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How To Accept Rejection (If You Are A Sensitive Person)

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I’ll be the first to admit that I’m sensitive, and rejection hurts me deeply. In the past, I struggled because I lacked the necessary tools to deal with failure and rejection. But, with an open mind, a keenness to learn, and a healthy attitude, I was able to figure out for myself how to accept rejection in a healthy and positive manner.

Since then, I have developed a much better relationship with rejection, which has helped me thrive in most areas of my life. I’ve gained immense confidence and experienced more than I could have imagined. 

Be that as it may, the following list contains the seven things I learned about how to accept rejection.

  1. Get to a safe place.
  2. Stop yourself from making an impulsive decision. 
  3. Express your feelings to a loved one and ask them for advice and comfort. 
  4. Pray deeply and pour your heart out to God. 
  5. Don’t belittle or attack yourself. 
  6. Let go of the person who rejected you. 
  7. Keep going.

Let’s examine each of these points in more detail so that I can explain how they may help you in your own quest for whatever your heart desires.

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1. Get to a safe space. 

Whether you are facing rejection in your love life, social circle, or workplace, it is important to safeguard yourself when you feel on the edge of tears. 

I struggle to think clearly and rationally when I face rejection in my life. 

My emotions spill out of me because I am prone to wearing my heart on my sleeve. That isn’t a problem in general, but sometimes it can cause more harm than good to show these emotions to those who rejected you. 

To be more precise, it’s dangerous to show weakness in front of people who may exploit you. 

Try to excuse yourself politely and go to a safe place to catch your breath. That’s not to say that people won’t show empathy for you. But, there comes a point in life when you must hold onto your dignity, self-respect, and power by not allowing rejection to break you down in front of others. 

Maintain your composure until you can get home or to a place where you can allow the feelings associated with rejection to pass through you.

2. Stop yourself from making an impulsive decision.

When you have been rejected, feelings of abandonment, insecurity, low self esteem, and desperation seep out. 

Rather than say or do things that are in character, you may end up reacting in a way that makes you feel more humiliated, embarrassed, or rejected. 

Some people end up in trouble because they act emotionally and immaturely. 

When you have been rejected, wait a few days before doing anything. I have to remind myself not to make any permanent decisions based on temporary emotions. 

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This motto has changed my life for the better, and I handle rejection like a pro. 

Look at life like a game of chess and ask yourself the following question when you face rejection, “What is the best move to make right now?”

You’d be surprised at how helpful this is for your well being rather than an impulsive reaction to rejection.

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3. Express your feelings to a loved one. 

The best way to deal with rejection is to feel the emotions and heal them. I learnt this idea from a book called, Letting Go: The Pathway Of Surrender by David R. Hawkins. 

In this book, the author explains how emotions need to be felt without judgment. 

Allowing them to pass through you without escaping, expressing, or suppressing them is how we heal and increase our energy in life.

But, during the first few days, you should unburden yourself of these emotions by opening up to a loved one. Make sure you are with someone who is compassionate, attentive, and trustworthy. 

Rather than suppression or escapism, the expression of painful emotions through conversation can be incredibly therapeutic during the height of your discomfort. 

Once you’ve gotten a quick release through a conversation with someone you love, then you can allow those feelings to work their way out of you naturally.

4. Pray deeply.

I am a firm believer in God and I believe in his infinite wisdom. Part of life is hardship. Rejection of the things we want and the people we want is sometimes unavoidable. It doesn’t mean we are undeserving or that we should channel our disappointment negatively. 

I like to ground myself by praying to God when I experience rejection. 

I ask him to guide me, to protect me from that which is bad for me, and to send me that which is good for me. 

When you submit to God, no rejection is greater than your belief in him. 

And if you believe in his infinite wisdom, then you find comfort in believing that whatever happens to you is part of a greater plan. Even if it’s immense suffering and hardship, you were chosen to endure this because you are strong enough for it.

Through observation, it seems to me like the people who continue to persevere through life without becoming jaded, miserable, bitter, hopeless, or pessimistic are those who have this belief.

Rather than view themselves as a victim, they view themselves as gladiators who can endure and overcome any challenge that is destined for them.

5. Don’t belittle or attack yourself. 

It has been said that rejection breeds obsession. Some obsess over those who rejected them. Others obsess over what being rejected means. In doing so, they embark on a journey of self loathing and intense self criticism. 

Don’t kick a dog while it’s down. Be kind to yourself. Focus on how you can win rather than reasons to consider yourself unworthy of success.

Words are incredibly powerful and you would be shocked at the profound effect self motivation and self cheering can have on your attitude towards life.

For some reason, we all have this shadow self that is hell bent on destroying our confidence and self esteem.

It perceives anything hard or difficult as a punishment. Worse yet, it perceives these things as reasons for why we suck and don’t deserve anything good in life.

You can’t allow that voice to speak unchallenged. 

Whenever self-defeating thoughts creep into your mind that have a sliver of truth to them, challenge them. 

Look for reasons to counter these self-defeating thoughts and beliefs with logic and reason. Little by little, day by day, you’ll notice the conversation you have with yourself changing from something ruthlessly defeating to something more optimistic and hopeful.

And with hope, people can conquer the greatest of things.

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6. Let go of the person who rejected you.

Ruminating on all your failures only diminishes your energy and zest for life. I want you to remember the following piece of advice – When you win, you won’t care about how many times you failed. 

People who are single will experience a lot of rejection and failure during their search for true love. 

But all that will fade and disappear when they do find love. 

Much like them, you will be too busy enjoying the joys of success to cry over the times you were rejected. 

The greatest relationships are the ones you have with those who choose you as well.

So, in the meantime, grieve the dream you held onto in your mind. Miss what could have been, and then let it go. 

By letting it go, you create space for someone or something else to come along that will fit you like a glove.

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7. Keep going. 

Wouldn’t you agree that life is like a bus?

It keeps going. Sometimes it can get stuck in traffic. Other times, the path is obstructed or you have to take a detour. 

But the bus of life keeps going. 

People get on, and then they get off. Regardless of who gets on or off, the bus continues on its journey. It will need repairs in time. It will experience flat tires unexpectedly. It will need fuel every day, but it keeps going. 

You have to be a part of this journey.

Jump onto the bus, meet new people, make memories with others, enjoy the views, get stuck, get unstuck, take detours, and keep going.

You never know who you’ll find along the way.

Who knows? Maybe you’ll meet a version of yourself that is unlike anything you ever dreamed was possible.

Final Thoughts

It’s time to get up off the floor, dust yourself off, give yourself a pat on the back for having the courage to pursue a goal, and move forward with more wisdom and experience.

I promise you that a healthy attitude towards rejection will unlock achievements far greater than anything you could imagine.

Worst case scenario, you’ll have many stories to share with the people in your life. That doesn’t sound too bad to me.

With that being said, I hope this article on how to accept rejection as a sensitive person was helpful. If you would like to share some of your experiences or coping mechanisms with me, please do so in the comments section below.

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