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How To Make A Girl Chase You By Ignoring Her

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Under normal circumstances, ignoring a girl to attract her isn’t a recommended solution. But it would be amiss not to acknowledge and share the effectiveness of this technique. This is why I decided to write an article on how to make a girl chase you by ignoring her. Here’s how.

Remove your attention and effort until she realizes a change in the relationship dynamic. Upon which, she will start to miss you and reach out. When she doesn’t hear back from you, it makes her worry that she might have lost you.

At this point, not only will she start chasing you, but her attraction level will actually increase for a period of time.

There are many reasons why ignoring a girl makes her chase you.

  • Rejection often leads to a state of obsession.
  • Being ignored hurts the ego.
  • She will experience feelings of loss and fear that you will never come back.
  • She begins to miss you.
  • Damage done during the relationship or courtship disappears from the mind during time away.

As such, ignoring her can actually bring about some positive results in certain circumstances.

Normally, I don’t advocate ignoring someone on purpose. But if you’re left with no choice, then you may as well do what is known to work.

One can see why this is an effective tool for changing the power dynamic in a relationship. Look back at childhood. Parents were advised to ignore demands during a tantrum or bad behavior.

And if you were bad, then you were placed in a timeout, unable to do anything but reflect on your behavior. That’s how you teach a kid good behavior.

Essentially, it’s the same thing! The concept is exactly the same.

With that being said, let’s take a closer look at how to make a girl chase you by ignoring her and when to ignore her.

How To Ignore Her To Attract Her

First and foremost, you have to seize all communication. This may require you to not engage her in a conversation or to ignore her texts for a while.

The point of ignoring her is to get a certain message across. This means that there must be an end goal for ignoring her that stretches beyond attraction.

  • Are you trying to teach her a lesson?
  • Are you giving her a taste of what it feels like when she does the same?
  • Are you trying to undo the damage of your mistakes?
  • Are you trying to show her that you are not desperate?
  • Are you waiting for an apology?

Whatever it may be, think about the objective.

Why? So that you can accurately decide and be aware of when to stop ignoring her based on what she says or does.

Sometimes, a simple apology may be all that’s needed to stop ignoring her and get back to normal.

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In other cases, it’s her reaching out to you when she seemed uninterested at first.

Another thing you ought to do is identify the behavior or action she exhibits that encourages you to take this step before doing it.

Or else, you may ignore her for too long or for no reason.

In some cases, ignoring her dictates not reaching out to her until she does.

At that point, you can take her call or reply to her texts because the objective was to make her reach out to you.

But in more serious cases, you may need to take things a step further by reading her texts or seeing her calls but not responding to them.

When you do this, she’ll know that you read her text. She’s going to get upset.

This will influence her to text or call, and when she reaches out the next time to ask why you’re ignoring her, tell her the reason for it.

Now, let’s go over a list of scenarios for when to ignore her.

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When Should You Ignore Her?

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1. Ignore her when she is overly clingy and needy

Being too clingy or needy isn’t necessarily a bad thing. The intention is pure, and the motivation behind it can be endearing. But these two traits have an affinity for causing burnout in a relationship.

All of us require some time to ourselves.

During this time, we recharge and explore the parts of our individuality that are crucial for growth and development. But it also gives us time to miss our partner

We can’t do this if a needy and clingy partner refuses to dial it back when needed.

I know the last thing you’re thinking about right now is ignoring her to attract her when all you want is some space.

But the idea is to attract a particular behavior.

If she’s being clingy and needy despite all your attempts to create some balance in the relationship, ignoring her may reinforce the boundaries and attract her to act in a way that’s healthier for the both of you.

She’ll know that being clingy and needy doesn’t get your attention. So, she’ll act differently.

We can interpret this as a form of chasing you because she’s doing what you asked to get your attention back.

2. Ignore her when she’s fighting unreasonably

It’s never a good idea to reward behavior that is unwarranted and uncalled for.

This is especially true in relationships. A standard or level of respect is required for a good relationship. Without it, one or both partners may take advantage and fight unnecessarily.

Fights that turn ugly often lead to hurtful words and actions. All of which could be avoided by setting out some ground rules from the get-go.

If she is fighting with you for no reason and is crossing lines, don’t reward her. If anything, remove your attention and ignore her until she owns up to her actions.

Read this article on the signs of an unhealthy relationship.

Trust me, you want to be aware of the warning signs early on before too much damage takes place.

3. Ignore her when she talks about another man

Whether you’re together or if you’re courting each other, the last thing you want to do is entertain or react poorly to a woman bringing up another man.

Either choice places you in a bad light. You’re either encouraging her to look at you as more of a friend or to do it more to get a rise out of you.

The most ideal way to handle such a situation is with indifference. Avoid acknowledging it, change the subject, and ignore her attempts to talk about another man.

You could even go so far as to sarcastically or challengingly tell her to go after this guy.

What you don’t want to do is come across as too jealous or weak by listening to her gush about someone else.

4. Ignore her if she doesn’t make an effort to pay attention

All we get in life is what we negotiate for. If you’re not willing to negotiate better behavior out of those in your life, you’ll never have the kind of relationships your heart desires.

Part of attracting what you desire is to have standards. Standards usually indicate the qualifying or disqualifying phase.

If someone fails to meet your basic standards,they are disqualified. It’s as simple as that.

So when a woman you’ve invested your time in doesn’t meet you half way, not only does she not appreciate the time and effort you take out of your day to be with her, disqualify her of it.

In other words, ignore her if you must, but decrease or eliminate the effort you’ve put into the relationship or situation.

Only when she is willing to recognize your effort and meet you halfway, then you may return to normal. Up until then, maintain your standards and don’t entertain those who don’t care enough to pay attention.

Check out this article on how to stop being a nice guy. It’s a great read for a guy who finds himself being treated poorly.

4. Ignore her when she doesn’t seem interested

Most, if not all, guys will encounter this situation when dating and looking for a suitable partner.

You could have started out hot and heavy with a woman. As time pressed on, her interest started to flail. She is suddenly too busy to see you. And your texts go unanswered for a long time.

Rather than chase her, you should remove your presence from her life. You don’t have to make a fuss about it.

Simply stop. Ignore her.

If she reaches out with a text that is uninteresting or one-sided, ignore it.

Don’t reply back at all.

If there’s still some interest and attraction left behind, she will reach out after wondering where you disappeared.

Also, it sends an unspoken message to her that you are not desperate for her attention. If she’s not interested, then you’re going to focus your time and effort on finding someone who is.

Not only will you save face, but she will actually develop respect for you. More importantly, you’ll respect yourself for not chasing and lowering your dignity.

Take a look at this article on when to stop pursuing her.

Final Thoughts

If you don’t have strong willpower, it’s very easy to give in at the wrong time. The more you try to ignore someone and fail at it, the weaker you look.

That’s just one of the possible side effects of ignoring her to attract her. Then there’s the chance of ignoring her altogether.

You have to weigh each and every circumstance fairly and use other conflict resolution techniques or attraction techniques before resorting to this.

And when you do, be sure about it.

I just feel that the right person and the right relationship don’t have any need to ignore each other.

Be that as it may, I do hope you had an interesting time reading this article on how to make a girl chase you by ignoring her.

Head over to the comment section below and let me know what your thoughts are on ignoring a girl to attract her.

19 thoughts on “How To Make A Girl Chase You By Ignoring Her”

  1. Thanks, this article is a good reminder for me because I am in the middel such a situation right now. I have added ignoring her to earn her respect as another end goal. Indeed the difficult part is to not break radio silence, it’s 08:55 in the morning where I’m at right now. I plan to keep ignoring her until she notices it and there’s and there’s a shift in power dynamics.
    Thanks once again..

  2. What an awful way to treat a girl, it might trigger their insecurity and get them chasing you and ‘change the power dynamic’ but it won’t help build authentic trust or a relationship where you meet each other on equal standing, equal respect with an ability to talk through problems and find a middle ground. I’ve just had this done to me, and I walked and blocked him. Leaving someone hanging with no idea what they have done to cause it is cruel. Maybe when girls are younger or insecure the ‘treat them mean keep them keen’ behaviour might work, but if they have any self respect or awareness they will see through the games you are playing and lose all respect for you and your immature tactics, because they will see that you are deliberately causing them suffering as a way to gain power and control, and will this build trust?

    1. Hi Jane,
      As much as I agree with you, I feel like you missed the message of this article. I’m not advocating for anyone to play games or treat others with disrespect. Communication is the foundation of any relationship but this article applies to SPECIFIC situations that call for no communication. Silence can be powerful and helpful, especially when you’re dealing with someone who is disrespectful and won’t respect your boundaries in a relationship or unwilling to co-operate after you’ve tried communicating with them. I mean, that’s exactly what you did when he disrespected you. Why didn’t you continue messaging him and blowing his phone up? Because obviously, you’re not willing to put up with subpar behavior. From your comment, it sounds like you got ghosted. That’s extremely different from what’s talked about in this article. If you’ve read some of my other articles, I completely disapprove of ghosting. If you’d like to discuss this further, feel free to reply to this comment or send me an email. Perhaps, I can shed some light on what happened in your situation and whether you were just dealing with a poor quality man.

      1. I agree with you, Zak. Great response to Jane. I think she didn’t get the message of the article either. And I think silence management is totally mature, contrary to what she says. Silence, in some situations, is also communication. Silence is another way to respond. And it’s useful, not to control your partner, but to change the dynamics for a healthy relationship where both partners are respected, admired and loved. You can’t love someone you don’t admire, you can’t admire someone you don’t respect and it’s hard to respect those who don’t respect themselves. Emotional intelligence is extremely important in all life situations and it’s very, very attractive.

        1. Thank you Rommel. You hit the nail on the head and the way you described it was perfect. I couldn’t have said it better 🙂

    2. I think that is very positive to let the guys know that when a girl is not showing interest, they have to ignore, or, as I like to say, let go. Instead of encourage them to chase, or being annoying. Maybe the girl wants to be ignored, DAH!

  3. Great article! I had a situation where I text my girlfriend of 3 years on WhatsApp, she clearly read the message, didn’t respond. I don’t take things like this personally, I accept that she may have other things going on but I do find it rude and inconsiderate, so I basically mirrored her actions and did the same thing. She wrote me in the morning asking how I was, I just ignored it, for me a simple sorry I was busy or in the middle of something is enough for my peace of mind. Today as I write this she wrote me that she sent me messages and I am not responding to her. So it’s ok for her to ignore my messages, but it’s not ok with her for me to ignore hers. These games I don’t tolerate and I will continue to remove giving her attention, I completely withdrew, and that’s how it should be. I am not going to allow for someone to treat me like that. And neither should any other man allow this behaviour from anyone let alone your girlfriend. It’s such a small thing but very important because if she can show disrespect like that on a small level then maybe you should question if she has any respect for you at all. I am reaching that point where I still love her but ultimately you have to love yourself even if that means you move in and meet someone else. Have some dignity guys.

    1. Yes. That’s what’s this article is all about. Jane must be upset with someone, don’t worry Jane, you’ll find a solution for your problems in some other post 🙂 Hurray feminism

  4. Thank you so much Zak for this wonderful article.
    Rommel you nailed it Mann!!!
    Billy, am so happy for u Buddy!!! Never lose your dignity and self-respect trying to make people love and appreciate you when they just aren’t willing to!!!!

  5. WOW ZAK so your the reason why men are so messed up in dating!
    Only unhealthy females will tolerate being IGNORED what is wrong with you? You want a female to chase you?? ??where are your BALLS men are supposed to be the hunters
    I wish you luck i guarantee you need it

    1. I explicitly state that this should not be done in healthy relationships and with good women. You probably didn’t read the article or you would have known that silence is only advocated with people who are disrespectful, aggressive and rude. But, based on how you commented, I get the feeling that you fall into that category of women and some guy ignored you or ghosted you. Next time, read before you attack someone. It makes you look silly.

  6. Yeah ignoring her will make her want to reach out (if she is interested) but if u ignore her too much she will give in to another guy for comfort eventually. Communication is key

  7. I don’t think this works on high value women…ignore her for not giving you enough attention, ignore her for ignoring you, ignore her for being disrespectful.
    It is sad, I am currently being ignored by a man in his fifties, I have no idea why. Clearly it bothers me but I’ll be fine in a couple of weeks. I have an idea what he’s doing, I’m not going to be manipulated. Men should behave like men, high value women want to raise girls/boys to be men/women and you can’t do that when you procreate with boys. Evaluate what type of girls this works on, are they high earners? Are they desirable? Do they know the difference between there, their and they’re?
    Modern day women don’t want this bullsxit

  8. How to keep and control a low value woman and make her even more mentally unstable
    By Zac

    Congratulations on helping perpetuate the problem.

    How about teaching men good communication skills and honesty? How to have a healthy well bonded relationship rather then how to manipulate feelings.
    I can tell you 100% how all relationships like this end. The woman will eventually leave 100% of the time. Men then bemone to each other about how unfaithful she was and how she left him for some other bozo.
    If your hurting or your woman is hurting that should hurt you to your core and you should want to compromise with your partner. If they are asking for more then you can give you need to man up and breakup.
    This shit is ridiculous childish advice. What are you in highschool? You’re doing men a disservice. Your teaching them a hack that causes mental damage to both parties.

    1. Hi Cece, thank you for the aggressive and insulting comment. However, I’ll reply to your sentiments respectfully in an attempt to have a healthy discourse on the topic. This entire site is dedicated to helping both, men and women, deal with relationship issues. I’ve shared countless articles emphasizing the importance of communication. It is so abundantly clear that this article is dependent on a number of factors. The woman in question is not respecting boundaries, refuses to communicate healthily, the man makes countless attempts to communicate but she takes advantage of her man’s patience and effort. When these requirements are fulfilled, the advice in this article is offered as a LAST resort exercised by a man who is hoping to salvage a relationship that is dissolving. It is foolish, unrealistic and immature to imply that someone cannot exercise silence as a response to utter disrespect or disregard. In what Universe would anyone perpetuate silence and distance in a relationship with people who are happy and willingly trying to communicate with each other? The whole point of this article is a last resort effort to save a relationship that may already be at the brink of FAILURE due to a lack of communication and effort made by the woman. Often, people forget the value of what they have until the very thing is threatened to be removed from their life. Silence, can be a short term tool to give people a wake up call. At the same time, I recognize that there are toxic men who use silence as a weapon. But, they would do so irrespective of what’s written on the internet. My assumption, when writing an article on this topic, is that the reader is a good man who values his woman and wants to try something to save his relationship, not some toxic douchebag who wants to manipulate a woman. If you are dealing with men like that, perhaps, you need to look inwardly to address why you don’t have a better vetting process to avoid such men.

  9. Zak bro you the man. I already do good in this dept bro my level of understanding is high maybe so of these guys on here it isnt. Aye but ill be honest i did slip a little bit before a couple times and i can verify this article right here is like catching your step.

    To all the girls who comment, stfu and let those pure hearted loving weak men be taught how to fight the battles ahead. You had to learn with a daily blown up inbox we men didnt have that. Even good looking ones can go weeks with a msg. So stfu janes and karens, & one more time for my boy Zak

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