He Blocked Me, Should I Block Him Too?

It is shocking, stressful, confusing and upsetting when someone blocks you. We’ve all been there and it sucks. You’re left with unanswered questions and the lack of respect can leave a bitter taste in your mouth. This begs the question, he blocked me, should I block him too?

No, you should not block him too if that is something that you don’t actually want to do, if you still want him back and if he blocked you impulsively out of anger and is mostly likely to return to communicate.

Ideally, communication is the best tool for overcoming issues and for cultivating a long lasting relationship.

Think about how many couples you’ve encountered who could have saved their relationship or improved it by just learning how to communicate their feelings and thoughts instead of stone walling each other.

There are some people who will only use the facility to block someone when they are left with no choice and there are some people who will use it for anything and everything because they’re impulsive and have a habit of leaving only to come back just as fast. 

It is up to you to decide which category he falls into based on his personality, history, habits and the circumstances surrounding the reason why he blocked you.

Be that as it may, I think it is unnecessary to block someone too unless you really want to.

There are circumstances that may call for you to block him too and we’ll discuss that immediately below. 

Thereafter, we’ll talk about all the important reasons why you should not block him too so that you can decide which option works best for you.

With that being said, let’s discuss this article on whether you should block him too in more detail. 

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Reasons why you should block him

You want to feel like you have some control

Understandably, getting blocked hurts. I remember a time when I was suddenly blocked by a girl that I had a courtship with.

It came out of left field and was very sudden.

I felt rejected, betrayed, abandoned and treated poorly. But, more importantly, I felt a lack of power or control.

The idea that this person could exercise a choice of this nature and I had to just accept it was awful to me.

Then it struck me, I could still do something.

I could completely shut the door on this and block her too.

In doing so, I’d be taking control of the situation. This was my way of saying that even if she unblocks me, she’d get no access to me because she lost that privilege.

If this is how you feel, then I think it’s perfectly justifiable for you to block him too.

You don’t want him back even if he unblocks you

Despite a solid courtship or a relationship, there comes a point where too much damage destroys any hope for reconciliation.

Even if he came back begging, you just can’t see yourself entering a relationship with him again because your trust has been broken and your feelings have soured.

It happens!

You can’t force yourself to feel a specific way and I know of many people, including myself, who just couldn’t get past the idea of being blocked prematurely, immaturely and vindictively. 

In that case, it’s best to just cut your losses and block him as well to spare yourself the pain of having another tough conversation again in the future with him. 

He’s toxic and has a habit of doing this

I want my life to be a drama free zone but I’d be lying to you if I said that I haven’t dealt with my fair share of toxic people.

Perhaps, that’s why I have such a low tolerance for toxicity in my life now.

People who thrive on drama and toxic behavior like stonewalling, gaslighting and blocking of communication are just too much to deal with.

There’s no long term stability with someone like this and you’ll be on a roller-coaster indefinitely.

When things are good, they’ll be great but they never last. When things are bad, they get extremely bad and you’re left with a ton of emotional and psychological damage each time. 

You can’t fix him and neither should you.

If he really wanted to have a stable, drama-free and good relationship with you, trust me, he’d want to change and he’d make every effort to do so.

He doesn’t, which is why you’re dealing with this again.

I’m willing to bet that the toxic behavior he is displaying with you is the same behavior he displayed in previous relationships.

If so, then there’s barely any chance he will change and you’re better off without him. So, if he  blocked you, you should block him too. 

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Reasons why you should not block him

It’s unnecessary

He already blocked you which means that you’re not going to hear from him or have any conversations unless he unblocks you.

There’s really no need for blocking him then if we assume that he’s never coming back and will never unblock you.

I just think that if the only reason to block him is out of spite then it’s pointless and you don’t need to stoop to that level.

It’s not going to make you feel any better about the situation so just let it be. 

Life has taught me that inaction can sometimes be the best form of action. 

You still want him back

You may be upset and angry right now which may prompt you to block him but I suggest that you sleep on it because it may not be what you actually want.

Perhaps you still have feelings for him and want him back.

It’s not uncommon for people to unblock each other and communicate, especially if things come to an end prematurely or impulsively.

Blocking him just places one more hurdle in front of what you want. So, I suggest just leaving it be. 

Otherwise, you’re going to constantly worry and think about what he’ll think or feel if he unblocks you and finds out that you blocked him.

Then you’re also going to worry about whether your choice to block him drove him away altogether.

To avoid that issue, just listen to your feelings and be true to yourself.

If your heart says that you don’t want to and shouldn’t block him, then don’t. 

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He’s just mad right now

A few times in this article, I brought up impulsivity and that was not my mistake. There are many guys and girls out there who are trigger happy.

They’ll be the first to block someone whenever something goes wrong or they’re upset about something.

They’re completely driven by a passing emotion like anger rather than logic and ongoing emotions.

When their emotions taper down and they’re no longer angry or upset, doubt immediately sets in and they come back.

Perhaps, he doesn’t fall into this category and is genuinely mad at you.

Even in this case I would advise you against blocking him because that feeling of anger will subside eventually and he’ll most likely unblock you at some point. 

If that’s what you want then I suggest that you should not block him too. 

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You feel indifferent about the whole situation

When you’re on the fence, it’s best to just wait and do nothing. 

When in doubt, leave it out. That’s a saying my mother repeatedly used throughout my life and it has actually been quite effective in preventing poor decision making.

Indifference means you don’t actually care to block or not block him.

Why do something without a compelling reason?

Some things are best left unsaid or undone in certain scenarios and this may be one of them.

Yes, he blocked you but you should not block him too because it’s not something you really care about doing.

In conclusion

At this point, it is evident that your decision depends entirely on how you feel and what behavior you are willing to tolerate.

Circumstances play a huge role in determining your next move so I encourage you to be honest with yourself and consider all the factors relevant to your situation before making a decision.

All that aside, you must realize that there’s a great deal of importance in doing what’s good for your well being and mental health.

I encourage you to place a greater emphasis on that before making a decision on whether you should block him too.

With that being said, I hope you found this article to be insightful and thought provoking. If you have any questions or opinions on this subject, please feel free to let me know by visiting the comment section below.