What does it mean if he blocked you without explanation? Could you have done anything to prevent it from happening? Can you get him to unblock you? These are just some of the questions going through your mind, understandably so. In this article, I’m going to provide you with some clarity about why he blocked you without explanation and what you should do about it.
More often than not, a man who blocks you without explanation has an integrity issue. He lacks respect and prioritizes self-preservation over the need to do what is morally correct. There are many cowardly men out there who opt to block a woman without explanation instead of rejecting them and facing the consequences of their decisions.
This explanation hinges on the idea that everything was progressing well in your courtship and relationship.
Perhaps you were under the impression that everything was great until he suddenly blocked you.
It’s possible that there were early indicators that he was ending the relationship or losing interest. But, in a lot of cases, there aren’t.
Some men are deceptive and manipulative, particularly players.
So, it’s highly possible that he knew what to say and do to raise no suspicion of what he planned to do.
I want to take a moment to break this down further into two categories. He blocked you without explanation for one of these reasons:
- He lost interest in you.
- He met someone else.
- He’s a player and ran before things got too serious.
- You drove him away with toxic and disrespectful behavior.
- He’s a commitmentphobe.
In my experience as a relationship coach, the reason why a man blocks a woman without explanation always boils down to one of the five explanations above.
Other than one item on this list, everything else points to an integrity issue with him, which is a massive red flag.
I understand that you are in shock and you’re inundated with hope that he will unblock you. But, even if he does, the damage caused by his behavior has stained the trust that was developing between the two of you.
Even if he is able to earn your trust back, it doesn’t negate the fact that he has exhibited some integrity issues.
I don’t want to waste your time by explaining the obvious.
Unfortunately, since interest is flexible, you may come across people who initially seem very interested in you but then lose interest.
It happens, even though it’s quite frustrating and disappointing.
There’s a lot of mystery during those early days of knowing someone and we all have the habit of falling victim to an idea of what we want someone to be.
Interest wanes when it becomes obvious that the person isn’t what we had imagined.
It doesn’t mean that there’s something wrong with you at all.
Different strokes for different folks.
You can’t be everyone’s cup of tea nor should you try.
Then there’s the issue of him meeting someone else or being a player. In both scenarios, you’re better off without him.
It’s severely disrespectful to be with someone who doesn’t view you as a prize.
We have to take responsibility by being more self-respectful in the future.
It is wrong to let people into our lives who are not deserving of our time and affection.
Good riddance to bad garbage.
What I do want to focus on are the types of behavior that could have driven a man to block you.
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What Women Do To Drive Men Away
1. They chase too much
As much as we all feel some degree of excitement during the early days of courtship, we’re also on guard and observing for red flags.
Desperate men are dying for commitment, whereas men who don’t tend to be turned off by a woman who comes on too strong.
There’s a subtle dance that takes place during the courtship.
Actually, let me amend that statement. There’s a game of tennis or badminton taking place. You can’t keep taking shots at the other person. What you must do is wait until the other person takes a shot before making a move.
Similarly, blowing up a man’s phone early on, sending him countless double texts throughout the day, begging him for affection and attention, bringing up the topic of marriage weeks into knowing him and showering him with non-stop praise are all signs of chasing.
Rather than win his love and attention, you’ll create the image of a desperate woman in his eyes.
Men are more receptive to women who subtly pursue or chase them.
In other words, initiating communication is healthy. Being sweet is flattering. Replying with enthusiasm is attractive. Remaining confident but interested is sexy.
Adjust your behavior and you’ll barely deal with men blocking you without explanation.
Please remember that attraction is nurtured in the presence of someone and in the absence of someone.
Time spent apart is just as important as time spent together.
Give him some space to miss you instead of being in contact all the time.
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2. They lash out at men unreasonably and inappropriately
I’ve noticed that women who are jaded or desperate often lash out when they fear a man is losing interest or isn’t giving them the kind of attention they want.
These women tend to take everything too seriously and can’t handle a joke.
That’s no way to communicate with a man that you’re interested in.
Love is playful and fun.
There are times when being serious is important but that shouldn’t be your default state.
I would advise you to address whatever deep-seated anger, insecurity or trauma is causing you to lash out at the smallest of events.
Often, when we adjust our perspective, things no longer appear to be as bad as they once were. We are able to let our hair down, laugh and enjoy ourselves.
Things that used to irritate us lessen in importance until they no longer bother us.
When your energy shifts into a playful, light, loving and relaxed space, everything changes in the way you approach men and relationships.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not advising you to tolerate disrespectful behavior from others.
Just be sure that your default perspective or energy isn’t a combative one and you’ll avoid getting blocked without explanation.
3. You are rude, cold and insulting
Nothing turns off a man as much as a woman who is genuinely rude, cold and insulting. I guess a lot of men expect this behavior from a man who is a jerk.
So, when a woman is acting this way, it’s completely unattractive to the average man.
He may put up with it for some time, especially if he interprets this as a challenge early on. But, eventually, the foundation will crumble and he will leave.
If there’s one thing you should know, it’s this: love cannot exist in a place without respect.
Only a deeply insecure and damaged man would accept a woman who was disrespectful to him in this way.
Those relationships serve neither party.
Do some introspection and grow through unhealthy behavior to become the kind of person you would like to have in your life.
That’s when good things begin to happen in your love life.
I realized this in my late 20s.
When I strived to grow into a particular type of person who lived by a specific code of morals, I began to attract and gravitate toward similar people.
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Should You Try To Contact Him?
Contact him if you feel like doing something like this will give you room to move on and get closure.
The truth of the matter is that there’s a good chance he doesn’t reply to you at all.
You may never successfully get through to him without making a fake profile or something.
That’s not the route to go down either.
But if it’s the only thing you can do to move on and accept what has happened, then do it.
As difficult as it may be, I think it’s best to leave him alone and not try to contact him.
Let’s say, for argument’s sake, that he blocked you without explanation but intends on coming back. Perhaps he’s playing a game of cat and mouse. He wants to see if you chase him desperately.
I don’t think it’s worthwhile to reward someone for poor behavior.
To me, contacting him feels like you’re validating his behavior, especially if you’re not looking for closure but to win him back.
In my opinion, it is vital to be intolerant of such disrespectful behavior. We need to draw a line in the sand for what is acceptable or forgivable behavior.
This is the only way in which we can avoid dealing with people who block us without explanation.
We must be incredibly selective about who we allow into our inner circle.
What I do know is that when you let someone go and they come back without you having chased them, it asserts respect and creates a boundary.
He’ll realize that you are not the type of woman who will abandon her self-respect and dignity for someone who is going to behave in such an immature and inconsiderate manner.
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What you are dealing with is painful and I don’t blame you for feeling rejected or confused. I’ve been in this situation before and it stinks.
The only thing you can do right now that is good for you is to focus on healing and moving on.
Sometimes, no amount of explanation provides closure. In those cases, closure is something that we give ourselves by choosing to let go of that person or that chapter in our lives.
Take some time to feel your emotions to heal from them.
In time, you’ll gain some clarity and it will be easier for you to deal with this loss or situation.
Please remind yourself that you deserve someone who chooses to remain in your life.
With that being said, I hope this article on the reason why he blocked you without explanation was a source of closure and comfort. If you would like my help, please feel free to check out my services page for more information on my email consultation package.