You wouldn’t need to worry about a guy rejecting you if he’s chasing you, right? At the risk of sounding like a network advert, what if I told you that it was simple to learn how to make a guy chase you by ignoring him? Guess what, it is simple and I’m going to show you how.
To be chased by a guy, you must be a challenge. To be a challenge, you must have requirements that need to be satisfied before rewarding him with your attention, affection and commitment.
Which begs the question, how can you be a challenge?
Play hard to get. In other words, make him work to earn any of your attention. You can do this by ignoring him.
Quick disclaimer – unless you understand the art of how to ignore him to attract him, you risk losing him altogether. I strongly advise you to read this article multiple times and stick to the rules laid out below.
With that being said, let’s talk about how to make a guy chase you by ignoring him.
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1. Play hard to get
When people make the mistake of giving too much of themselves too quickly, they run the risk of being undervalued.
We see this happen all the time, in different areas of life.
Unless you are willing to negotiate, you will always be subjected to the treatment and results you get from others based on what they think you deserve.
If they think your value doesn’t warrant good treatment, you’ll experience very poor behavior from men.
Make him work for your attention. Just because he texts or calls, doesn’t mean you need to drop everything you’re doing for him. Learn how to make him want you and start by playing hard to get.
It’s okay to ignore him for a few hours until you’re free enough to talk to him. When you do reply, he will value it more so than if you are Always at his beck and call.
Even if you both have had a fight and he refused to make amends or an effort to fix things, ignore him. Give him the same treatment he gives to you.
When he gets a taste of his own medicine, the fear of loss will make him feel uncertain and anxious.
Not only will he contact you but he may even start chasing you. What you just always remember is that to be chased, you have to withhold something for a short period of time.
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2. Initiate no contact
When a guy rejects or dumps you, the common reaction most women have is to either chase him or fight with him.
Neither of these reactions improves your chances of getting him back or making him chase you.
In fact, one could successfully argue that chasing him after being rejected or dumped will only make you look weak, desperate, needy or clingy.
None of which have a positive effect on attraction at all.
That’s when the no contact rule comes into play.
By eliminating all communication with him, you essentially regain some of the power, control and dignity that are taken away by rejection.
Rather than expose yourself to the dreadful friend zone, you end up walking away and living your life without wasting precious time and energy on him while he doesn’t value you romantically.
What I know is that most people come back after no contact. Even if it’s just to find out how you’re doing, they’ll come back.
No contact asserts your dignity and self-respect.
It sends a message to him that you are going to move on with your life and find someone else.
No contact is basically the extreme version of how to make a guy chase you by ignoring him.
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3. Re-initiate contact only when he shows these signs
If you really want to encourage him to chase you, reward him a bit when he makes an effort to get your attention and affection.
Engage him a bit, call him back or even meet him on a date.
After the date, don’t be the first to message him that you had a good time. In fact, wait for him to reach out and only then resume talking to him.
If you can get him to start chasing you, then it’s perfectly okay to start feeding him much more of your time and attention.
Essentially, this will wire his brain to associate effort with reward. Now that he knows he’ll gain your attention by chasing you, he’ll continue to do it more and more.
Now that we understand the basic principles of how to be a challenge as well as how to ignore him, let’s talk about the types of situations that warrant you to take this form of action.
Ignore him when he’s fighting unreasonably
When your words fall on deaf ears and he doesn’t seem to get the message that fighting with you is ruining the relationship, ignore him.
Use this technique as a last resort. It’s an extreme way of affirming that you are no longer going to accommodate toxic and unjustifiable behavior.
If you do the opposite, then you inadvertently send a message that his behavior is acceptable and he’ll continue to do it.
There’s no point in arguing with a man who is raging and refuses to listen to you.
Ignore him when he talks about another girl
Never reward a man for rubbing it in your face that he is interested in other women.
If anything, this is the perfect time to ignore him so that you can determine whether he really likes you or if he isn’t as interested as you thought.
If you don’t have thick skin and if knowing about another girl is going to make you act insecure, needy, clingy or jealous, then temporarily ignoring him is the ideal response.
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Ignore him if he doesn’t make an effort
The biggest mistake women make is giving undying love and attention to someone who doesn’t make the same effort.
When you feel like he just isn’t as invested in the relationship or if he undervalued you, ignore him as a last resort.
Talk to him at first and clearly articulate your needs. But if he continues to ignore them then you can ignore him.
Sometimes, a reminder that we can lose what we have is enough to remind us of how much we value and need it in our life.
Ignore him when he doesn’t pay attention
An effective way of gaining someone’s attention is to remove yours. It’s not an easy thing to do, especially if you have worked hard to make him happy.
But, if you no longer feel like a high priority and he has fallen into a comfort zone, removing your attention may be enough to reinvigorate the relationship.
Most guys don’t realize that they are making this mistake. They’re so preoccupied with their thoughts that they lose sight of what’s important.
I can’t begin to tell you how many guys contacted me shocked that they were dumped.
They thought the relationship was going well. When I prod into any sort of complaints their girlfriends or wives had, it was a common occurrence that they felt unappreciated or misunderstood. These men just didn’t listen.
It seems worryingly easy for men to fall into a comfort zone after getting the girl.
They may not take you seriously when you complain about not getting attention. They just assume that you’re going to stick around.
Talk to him about it. Be mature about it. But if he doesn’t reciprocate the same effort you do, then I think ignoring him to gain his attention is justifiable.
It gives him a taste of what could happen if he doesn’t make an effort to be present. That’s why this technique is so effective.
In the long run, it’s alot better than losing the relationship.
Focus on your own identity
I speak about this quite often but self-development and improvement is instrumental in life and relationships.
If you’re not getting better, you’re getting worse. Comfort zones and stagnation always result in the degradation of quality.
By focusing on your health, fitness, career, social group and happiness, you will become a woman of higher value.
How could he possibly resist you when you are becoming such a dynamic individual?
Self-development doesn’t just affect one area of your life. It affects your entire being.
Look at someone who was unhealthily overweight and put in the work to improve themselves.
Their body changes but so does everything else. Their relationship with food improves. Their overall demeanor is more positive and uplifting. Their self-confidence skyrockets. Not just because they lost weight but because of the act of losing weight. Their efforts and consistency created that result.
Because they develop this newer, healthier and stronger version of themselves, it spread into other areas of their life.
That ability to work hard, stay consistent, be positive and confident starts to show up in the career and love life.
The same result is possible from any and all forms of self development.
Go study something. Read more books. Exercise harder. Work on your business. Improve your career skills.
Do something to improve yourself and I promise you, the way you behave and approach relationships will improve as a side effect.
I am willing to guarantee that you’ll have him eating out of your palms in no time.
Stop ignoring him when he makes an effort
I cannot begin to emphasize how important it is for you to stop ignoring him at a certain point because if you take it too far, you run the risk of losing him.
To properly identify when is the perfect time to stop ignoring him, you need to have a firm understanding of what behavior you are trying to elicit from him.
- Do you want him to pay more attention to you?
- Do you want him to apologize for not making you a higher priority?
- Do you want him to express his desire to talk to you again?
- Do you simply want him to miss you?
Based on the above, as soon as he does one or more of these things, you can start talking to him again.
A word of caution: Don’t do this often. Ignoring someone is an unhealthy way of asserting dominance. It’s also not conducive to a healthy and loving relationship.
A healthy flow of communication is far more beneficial to the relationship than silence.
And please, I beg of you, don’t get carried away by ignoring him. Yes, you’ll feel good to see him chase you but if you don’t reward him with your attention and affection, you will lose him.
As soon as he owns up to his mistake or makes an effort to show you he cares about you, be accepting and welcoming. Show him that you appreciate his effort and in turn, it will encourage him to do more of what feels good for the both of you.
I hope that you found this article on how to make a guy chase you by ignoring him to be insightful. Like a superpower, you must exercise responsibility.
Stick to the guidelines set out in this guide and you’ll avoid making mistakes that ruin the relationship.
If you have any thoughts or questions you’d like to share, feel free to comment below and I’ll be sure to reply.
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