, desperate and clingy. None of these attributes are attractive in a man.
If anything, a man of substance and abundance in his life does not have the time to chase anyone. He may pursue women but he never sacrifices his self worth and dignity for the attention of a woman who just isn’t interested.
When you understand that it’s far more beneficial to let women come to you, there’s no need to chase them.
Women who have an interest in you will make the time to talk and see you.
3. Take her on fun dates
Remember how I said that good feelings nurture the growth of love? Well, what’s a better way to have fun than by going on fun dates.
Women are known for judging the potential of a partner based on the first few dates.
If you’re boring and predictable, it doesn’t leave much to desire.
Fun dates create the perfect opportunity for you to connect with her on a deep and personal level.
Establishing a connection with people develops via experiences. The more fun, unique, exciting and thrilling experiences you have with her, the more she may connect with you.
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4. Be spontaneous
It’s far easier to have fun dates if you are spontaneous.
Trust me when I tell you that Anyone can be spontaneous. Yes, to some extent, being spontaneous dictates being unpredictable and willing to do new things in the spur of the moment.
But there’s another way of being spontaneous. Rather than falling into a routine, change things up.
Don’t take her to the same place to eat all the time. Text or call her at different intervals. Make a move on her when the moment feels right.
Seize every moment you get to have a great time with her and you’ll naturally find yourself trying new things and being spontaneous.
5. Be charming and romantic
Chivalry and romance will never get old. If a woman is even remotely interested in you, being romantic will work to your advantage.
Obviously, too much too soon can be scary. But, for the most part, being charming and romantic is a must.
- Give her a genuine compliment when the situation calls for it.
- Make a thoughtful gesture to make her feel special.
- Write a sweet note for her or surprise her with flowers on a date.
These little romantic gestures go a long way in cultivating romance, especially when you start seeing her more often.
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6. Be mysterious
What makes the early phase of courtship so enthralling and exciting is the uncertainty of it all.
Not knowing how she feels, when things will develop and what could be in the future is exciting.
It makes you fantasize and think about the possibilities of being with that person.
All these events have a wonderful effect on attraction and affection.
I understand how difficult it is to maintain some mystery when you start liking a girl. But, it would serve you better to be more mysterious and prolong the uncertainty until the sexual tension boils over.
Rather than divulge every little detail about your past, your routine and your life, let her unpack the mystery of your soul bite by bite.
Let her wonder about your feelings for a while as well. When the moment feels right, tell her. By then, she’ll probably be begging you to share your feelings with her.
Seriously, I cannot emphasize the importance of being mysterious when learning about how to make her like you. They go hand in hand.
7. Get to know her soul
If you really like her, the desire to discover the deepest truths of her soul will excite you.
Most guys are so obsessed with their desire to be with a girl, they forego the essential step of connecting with her on a personal and emotionally intimate level.
- Ask questions that encourage her to open up to you.
- Share stories with her from your past that are meaningful and wholesome.
- Be a voice of reason and strength. Find out her opinion on different topics.
By doing this, not only will you connect with her on a meaningful level but she will feel truly seen and understood.
That, in and of itself, will make her like you.
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8. Be trustworthy
Honesty is always the best policy. And a woman who can trust you is one who can love you.
Trust is at the very core of every relationship. If you can show her that you are trustworthy, half the battle is won. She will let her walls down and give you many opportunities to earn all of her trust.
Avoid telling lies. Be brutally honest when you need to be. Keep your word when making promises. Show up on a consistent basis.
All of these habits will work magically at building trust and earning her respect.
9. Give her space to miss you
As much as it would be nice to spend as much time with her, space away from each other is healthy.
If all you are was brownies, you’d eventually get sick to the stomach of all that sugar and cocoa.
Similarly, spending too much time with someone can lose its excitement. Avoid smothering her.
Don’t text her all the time. Don’t sit on the phone for hours. Wait a few days before setting up the second or third date.
Distance actually makes the heart grow fonder. Use that time away to work on other areas of your life so that when she sees you again, you’re better than you were before.
10. Leave her wanting more
Don’t overstay your welcome. If you want her to be begging to see you again, leave the interaction during a good spell and before she gets bored.
End a call on a good note or end dates while you’re both having a wonderful time.
The more you do this correctly, the more she’ll chase after you and value the time she gets to spend with you! That’s how you make her like you – by increasing your value in her eyes.
11. Make an effort to look good
Women are not as superficially driven than us guys but that doesn’t mean they don’t appreciate the effort when they see it.
Show her your best side.
Make an effort to style your hair, iron your clothes, get them tailored to fit you well, use a good scented cologne and practice good personal hygiene.
This effort you make will accumulate and improve your physical appeal. Take every advantage you can get!
12. Drop hints about how you feel
Sometimes, guys are not the best at expressing their feelings. This can leave a woman feeling very confused about how you feel.
At first, this can work to your advantage by creating mystery and excitement.
But as time goes on, it can be misconstrued as a sign of low interest which is obviously not what you want. She could get frustrated and give up.
That’s why, it’s important for you to drop some hints.
- Let her know when you find her beautiful.
- Mention the things you like about her.
- Tell her how much you enjoy her company.
She will get the hint, I promise. Do it with a chill vibe and without expecting any sort of response from her.
13. Be as patient as you can be
Never try to rush a woman into a relationship. You’ll scare her off and chase her out of your life.
Love can never be rushed, only nurtured. Patience is a virtue that will serve you well in relationships.
Women will go so far as to test you at times to determine whether you’re secretly a douchebag who lacks emotional control.
By being patient, you can portray strength to her and she’ll love it. When the time is right, she’ll definitely let you know that she likes you.
All you have to do is focus on having a good time and giving her more reasons to spend time with you.
Leave the rest to time and destiny.
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14. Make her a little jealous
Jealousy can be a potent motivator to make someone yours. But it can also push someone away and blow up in your face.
But, I would be amiss not to mention its efficacy at making a girl like you.
A bit of jealousy can be endearing and fun. Don’t check out other girls in front of her or anything like that.
Instead, tease her about a celebrity or actress you find really hot or beautiful. Be playful and flirtatious while you’re at it.
Follow this up by making her feel like she’s extra special to you. This will make her feel really good!
15. Avoid insulting her ex or your ex
Even if her ex or your ex deserves to be lambasted, you shouldn’t do it.
If you can talk poorly about your ex, it will make her wonder whether you’d do the same thing to her if things didn’t work out with the two of you.
The mature thing would be to show respect and humbleness even when you have every right to be rude or critical of an ex.
Instead of focusing on the past, focus on her and the future. Don’t waste your time talking about your ex or old relationships. There’s really nothing to be gained from it.
The last thing you want is to give her the impression that you’re stuck in the past or hung up on your ex. Nor do you want to take the chance to share stories that paint you in an unattractive and poor light.
This is everything you need to know on how to make her like you
If you can stick with the tips and techniques in this guide for a significant period of time, I’m more than certain you’ll master the art of how to make her like you.
Keep in mind, with consistent practice, you’ll become better and better at getting women to fall for you.
Don’t sweat the small stuff. If you make a mistake, dust yourself off and pick up where you left off.
In being cool, calm and collected, you drastically improve the way you handle yourself in testy situations.
With that being said, I hope you enjoyed this article and it opened your eyes to some important and fine details on the art of pursuit.
Feel free to share your thoughts or questions on how to make her like you in the comment section below. I’m looking forward to hearing from you and continuing the conversation.