How Often Should A Guy Text If He Likes You?

If you’re uncertain of how often should a guy text if he likes you, here’s what you need to know. 

A guy should text you at least 3 times per day if he likes you, even more, if he initiates the conversation. The more he likes you, the more he’ll text you.

I’m one of the worst texters on the planet. I’m not proud of it, especially when my friends and family get frustrated with me but when I’m really into a girl, I can text her all the time.

But, I’d caution you against fixating over a specific number because the number of texts aren’t as important as the quality of texts you receive from him.

At the end of the day, it’s all about connection and chemistry. 

A guy could text you meaningless messages all day long or he could send you one or two messages that are heartfelt, engaging and genuine. 

So the number of texts isn’t as important as one may think. But, in this digital era, it does present itself as a sign of attraction so I would be remiss not to mention it.

Let’s take a look at some of the signs he likes you from his texting habits.

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1. He replies to your texts

What I mean by this is that you don’t have to chase after him constantly to get a reply.

The conversation flows well and he often replies to each of your texts in a reasonable time.

Some women make the mistake of constantly texting a guy until he replies. By then, he may feel so guilty for ignoring you that he ends up making an excuse for why he took so long to text you and he may say something nice. 

Unfortunately, this leads them to believe that he may actually care and the cycle continues.

If this consistently occurs, it’s more likely a sign that he has low interest in you rather than him being too busy to reply. 

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2. He asks open ended questions

People who are genuinely interested in getting to know each other often ask questions that leave enough room for elaboration. 

He’ll ask about your thoughts, opinions and feelings on a number of topics.

Some of his questions will show a keen interest in your life story.

Most importantly, his questions will indicate that he is paying attention and has a vested interest in getting to know you on a deeper level.

3. He doesn’t send one word texts

Communication is at the center of all relationships and is absolutely crucial for building attraction and love.

One word replies on a consistent basis is a surefire sign of poor interest. 

A man, no matter how busy he is, will always make time to reply to someone he cares about and likes.

I mentioned being a terrible texter but when it comes to my love life, I always make an effort to send replies that are well worded, invested and interested. 

It’s not hard because I want to and enjoy talking to my partner.

If you encounter a man who barely replies to you and only sends one word replies, this could mean that he doesn’t really care about talking to you or he is not a good communicator.

Either way, these aren’t good.

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4. He double texts you

When someone is excited to talk to you and can’t stop themselves from expressing their affection and interest, you’ll find them double texting you.

It’s a telltale sign of a guy who likes you.

This is especially the case when he hasn’t heard from you in a few hours or a day and is missing you.

He’ll double text you and even go out of his way to call and find out if you’re okay. 

5. He opens up to you

Text messages that are very personal, intimate and private can be another surefire sign of attraction, connection and trust.

A lot of men have a hard time opening up about their feelings or secrets in fear of feeling vulnerable. 

Only when a man feels truly comfortable and close to a woman will he ever open up to that extent. 

If you find him sharing things with you that are close to his heart or a secret, consider this a good sign.

6. He asks you out on a date

As much as texting can be a great way to connect with each other, it’s true intent is to facilitate dates and opportunities for you to make memories with each other.

When women contact me for advice about a man they’re getting to know, I always emphasize the importance of saving your best conversations for dates.

If you find that he is taking too long to ask you out, throw some hints his way or suggest a meeting.

This will give you a strong idea of whether he actually likes you and wants to take this situation to the next level or if he’s on the fence. 

7. His texts are flattering

Compliments, flattery and adoration in texts are one of the greatest signs a guy likes you. 

As a man, I can attest to this.

Once we get comfortable opening up and we feel like the connection has developed enough, the compliments and affection will start to pour out like a fully open tap.

Granted, some men are not vocal about their feelings and prefer to express themselves through a different love language. 

But, for the most part, men who like you will send flattering texts especially during those early days of courtship.

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Texting tips to make him like you

I’m going to share some interesting ideas on texting that will challenge the way you think but I can assure you that if applied correctly, it will transform your love life, specifically online.

Far too many women talk guys out of liking them. The same could be said for men. 

Texting has its limitations but can be a great tool for building attraction and chemistry.

The following tips will improve his attraction, build anticipation and reduce the risk of rejection. 

Tip 1: Wait for him to text you back

If you want to avoid looking desperate, needy or clingy, use this tip.

By giving men space, they get an opportunity to miss you.

When they start to miss you, that’s when you’ll hear from them and most likely see them. 

Tip 2: Don’t fall into a routine too quickly

Routines often become monotonous and boring, especially if you do and say the same things every single day.

Shake things up. Text him at different times. Show him different moods.

Be unpredictable and you’ll find him feeling more engaged and excited to talk to you. 

Tip 3: Be flirty and fun

Affection and attraction grow during times of fun and romance.

Feelings of joy, happiness and excitement tend to translate to romantic feelings.

Don’t be afraid to let loose and have a good laugh with him. 

Tip 4: Don’t confess your feelings until he shows some signs of attraction

Holding off on confessing your feelings too soon can build anticipation and mystique.

This small amount of uncertainty is thrilling and unpredictable.

Not only will this keep him on his toes but it will build the sexual tension to great heights. 

Tip 5: Don’t take yourself too seriously

Last but certainly not least, focus on the moment. Some factors of a relationship are beyond your control. And that’s perfectly okay.

Enjoy the process of getting to know him and trust that he will come to you if destiny has intertwined your fates. 

Don’t sweat the small stuff

How often he texts you may be an indicator of liking you but that doesn’t matter as much as the quality of his texts and his actions.

At the end of the day, a guy who likes you will make every effort to communicate and be with you.

Granted, he may be busy chasing after his goals and career to be chatting all the time but that doesn’t mean he isn’t interested.

The more you focus on having a good time and developing a deeper bond with him, the easier it becomes to decipher whether he likes you or not from his texts.

With that being said, I hope you enjoyed this article on how often a guy should text if he likes you.

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