If you’re looking for the most comprehensive and proven techniques on how to get a guy to like you, then you’re in the right place.
Building love doesn’t have to be so complicated. If you understand some basic principles for how to nurture attraction, you can make a guy fall deeply in love with you.
I just want to emphasize one important point before we get into this article on how to get a guy to like you. You must first like and love yourself.
By that, I simply mean that you must develop a strong sense of self-worth and respect.
A woman who doesn’t respect herself will often find herself not respected by others, especially guys.
With a good sense of self-worth, you’ll behave in a way that encourages guys to pursue you like a queen.
Okay, so with that out of the way, here’s an overview of the top techniques on how to get a guy to like you.
- Make him pursue you.
- Don’t sit on the phone all day with him.
- Flirt with him.
- Make him feel like a man.
- Embrace your femininity.
- Be confident and authentic.
- Give him hints about how you feel.
- Be playful and spontaneous.
- Make an effort to look good.
- Avoid talking about an ex.
- Get him to talk about his passions in life.
- Be supportive and nurturing.
- Chase after your goals.
- Set standards for your dating life.
- Be ready to walk away.
With that being said, let’s discuss in detail how to get a guy to like you without chasing him desperately.
1. Make him pursue you
If he’s pursuing you, half the battle is won and he is definitely on the way to liking you.
Playing just a little hard to get can do wonders for attraction.
Your value and worth will increase knowing that your time, attention and affection has to be earned and isn’t just handed out like a freebie to anyone and everyone.
Don’t always be the one to text him first. Let him initiate contact and ask you out on a date. When he does things to earn your attention, reward him with it and he’ll want to do more of it.
When you notice he is starting to lose a bit of interest, pull back and give him the space to miss you again. All these little techniques have a profound effect on men and their level of attraction.
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2. Don’t sit on the phone all day with him
Love is actually nurtured during real-life interaction. And as much as you enjoy chatting to him on the phone, there’s really a ceiling to how much the attraction can develop on this platform.
Getting him to make a move and ask you out on dates requires some degree of distance and silence. This is why calling or texting him for short bursts of time during the week is perfectly fine but don’t stay on the phone for too long.
By keeping it short and sweet, the attraction and sexual tension will mount. At which point, he’ll be more inclined to ask you out.
I tend to advise people to avoid texting all the time, especially during the early phases of courtship because it’s highly possible that something you say could be misconstrued, misinterpreted or simply off-putting.
Emotion and context do not always translate well over text.
It’s better to save up all your questions and thoughts for the conversation you have with him on a date.
This will create a fun filled experience devoid of awkward silences or dry spells during the date.
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3. Flirt with him
There’s no better way to convey attraction to a man than by flirting with him. It’s honestly not all that difficult. Here are a few tips on how to flirt with him.
- Compliment him on things you like.
- Tease him.
- Brush up against him.
- Make physical contact whenever you can.
- Bite your lips while looking at his.
- Maintain eye contact and be innocently seductive.
- Let him catch you checking him out.
You don’t have to do any outlandish to flirt well. Sometimes, less it more. Heck, with the right guy, he’ll make it easy for the interaction to become more flirty.
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4. Make him feel like a man
Men want to feel strong and protective of women they like. Given the opportunity to take care of you, he’ll jump at it.
Which is why, it’s okay to be a damsel in distress at times, even if you know for damn certain that you can easily take care of things yourself.
And when he’s chivalrous or helpful, compliment him about being such a great man. Men can actually be simple creatures once you figure out how to press our buttons the right way.
One of my friends isn’t what you would define as a manly man. He’s quite short, skinny and can’t grow much of a beard.
And yet, his girl knows exactly how to make him feel like a man by expressing her attraction for the things that are even remotely manly about him, like his ability to be courageous in difficult situations and so forth.
5. Embrace your femininity
Most men find the feminine features of a woman to be unbelievable sexy and attractive. It boils down to our instinctive nature as well as the attraction of opposites.
Men associate femininity and the beauty of it to the qualities possessed by their mothers and sisters.
The sweet scent of your perfume, the way you walk, the softness of your skin, the beautification of your best facial features and so forth.
If you Google the features of femininity, you’ll find the following items listed:
Nurturance, sensitivity, sweetness, supportiveness, gentleness, warmth, passivity, cooperativeness, expressiveness, modesty, humility, empathy, affection, tenderness.
Whichever of these traits are in your arsenal, highlight them around him.
6. Be confident and authentic
It’s a fact that confidence is sexy. Let me make something abundantly clear – confidence is not exclusive to those who look like some model. Confidence is accessible to everyone.
By nature, confidence stems from acceptance and belief in your own self-worth. What you deem to value most will determine the level of confidence you exude in your day to day life.
Focus on the areas of yourself that are better than average. Invest your focus onto those things and develop a greater sense of self-worth.
Confidence also stems from being capable of doing things. This is why it’s so important for a girl to explore her own interested, goals and dreams.
7. Give him hints about how you feel
Some guys require a bit of nudge in the right direction because they are not good at picking up on the signs of attraction.
Ask him if he’s interested in anyone, tease him about what things would be like if you two ever dated, tell him that you really like spending time with him, open up about your feelings and desire to be romantically involved with someone and so forth.
Couple this with flirting and there’s no way he’ll miss the signs that you like him.
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8. Be playful and spontaneous
Feelings of fondness and love manifest around people who make you feel happiness and joy. The best way to have a good time is to be playful and to have new and exciting experiences.
Joke around with him, tease him in a non-offensive way, be open to exploring new places with him and try stuff that’s out of your comfort zone.
There’s no reason to dilute the courtship with unnecessary drama or seriousness.
I remember going on a few dates with a girl who just didn’t know how to have a good time. Worst of all, she tried to stop me from being my playful and fun self.
She turned every conversation into a serious and pressurizing interview. Needless to say, I was completely turned off and never dated again her even though she wanted to have something more with me.
There’s a time and place for everything.
Maintain a good balance but focus on having a joyfully good time during the early stages of courtship. That way, you won’t scare him away or turn him off.
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9. Make an effort to look good
If you look good, you feel good and if you feel good, you do good. I tend to live by this motto in life and it hasn’t let me down.
When wanting to know how to get a guy to like you, it is imperative that you be willing to do everything to improve your chances.
Making an effort to look good is always appreciated by men, particularly during this phase of the ‘relationship’.
Style your hair, wear better-fitted clothing, show off your best features, apply some lipstick and makeup, use perfume, work on your oral hygiene and just be well put together.
At the end of the day, it is the connection and chemistry that ultimately determines whether a guy will like you or not. But, that doesn’t mean you can’t exploit guy’s tendencies to be visual creatures.
I’d highly suggest you check out this article by Glamour on beauty truths for women.
10. Avoid talking about an ex
What you don’t do is just as important as what you do. And talking about an ex too early on can have an adverse reaction with a guy you currently like.
Some men are more secure about these things and have no issue with it. Others, however, prefer to refrain from the topic altogether.
There’s nothing wrong with mentioning a thing or two about an ex but avoid having an entire conversation about your ex.
I remember dating a girl who was fresh out of a divorce. She was a wonderful person but she shared far too much information about her ex with me to the point that I was put off.
It’s far more productive to talk about the present moment or the future than to linger in the past.
11. Get him to talk about his passions in life
People feel good when they get to talk about themselves and this is multiplied when they can talk about things they are passionate about.
Showing an interest in what he likes, by extension, is the same as showing an interest in his soul or essence as a person.
Subconsciously, he will make a note of this and it will have a wonderful effect on the openness within the relationship. The more he can share with you, the more he can connect with you on a deeper level.
By then, you’re already a step ahead of the competition who’s just focused on the superficial merits of a relationship!
12. Be supportive and nurturing
As much as we don’t like to admit it, most guys dream of having a girl by their side to support them in life. We feel stronger and more driven with a loving woman cheering us on.
When things get tough, be that supportive and nurturing woman in his life who pushes him to do better and be better.
I know it sounds weird but guys associate this with the kind of dynamic they share with their mothers. And that’s not a bad thing. He’s not going to look at you as a mother to him!
But, he might just look at you as a potential mother of his future children!
13. Chase after your goals
The best time to find love is when you are perfectly content with being single. It sounds counter-intuitive but it’s true and here’s why.
To find happiness with yourself, it would require you to create the kind of life that you want.
To do this, you obviously need to chase after your goals, pursue a dream and work hard.
In doing so, you will become a complex yet positive person who emits an energy that is attractive to men.
Instead of falling apart at the first sign of issues, you’d be composed because of the amount of challenges you have overcome to pursue your goals and dreams.
You’ll appear more confident, relaxed, assertive and easy-going to men and this will have a profoundly positive effect on attraction.
To put it simply – focus on becoming the best version of yourself as an individual and it will help you to unlock the version of yourself that can get a guy to like you with absolute ease.
14. Set standards for your dating life
Trust me when I tell you that it is a lot easier to get a guy to like you when he falls into the category of men you are interested in.
For this reason, I implore you to spend some time making a list of the qualities of a good man.
Use this list of standards and qualities to qualify or disqualify men from your dating circle.
By doing this, you’ll avoid wasting a lot of precious time and energy pursuing a man who just isn’t interested or capable of appreciating you as a woman.
Also, men who encounter women who have standards often find them to be of a high-quality type. Someone who isn’t desperate would not have standards that need to be met before pursuing a guy.
15. Be ready to walk away
It’s not healthy to threaten someone to leave as a tool of manipulation however, if someone is completely disrespecting you or has lost all interest, walking away is the best thing to do.
More than anything, it shows a degree of self-respect and dignity that does not go unnoticed.
What we know is that respect is a prerequisite for love.
If a man respects you, he’s alot more likely to like you and be with you.
To be respected, you must not sell or discard your dignity to win someone’s approval.
Keep that in mind the next time you consider ignoring or putting up with disrespectful, toxic or disinterested behavior.
Apart from doing everything I mentioned above, you must have patience.
Allowing time to work its magic is how to get a guy to like you. Don’t rush the process or chase after him and you won’t have to deal with him running away or ghosting you.
If it’s meant to be, it will be.
I truly believe in destiny and if this guy is meant for you, he will eventually start to like and even love you. Just have faith and focus on having a good time.
With that being said, I hope you found this article to be insightful and informative. Please share your thoughts and questions in the comment section below.
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