How To Make A Girl Think About You (The Ultimate Guide)

If your focus in life right now is on how to make a girl think about you, something is going wrong and I don’t say that lightly.

This mindset is flawed and incorrect.

For one, a girl thinking about you could be a negative thing. She could be thinking about how much of a friend you are or how desperate you are for her attention and validation.

Would you still want her to think about you if that were the context of her thoughts?

No, you wouldn’t.

Secondly, you can’t make anyone think anything.

At best, you can influence someone’s thoughts but that’s about it.

The only thing in your control is how you behave and the kind of man you are. That’s it. Everything else is out of your control.

Ironically, that is the most powerful thing at your disposal.

Having control of yourself and representing yourself with conscious intention can have a profound effect on what women think about you.

It can’t be faked nor can it be incongruent with who you are.

Women can easily sense fakeness from a man.

They pay attention most of the time.

Their intuition is often correct, even if they choose to ignore it.

If your habit or behavior development is centered around the reaction of women, you will fail to develop the necessary tools and traits that are required of you to be a man.

The best forms of growth come from hard work, pursuing big goals or a big dream, overcoming hardship, transforming your body, engaging in regular discourse, understanding your own mind, developing a world view and socializing with people.

Throw in some experience with women and you’ll become the kind of man that a lot of women want and think about.

I will touch on a few key points on how to make a girl think about you that are directly related to interactions with her.

But, I will also draw your attention to essential areas of your life that need work.

Women want men they respect.

I’ll teach you how to become a respectable man and that’s what your primary focus should be.

The result or reward of doing so is that you’ll be respected, wanted and thought about by girls.

Do you think a businessman has time to sit on his phone all day texting a girl? 

Absolutely not.

Do you think a surgeon has the time to check his social media accounts when he’s in the middle of a surgery that takes hours? 

Absolutely not.

They have no time to chase women.

The point I’m trying to make is that you will behave attractively without even trying by simply becoming a man of substance and value.

It’s as simple as that.

Let’s begin with some behavioral techniques that will make a girl think about you.

15 Proven Ways To Make A Girl Think About You

1. Give her space to miss you

Love or attraction is developed in person and in absence.

We’ve all had experience with this.

Think about the times when you were smitten over a girl. 

Were you not thinking about her or fantasizing about her as you lay in bed at night or while you’re driving somewhere, so on and so forth?

I was.

I’m sure you were as well.

That space didn’t diminish your attraction or interest.

It amplified your feelings.

If anything, you were probably excited to see her again.

When you did see her again, it felt amazing and you were engaged.

At the same time, you’ve also experienced what it’s like to have a woman throw herself at you.

You’ve probably dealt with at least one person who was always texting you, always hanging around you and constantly flattering you.

Were you thinking about her often?

Did you desire her often?

No.

Even if she were beautiful to you, it probably wasn’t as exciting as the girl who wasn’t chasing you.

That’s because scarcity breeds value.

We romanticize things that are not always in our life or presence.

She’s not going to forget about you over the period of a few hours or even a few days.

You don’t have to be talking or texting her all the time.

It’s not healthy nor is it attractive.

In fact, far too many men text girls out of liking them.

Give her some time to think about you.

It’s okay to focus on your work and to enjoy your hobbies or passions without texting or talking to her the whole time.

You need to read this article: How to make her miss you like crazy

2. Be attentive 

If you pay attention to what women complain about, especially regarding men, it usually boils down to a lack of attention.

They don’t feel heard or understood.

The men in their life are too self absorbed to pay attention to them like they would at first. 

Is it not true that poor communication often leads to breakups and divorces?

The misconception is that communication amounts only to speaking and talking.

In reality, communication consists of listening just as much as it does with talking. 

Additionally, what’s one of the best ways to remain mysterious and interesting? 

Ask people questions and talk less than the other person.

What we also know is that opening up women emotionally has a profound influence on their attraction and interest in you.

All this is only possible if you’re willing to pay attention to what she’s saying and doing.

Non-verbal cues are as important as verbal cues from a woman.

The only way you’re going to pick up on valuable information about how she thinks, behaves and feels is by observing her, asking questions, listening to what she’s saying and truly being interested in who she is.

So many of us enter the relationship scene with the intention of getting something from it.

This leads to a fixation of what we feel or think and this prevents us from being present in the moment and showing interest in a woman.

3. Don’t express your feelings too quickly

Part of what makes the courtship so exciting for women is the uncertainty. 

Wondering about you, thinking about you and fantasizing about you requires some degree of uncertainty or mystery.

Granted, not knowing how someone feels can cause anxiety, especially in men, but during the early phases of courtship, it’s quite a healthy phase. 

It builds anticipation unlike anything else.

Have you noticed how often guys who spew their feelings early on get friendzoned or rejected?

It kills all the mystery in the courtship too early.

Timing is a relevant factor and if you want to make a girl think about you, there’s merit in waiting until a better time to confess your feelings. 

If things are moving in the right direction, chances are such that a girl will show you all sorts of signs that she’s thinking about you and developing deeper feelings for you.

That’s usually the best time to consider declarations of love or exclusivity. 

On average, confessing feelings of love for someone you know for less than a few weeks is too forward and odd.

Women fall in love much slower than men.

Keep that in mind. 

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4. Be interested in her rather than trying to be interesting

Perhaps the best book that I’ve read on communicating and building rapport with people is How To Win Friends And Influence People.

I wouldn’t be able to do justice to the contents of that book just within this article, so, I encourage you to grab a copy of it.

One of the key tenets of making friends is to be interested in what others have to say.

Men spend so much time trying to impress women with their accomplishments and feats that they forget the entire point of meeting with women.

With the right type of women, it’s not your accomplishments or materialistic possessions that will convince them to be with you.

In fact, the average woman of today is educationally empowered and can afford to take care of herself.

More than anything, women want to feel in love.

They want to feel special, powerful, loved and appreciated.

The more time you spend on opening her up emotionally and mentally, the more interest she’s going to have in you.

Most of us want to be truly understood and loved for who we are.

Once you satisfy that feeling, it’s only a matter of time before she’s completely interested in you romantically and for a serious relationship.

To be honest, I shouldn’t have to be telling you this.

The whole point of a relationship is to share your life with someone.

Before even considering a relationship, you ought to know who you’re spending time with.

A pretty face and pretty words are not enough information for you to adequately decide whether a woman is compatible for you.

How could you possibly fall in love with someone without knowing them beyond a superficial level?

Engage her on a variety of topics, ask for her opinion on things in your life or on interesting topics, find out how she’s feeling about herself, so on and so forth.

When you show interest, it is often reciprocated and it’s a great way to make a girl think about you.

5. Be unpredictable

The best way to keep a girl on her toes is to be unpredictable. 

If you’re going to give her a reason to think about you, let it be due to the fact that you’re spontaneous.

One of the quickest and easiest ways to ruin all anticipation and mystery from a relationship or courtship is by falling into a routine.

Most guys are familiar with this.

You call at the same time, you text the same good morning messages, you take her to the same place on the same day each week and you do the same few things that you’ve always done with her.

You’re predictable and too regimented. 

That’s a surefire way of being boring to a girl.

When she doesn’t know what to expect from you, it gives her reason to think about what you’re going to do, what you’re going to say and when you plan to see her again.

You need to read this article: How to be more mysterious

6. Live an interesting life

Throughout history, men have carried the responsibility of creating a life that a woman can become a part of.

This means to provide.

Not just necessities but experiences and wonderful memories.

It’s the masculine prerogative. 

To live an interesting life means to pursue your dreams, goals, passions and hobbies. 

• Who are you? 
• What are the things that you like?
• What fuels your body with excitement and joy?
• What kind of life are you trying to create?
• What are the things you love to do?
• What is the code that you live by?

These are important questions to ask yourself because these are the subconscious questions that go through a woman’s mind when she’s with you.

She’s wondering whether the life you live and the man you aspire to be is one that excites and interests her.

It’s not just about materialistic things.

For instance, I know of religious men in my own life who live a simple, spiritual and grounded life. Their partners enjoy this lifestyle and find a great deal of interest in the simplicity and spirituality.

Essentially, be who you want to attract.

I advise you to make a list of 100 things to do, be or become and pursue that with earnestness. 

You’ll live a wholesome and interesting life. 

The benefit or reward is that the right woman will be insanely attracted and interested in you.

7. Compliment her without seeking validation

Women are inundated with compliments from men, especially online. The average guy assumes compliments as the go-to method for sparking interest in a girl.

This is a poor approach to adopt in your life.

Most of the time, you will be overlooked or friendzoned. 

Women are not looking to be tricked into interest via unearned compliments.

It’s neither sincere nor romantic and women don’t care all that much for it.

The right type of compliment comes unexpectedly and from the heart. It’s not about silly or obscure things like the color of her watch or the material of her clothes.

A genuine compliment isn’t dependent on any kind of validation or response. 

If you are saying things to elicit interest or affection, then your ulterior motive is to feel validated by her.

You’ve shifted things from her to you.

Your compliment to her is merely a tool to get her to notice you and that is unattractive.

So, when giving a compliment, make sure you’re being sincere and truthful without expecting a specific reaction from her

If the main objective of the compliment is to express admiration and to make her feel good, then you’re on the right path and she’ll sense it.

You need to read this article: Should I tell her she’s pretty?

8. Flirt with her unexpectedly

When examining conversations between women and men on dating apps, I’m taken aback by how boring or sexual men are.

They’re either a wet fish or appearing like a hormonal teenager starved for sex.

It’s unattractive and off putting to women.

Forget making a girl interested, you’re making her bored or creeped out.

The sweet spot is in the middle.

Flirting is a sweet art that is playful with sexual undertones.

It doesn’t always have to include sexual undertones but it does have to project some form of attraction.

Think of flirting like a dance.

You’re moving with her and your only objective is to have a good time and make each other feel excited and joyful.

This can include teasing, quirkiness, playful remarks about each other and declarations of attraction that aren’t necessarily romantic.

Figure this out and I promise you that it will be a walk in the park to make a girl think about you.

9. Lead the courtship

Ask most women what’s lacking in men these days and they’ll state it’s the ability to lead. 

There are certain traditional archetypes or roles that best suit relationships.

In general, women enjoy the company of a man who can lead the courtship.

What this means is that she wants you to take charge of the courtship and relationship by figuring out when to see each other, by taking the initiative to make plans, by navigating the speed upon which things escalate and by having a goal for each other.

To lead is to also live your life by a certain code and manner to create joy, success and happiness.

A woman wants to feel safe in your company and she can’t do that if you don’t even know how to lead your own life.

So many girls wish they could meet a guy who knows how to handle them and the relationship. 

Do you think she wouldn’t be thinking about you if she was to find out that you’re a man who knows how to take charge of yourself and your life?

Start living life with direction and don’t be such a walkover.

You don’t need everyone’s approval in life.

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10. Communicate via different means

Let’s say that you’ve started texting a girl and things have been going well. It’s easy to fall into a pattern of dating but that becomes predictable and boring.

If you want to make a girl think about you, give her variety in communication.

What I mean is to break the pattern that she’s growing accustomed to.

Try using the following and disperse them into your conversations with her:

• Texts
• Voice notes
• Videos
• Calls
• Videos calls
• Memes

Let her experience your voice over calls and voice notes, your facial expressions and moods over videos and video calls, your sense of humor over memes and so on and so forth.

It keeps things exciting and engaging.

Additionally, you’re going to separate yourself from the pack who are playing it safe and boring by just texting.

Also, approach texting like a game of tennis.

Wait for her to reply before you engage. 

Don’t be the guy who is having a conversation with himself in her DM’s. 

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11. Be passionate

Every girl wants to feel like she’s a part of her very own love story.

If we examine romantic behavior, it exudes passion.

Passion is a potent emotion that injects high levels of excitement, love, attraction, desire and joy into whatever it’s being directed at.

A man who is passionate knows how to court a woman and make her feel special.

It’s not just about compliments and flirting. 

Your behavior can emanate passion and if you direct it at her, she’ll feel romanced.

If you really want to learn how to make a girl think about you, learn how to be passionately romantic.

In my experience, I’ve been passionate when I’ve surrendered to my feelings.

I wasn’t concerned with what others thought about me nor was I being afraid of judgment. I was free to be myself and when I was with someone, I was completely with them and I’d avoid all distractions.

12. Be trustworthy so that she can confide in you

As you get older in life, you begin to realize that it isn’t easy to meet people who have a similar standard of trustworthy behavior as you do.

Sadly, most girls are all too familiar with being lied to or cheated on.

Ironically, a relationship ought to provide safety and security.

Once you’ve been deceived or let down by someone you cared about, the value of trustworthy behavior skyrockets.

It becomes a priority in your love life and a necessity.

If you show up in a girl’s life and you provide that trust, she’s going to think about you all the time. 

This feeling of pure trust is unlike anything you’ve experienced before.

To have complete faith in your romantic partner is a blessing and can empower you in ways that I can’t even explain.

By remaining true to your word and speaking the truth, you’re creating a precedent that will benefit the two of you for as long as you are with each other.

Furthermore, when a girl encounters other people who don’t possess the same degree of trustworthiness as you do, she’s going to think about you.

13. Make her laugh and smile

If the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach then the way to a woman’s heart is through her laughter and smile.

Nurture interest and attraction with good experiences.

When being around you means to laugh and smile, a girl is going to associate good feelings with being with you.

When she’s going through the mundanity of life and dealing with issues in her day to day life, when she fantasizes or thinks about feeling good, she’s going to think about you. 

This will influence her feelings for you and increase her desire to be around you.

So, be fun and easy going.

Let your hair down, be playful and don’t take things too seriously.

You need to read this article: How to make a girl happy

14. Have boundaries and respect hers

Part of leading a relationship requires one to have boundaries. These are the rules of conduct that ensure you and your partner respect each other.

What we know is that respect is a fundamental requirement for love.

A woman who doesn’t respect you will never love you.

While it’s true that respect for each other is paramount, the first person you need to respect is yourself.

Unless you possess a healthy amount of self respect, it will not be easy for you to establish boundaries in a relationship.

There will be times when you have to exercise your boundaries against her behavior.

She may not agree with it at first but she’ll respect you for it.

Here’s what I know.

If you’re not willing to stand up to her if she crosses your boundaries and walks all over you, how do you expect her to have faith that you can stand up to other people for her?

Are you really going to protect her if you can’t even protect yourself?

One thing is for sure, she’ll be thinking about you when you’ve set boundaries, that’s for sure.

15. Have an opinion

As much as it’s enjoyable to be around like minded people who share similar interests, there’s also a great deal of enjoyment and value in differing opinions.

When you have an opinion, it creates an opportunity for healthy discourse.

There’s a difference between arguments and discourse.

One is built on the desire to be right while the other is built on a desire to engage, learn and examine.

When I think about some of the engaging conversations I’ve had with people, it’s often when we engage in discourse.

We may not agree on things but we respect each other’s opinions and have some degree of fun with a back and forth conversation.

I feel like women enjoy this a lot.

A lot of men just want to get their validation and so they just agree to whatever a woman is saying.

It’s insincere and boring.

I’m not saying to disagree on purpose but at least be willing to examine topics from a different perspective.

It’s an easy and effective way to make a girl think about you.

After every single healthy discourse, I’ve always gone home and thought about the person and what we discussed.

I’ve heard the same from them.

This is a fantastic way to stimulate a woman intellectually.

However, I would caution you against inflammatory topics like politics, especially on dates. It’s just not a recipe for good dialogue in this day and age unless you’re both mature, open minded and willing to have a respectful conversation.

Final Thoughts

If you have made it this far, congratulations. It shows me that you are committed to improving yourself and that is admirable.

Most of what is shared in this article requires you to make some changes to your behavior. It will be uncomfortable at first and you may make a few mistakes along the way but the experience will teach you the valuable lessons needed to be a highly desirable guy.

I think the last thing that I want to share with you on how to make a girl think about you is to select girls who have a high level of interest or attraction in you.

It’s often a waste of time to invest much of your time to convince a girl that you’re worth her time and effort if she has a low level of interest in you.

A girl like that will make little room for errors and she’ll misjudge you too quickly.

Be selective of who you allow into your life and choose girls who see your value early on.

You’ll live a much happier life like this.

And if you work hard to become a high value man, the kind of woman who will think about you and want you are those you’d want as well.

With that being said, I hope you found this article on how to make a girl think about you to be helpful and useful. I have an eBook on this topic that details everything you need to do to get the girl of your dreams. You can grab a copy of my eBook by Clicking Here.