At some point or another, most of us have been blocked or will get blocked by someone. Misunderstandings or problems can cause a rift between people. Some people are able to remain in contact whereas others choose to close all communication. Perhaps you’re going through this right now and you find yourself wondering, he blocked me, will he come back?
Yes, he will come back if he blocked you impulsively or due to an emotionally driven reason. Once he cools down or starts to miss you, there’s a strong chance that he will come back. As long as he feels like there’s unfinished business between the two of you, he will unblock you.
People are not built to maintain a single emotional stance forever. Through life experience, time, maturity and interactions, our thoughts and emotions can change.
He may be extremely angry with you right now but that feeling will subside.
When it does, even if not entirely, other persisting feelings for you will boil to the surface.
If there’s feelings of attraction, love, intimacy and fondness that still exist within him for you, then there’s a strong chance that he will come back after blocking you.
However, this is all dependent on the reason for him blocking you.
There are instances when a man may still be in love with a woman but never unblock her or come back because there’s absolutely no hope for reconciliation.
Things happen that can destroy the chances of making up and so he may opt to close the chapter completely.
I think it’s imperative that we discuss all of this in more detail so that you get a better understanding of the situation and whether he will come back.
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Reasons why he will come back
1. He impulsively blocked you
If you do a quick search on impulsivity, you’ll find that it’s accurately defined as the act of doing something without thinking it through.
It’s an action that may be emotionally driven without much consideration for whether it’s appropriate or not.
There are men and women out there who are more prone to impulse than others.
It could be the case that when he blocked you, it was a spur of the moment decision.
He didn’t think about the consequences of doing so, whether he actually wanted to close off communication permanently or whether it was the mature thing to do.
At that moment, he may have felt like he doesn’t want to talk to you anymore but those feelings are fleeting, especially when they result in impulsive decisions.
I’m willing to bet that once reality sets in, his motivation for blocking you wanes and he realizes that he restricted all communication from you, the fear and uncertainty will strike.
When they do, I think that he will unblock you and come back.
2. He was angry or mad
Building on the above, his emotionally compelling reasons to block you may be sufficient right now but they’re not sustainable long term unless you’ve done something unforgivable.
There are men who lash out or escalate problems to this level without realizing how unnecessary it is.
You could have had a simple misunderstanding or argument that resulted in him blocking you.
I get how frustrating and scary that is because you probably didn’t think it would amount to this.
But, that’s not necessarily a reflection of your behavior.
It could just indicate that he is someone who has an issue of escalation and needs better conflict resolution skills.
Acting on anger is one of the biggest contributors to regret because it’s not a sustainable emotion and doesn’t consider all factors.
When he cools down, I’m willing to bet he will come back because his rational thinking will kick in along with his feelings of fondness and attachment to you.
3. He needed space to think
Relationships are messy at times and when things aren’t going according to plan, people can react impulsively or irrationally.
You may not always be on the same page with each other but ongoing issues can drive anyone to behave uncharacteristically.
Perhaps he feels threatened in some way and wants space from you to think.
People who are notoriously afraid of commitment may suddenly back off when they feel like things are getting serious and it makes them uncomfortable.
Alternatively, you could have been on his case too much and he felt like he had to block you temporarily until he could figure things out.
I remember a time when my best friend was going through a really rough time in his relationship.
Things had gotten toxic, they were arguing all the time and his partner is the type of person that needs to hash things out entirely before letting things go.
Some of these issues were persisting which meant that they were constantly discussing issues and ending up in the same argument again and again which would lead to even more discussions.
It got to the point where he would block her for a few hours or day because he felt like she was being unreasonable.
I’ve witnessed a similar situation with another couple I know except the roles were reversed.
In all these situations, it’s evident that space and time is paramount, especially when someone needs a bit of it to work through their feelings.
Granted, blocking each other is unnecessary but when your partner wants to take a few hours away to think or cool down from arguments, it’s best to respect that instead of forcing them to stay and argue more.
4. He still loves you
I think it’s important to note that when a man really loves you, even if you gave him a legitimate reason to block you, he will come back.
It may not mean that he’ll come back to be in a relationship with you but he will unblock you and come back to talk about things.
Most people are sentimental beings and they value shared history.
Nostalgia strikes and when it does, we look at the past and people in it with rose tinted glasses if we love them for the most part and share a strong bond.
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Reasons why he will not come back
1. He was looking for an excuse to block you
I hate when people do things like this but when you’re dating or dealing with low integrity guys, they will just block you out of nowhere.
It may seem so nonsensical to us but they were just waiting for an opportunity to get out because they got what they wanted or they’re off to the next race.
This is why it’s so important to have a proper vetting system in place when dating to identify men who show red flags.
But, I also know that men with bad intentions are extremely good at manipulation and misdirection.
So, even with a vetting process, a few of them will slip through.
Unfortunately, he will not come back because it’s not of any benefit to him.
He knows that there isn’t any excuse for his behavior and so to avoid responsibility, he won’t come back unless he thinks he can spin a story that you’ll believe.
2. There’s no hope for reconciliation
A sad part of reality is that most of the romantic relationships in your life will end.
If you’re lucky enough to be with the person you dated from high school or college, then you’re in the minority because most people don’t get that.
Even then, there’s no guarantee that the relationship will last a lifetime and here’s why.
People are complicated creatures and if they fail to nurture their relationship and their own morals, they can head down a dark and ugly path.
We’ve all read stories of people who changed over time or stopped taking commitment too seriously and ended up doing something they regret later on.
What I’m trying to say is that certain things may happen that destroys all trust and respect or destroys compatibility.
When this happens, the chance of reconciliation dies with the relationship and there’s no hope.
Once hope is gone, there’s really no reason for him to come back unless he wants to engage in some pain shopping for the both of you.
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3. He moved on or wants to move on
Perhaps he took this time away to process his feelings and is now accepting of what has happened and the end of your relationship.
Alternatively, he has made the decision to move on and blocking you was one of the main steps he needed to take to get the process started.
There’s a small possibility that he will come back but if he has moved on or is truly committed to moving on, I’d say that he will not come back because there’s no longer a reason to do so.
4. He’s dating other people now
There are three instances worth mentioning in this case, he’s in a serious relationship with someone he actually loves now, he’s rebounding or he’s on the market.
In all three scenarios, there’s no reason for him to come back.
If he’s in a serious relationship, then we can assume that he loves his partner and he is working on that relationship.
He won’t come back because he’s with someone.
If he’s rebounding, he’s trying to build a relationship and it may or may not work. If it works, he won’t come back.
If it doesn’t, he may come back or he may choose to be single or date other people.
If he’s just on the market dating, he’s getting wrapped up in the thrill of meeting new people and that doesn’t give him much reason to come back, at least for now.
5. He no longer has any feelings for you
As much as we all claim to be logical and rational, much of our decisions are made from emotion.
Desire, anger, love,attachment, anxiety, lust and loneliness are compelling reasons that affect our decision making facilities on a daily basis.
However, when something no longer triggers an emotion within us, we lose a main component of what compels us to choose to do something or be with someone.
Perhaps he no longer has feelings for you.
Time, space and other factors may have all accumulated and contributed to a loss of attachment and affection.
At that point, there’s nothing left and he has no reason to unblock you, let alone come back.
I know how painful this is for you to read but it’s a part of life and it’s a possibility that you have to entertain in order to get some closure from this situation.
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Just to summarize, he blocked me, will he come back? Yes, he will come back if he blocked you impulsively or due to an emotionally driven reason. Once he cools down or starts to miss you, there’s a strong chance that he will come back. As long as he feels like there’s unfinished business between the two of you, he will unblock you.
You can’t control what he does but you can influence it.
I know that you’re itching to get in contact with him somehow or to change his mind but you can’t.
Unless you’ve done something horrible that explains why he blocked you, I don’t suggest chasing him,
Circumstances dictate your response.
Yes, if you screwed up and did something to betray his trust or to disrespect him and you’re desperate for a chance, then you should try or else you’ll regret it.
But, for the most part, if his actions aren’t justified then I recommend letting it be and giving him the gift of missing you since he blocked you.
Sometimes distance is all we need to make the heart grow fonder.
In the end, I want you to remember that with the right person, they’ll either never leave or they’ll always come back.
With that being said, I hope you found this article to be of comfort and a source of closure for you. If you have any thoughts or questions, please feel free to let me know by visiting the comment section below.