How Much Do You Care About Physical Attraction?

Some people say that physical attraction is of paramount importance for a romantic relationship, while others argue that beauty is skin deep.

I find it incredibly romantic to believe that love isn’t dependent on physical beauty.

But I would be lying to myself and to you if I asserted the idea that physical attraction doesn’t matter all that much to me.

The truth of the matter is that I have never found myself in love with someone who wasn’t my type.

I asked myself why, and the only answer that made sense to me was that I barely gave anyone else a chance.

Far too often, I’d lose interest if I didn’t feel a physical attraction to someone during the early stages of courtship.

That frustrates me because I’ve known some fantastic people who could be an ideal partner, but without the physical attraction, I overlook them.

If I try to look beyond the lack of physical attraction, anxiety, doubt, and fear will overpower me, so I don’t even bother to try hard enough.

I have a friend who loved a girl he didn’t find attractive.

He met this outgoing and fun girl on campus, and they became friends.

However, his first impression of her was that she didn’t really take care of herself.

Moreover, he didn’t find her attractive at all.

Years passed, and they developed a deep friendship.

As a person, she was everything he admired and adored.

Little by little, he began to fall in love.

Thus began his relationship with a girl he once found unattractive.

They developed an amazing relationship built on friendship, mutual interest, good communication, and shared values.

And yet, despite having everything he ever wanted from a romantic partner, the lack of physical attraction gnawed at him.

Several attempts to suppress this nagging feeling were thwarted by the very fact that he was in an environment with other people who were attractive to him.

He remained loyal and committed to his love.

Years passed, and he tried his utmost to be a loving and satisfied partner.

But it wasn’t enough for him.

Eventually, he ended the relationship.

There were other mitigating factors that influenced his decision, but at the very top of that list was the lack of physical attraction.

It was the right thing to do for him and her. She deserved to be with a man who found her attractive, and he deserved to search for someone he found attractive.

This story just serves as an example of how important physical attraction is to some.

A relationship that was otherwise perfect came to an end because a fundamental need was not met.

Watching this unfold reinforced to me the importance of authenticity.

Regardless of what everyone else feels is romantic, we should honor our core beliefs and standards.

Love that overlooks and outlasts physical beauty.

While I’ve cited one anecdote of how important attraction may be, I am also seduced by stories of love that are skin deep.

I’ve watched ample videos on YouTube of people who were born with physical differences or survived image-altering accidents and who have found love.

Their partners see them for who they are, and that has fostered true love between them.

Do we really want to be in relationships that can fall apart if we no longer appear to be the way we once were?

I’m not sure I do.

It may seem idealistic, but there’s a great deal of beauty in love that is not held hostage by physical attraction.

None of us will remain in shape forever, nor will we remain wrinkle-free, blemish-free, or young.

But we should still be loved and appreciated by those who choose to be with us.

Perhaps social media and the beauty standards of today have convinced us to believe that our entire worth lies in how we look.

I think it’s foolish and devoid of substance.

The true essence of romantic love transcends physical beauty, and that is what we should all strive to be.

Let us gravitate toward physical beauty, but let us also love what lies beneath the surface of our skin.

I think that begins by thinking less and feeling more, especially when it comes to attraction.

So, that begs the question: How much do you care about physical attraction?

Please share your answers in the comment section below.