Spend a long time single and you can lose track of what it takes to catch feelings for someone and develop a deeper bond. It may be undeniably important to develop self-reliance but not at the cost of your ability to develop meaningful connections in life. In this article, I am going to share effective and timeless tips on how to catch feelings for someone.
If you’re looking for a quick summary of what we are going to discuss in this article, here’s a list of my tips on how to catch feelings for someone.
- Listen more to someone.
- Work on loving yourself.
- Open up and be vulnerable to people.
- Spend time with someone in person.
- Make a consistent effort to show up.
At first glance, these tips seem unambiguous and simple but in reality, they’re not. Learning how to apply these tips appropriately is as important as knowledge of them.
So, with that in mind, let’s take a deeper look into each of these tips and examine how they apply to real-life situations.
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What Does It Mean To Catch Feelings?
It simply means to develop romantic attachments and feelings for someone you have crossed paths with. Often, catching feelings can occur irrespective of the status of your relationship with said person.
It can happen with someone you’ve always known or just met recently, with a friend, an acquaintance or someone you met on a dating app.
When you catch feelings, there’s a sense of excitement that follows. You’re not only fond of the person you catch feelings for but also for life itself.
Everything around you seems more vibrant and thrilling to you.
I would go so far as to say that you feel magic in the air and the world seems more colorful to you.
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5 Effective Tips On Catching Feelings For Someone
1. Listen more to someone
When speaking to my therapist, she drew attention to this idea about catching feelings for myself. We often hear people throw out the phrase, “love yourself”, without any explanation for how to do it.
You can’t just decide to love yourself and expect to feel a strong degree of respect, fondness and care at the drop of a hat.
In reality, you ought to focus on learning to understand yourself. This may require you to sit down and observe the way you behave and try to understand what made you react a certain way to a certain situation.
By doing this regularly without judging yourself, you begin to understand yourself on a deeper level which directly leads to liking yourself, at the very least.
Similarly, you can learn how to catch feelings for someone by actually focusing on listening and understanding them.
What this means is that the feelings will follow the act of understanding someone.
One may argue that listening isn’t enough to understand someone and they wouldn’t be wrong. If your approach listening as a passive behavior, then it wouldn’t be enough because you would only learn what someone tells you.
For this reason, I encourage you to approach listening as an active behavior.
How does one listen actively? Well, listen with the intention to understand more. The keyword is ‘more’. To understand more, you need to dig deeper into what someone feels, thinks and believes.
You can easily do this by asking more questions and showing visible cues of interest by nodding and making eye contact.
What you’ll realize is that people begin to feel more comfortable as they open up to you without feeling judged.
This makes it easier for them to show their truest self and that improves the likelihood of you catching feelings for someone.
2. Work on loving yourself
What I’ve learned is that it’s incredibly difficult to love someone when you don’t love yourself. Self-love depends on understanding yourself, trusting yourself and respecting yourself.
Without those three attributes, you’ll find yourself struggling with feelings of inadequacy, insecurity, sadness, depression, anxiety and so on.
Being in this state isn’t conducive to love.
You’ll end up pushing away or scaring off potential lovers because your default state will perpetuate desperation, fear and anxiety.
When examining people in happy relationships, you’ll find that they fell in love or caught feelings for someone when they reached a point of being happy enough in their own skin.
A lot of articles talk about being single until you’re happy but that’s problematic.
Our minds perceive happiness as a constant state without any issues or lack of things.
But, as you probably know all too well, life isn’t so easy and you’ll experience waves of good times and bad times.
What you want to be is happy enough.
This means that you don’t need to be in a complete state of bliss all the time to be ready to date.
You just have to be comfortable, confident and more or less content with where you’re at in life with a desire for more.
If you start to feel excited and ready for dating someone new, it’s probably the time when you’re most ready to catch feelings for someone.
3. Open up and be vulnerable to people
I didn’t mention this earlier but when you listen actively, pay attention try to understand someone without judgment, they’ll often feel drawn to you.
This feeling of acceptance and understanding is incredibly exciting, intoxicating and loving.
In the process of trying to catch feelings for someone by doing this, you’re actually more likely to make them catch feelings for you!
Because you’re encouraging them to be more open, vulnerable and honest while offering them acceptance and comfort.
Similarly, if you want to learn how to catch feelings for someone, you would best be suited to also learn how to be open, vulnerable and honest.
This means embracing insecurities and the fear of rejection and still proceeding to show who you really are to those who are interested in you.
The key is to focus on people you are interested in and who are interested in you.
It may be scary at first but you have so much to gain by showing yourself, being honest and transparent.
Once you find yourself in the company of someone who is caring, comforting and understanding, it’s difficult not to feel amazing around them and to catch feelings for them.
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4. Spend time with someone in person
For all you introverts out there, I’m sorry but you can’t develop a deeper relationship with someone on your phone and in the comfort of just your home.
It’s okay, though.
You’ll have fun and you’ll replenish your energy reserves afterward.
The subtle yet significant details and nuances of someone in real life cannot be portrayed or overlooked when trying to catch feelings for someone.
Unfortunately, it can’t be displayed adequately over the phone.
Also, we fall in love when we build trust, compassion, familiarity and fondness for someone and the best way to do so is via shared experiences.
Make time weekly to go out and meet someone and when you cross paths with a person who catches your interest, gravitate towards them regularly.
5. Make a consistent effort to show up
Lastly, like anything important in life, you must invest yourself in it regularly to gain a deeper bond with it.
The more you do something, the better the results but also, the more you invest yourself.
The more invested you become, the more potently you feel about it.
That’s why relationships thrive when two people consistently show up for each other week after week, month after month and year after year.
There’s no endpoint to romance and getting to know each other.
We all, especially myself, make the mistake of approaching relationships like a goal or a subject that can be completely learned.
When you begin to feel like you know everything there is to know and have what you want, you can make the mistake of taking it for granted.
That’s when relationships lose their spark and bad decisions are made.
Going forward, my intention is to approach all forms of relationships with consistency.
When I get back onto the dating scene again, I will apply all of the above consistently because I know that it’s worked before and will continue to work as long as I show up each and every time.
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I am really excited that you are putting yourself on the market again and seeking out love. I hate seeing people give up on the idea of companionship and love because they’ve been disappointed or hurt before.
With some adjustments and lessons, you can rediscover love in a more enjoyable and meaningful way.
I just want to add something before you leave. Don’t get too hung up on the actual thought of catching feelings for someone.
As much as the idea of catching something requires work and constant pursuit, it’s actually more likely that you will succeed by detaching from any outcome than by chasing it.
Allow yourself the freedom to catch or not catch feelings for someone. In doing so, you’ll alleviate some of that pressure you’re carrying on your shoulders. This might help you to actually have more fun and apply the tips in this article with more efficacy.
With that being said, I hope you found this article on how to catch feelings for someone to be inspiring, helpful and practical. If you have any questions to thoughts that you would like to share with me, please do so by visiting the comment section below.