Investing your time in someone only for them to disappear without a trace or explanation can be heartbreaking. But, it’s also incredibly disrespectful. It’s completely normal to feel betrayed and to desire justice. So, in today’s article, I’m going to share everything you need to know on how to make a guy regret ghosting you.
The best way to make a guy regret ghosting you is by blocking him and not allowing him back into your life ever again. You could call him out for it, if you want, but in most cases, you will be met with silence or excuses with a lame attempt at gaslighting you. So, the only thing you need to do is move on with your life like he never existed.
When dating, you will inevitably cross paths with someone who has bad values and low integrity.
Rather than handling rejection respectfully, they will resort to immature and disrespectful behavior like ghosting.
I think the worst way to reject someone is by ghosting them because it doesn’t even give them any closure.
Granted, rejecting someone is difficult, awkward and painful. It’s not exactly a fun thing to do. But, it’s not as if ghosting is any less painful or awkward. One could argue that it’s a much more painful thing to do.
Imagine, this person who is ghosting you is fully aware of their intentions and they are aware of your intentions whenever you reach out.
They’re choosing to ignore your texts until you disappear!
Let that sink in.
Every time you text or try to call him, he’s aware of it and making a conscious decision to ignore you and pretend like you don’t exist.
That’s disrespectful to you.
In response, you should adopt the same approach and pretend like he doesn’t exist for you anymore.
He may come to the conclusion that his decision was a mistake or he may reach out again for selfish motives.
When he does, what he should be rewarded with is silence.
Moving on and forgetting him altogether is the greatest form of revenge you can take on a guy who ghosts you.
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What Is Ghosting?
Typically, it is described as the act of ignoring someone’s texts, calls and attempts at meeting without any explanation or communication whatsoever.
It is a term that gained popularity since the invention of online dating and instant messaging.
Unfortunately, it is a persistent problem that is faced by anyone who engages in dating these days.
The problem is that people have gotten too comfortable with dissociating their online behavior with their real life behavior.
In some cases, it can be argued that they are one and the same.
I would argue that if your online behavior has an effect on someone else’s health or well being in real life then there’s no difference in whether it’s an online act or not.
From my own observation and experience, I’ve noted that ghosting is often associated with people who display questionable moral integrity.
It’s not always the case but it certainly paints an ugly picture about someone’s choices or refusal to acknowledge the consequences of their behavior.
When you have been ghosted by a guy, it will become apparent to you after some time has passed and he hasn’t replied to any of your texts or calls.
You may end up being blocked online or he has completely vanished online.
Unless he has died or it has only been a few days, the likelihood of being ghosted by him is pretty high.
Let’s be honest with each other for a second. Nobody is so busy that they can’t spare a minute to text you back in days.
If they can’t, you’re either not a high priority to them or they don’t care enough.
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Should You Contact A Guy Who Ghosts You?
Is there a reason to do so other than to get closure?
Even then, there’s no guarantee that you’ll get any closure from him at all and you’ll end up having to get closure from within yourself either way.
The reason why I think it’s not a good idea to contact a guy who ghosts you, even to confront him, is because it does little for you.
If anything, it may give him a sense of importance that he doesn’t deserve at this point.
When someone chooses to walk out of your life in such a haphazard and hurtful manner, they do not deserve a second of your time.
Be that as it may, I’m also against the idea of allowing people to say or do what they want without any repercussions for poor behavior and hurtful words.
Examine the time you’ve spent with this guy, the extent of your relationship with him and your overall feelings and then decide on whether it’s worth your time to confront or contact him.
If you decide to contact him, don’t let it be for the reason of trying to get him back.
That would be utterly disrespectful to yourself.
Never reward someone for treating you like trash by allowing them to remain in your life or to remain the same.
Let him know how you feel about his behavior and then block him.
Perhaps, that may deter him from treating some other woman in the same manner.
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What Is The Best Form Of Revenge On Someone Who Ghosts You?
Ultimately, the best form of revenge is to walk away and never look back.
You’re a great person and you were upfront with him. You are never going to regret being a loyal person with integrity.
He may not be able to say the same and if he undergoes character development, chances are such that he will regret, especially if you walk away without resorting to cursing him for ghosting you.
Don’t let the actions of another influence you to behave uncharacteristically.
Approach this entire situation like a breakup but celebrate the fact that a toxic and low integrity person has walked out of your life. Thus, freeing up space and time for you to meet someone much better than him.
Take some time to process it, do not blame yourself or critique yourself for this and take away any positive lessons you can from being ghosted.
It will be difficult but that’s when you grow the most.
I understand that you may feel rejected and your self esteem may take a knock but bear in mind that a high quality person would not ghost you.
So, is it really worth it to critique yourself over someone who doesn’t even have the same quality and level of character that you have?
I don’t think so.
Instead, exercise self love and care to heal and grow from this.
Don’t let people like this ruin your perception of love and yourself.
You deserve much better than that!
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It can be tempting to focus on not getting ghosted again or making a guy regret ghosting you after an experience like this but it would be much better and more productive to focus on finding people with integrity because this is not something that they will partake in.
As Maya Angelou said, “When someone shows or tells you who they are, believe them.”
If this guy ghosts you and doesn’t want to make the effort to build something special with you or even be an upstanding guy, then let the trash take itself out.
On the off chance that you feel like you behaved in a manner that influenced his decision to ghost you, examine that behavior and learn from it.
There’s always something good that can be taken away from a bad experience.
As long as you seek out growth, you’ll never lose hope in finding what you want and in building the kind of life and relationship your heart desires.
With that being said, I hope you found this article on how to make a guy regret ghosting you to be consoling and helpful. If you have any questions or thoughts that you would like to share with me, please go ahead and leave a comment down below.