If you find that a man you care about doesn’t appreciate you, has lost interest or flat our rejected you, there is a way to win him back and gain some control over the situation. This leads us to our question of the day, does silence make a man miss you?
Yes, silence makes a man miss you, especially if he started taking you for granted or lost interest after you chased him. The fear of loss can make any man re-evaluate his actions which is why silence is so effective.
In fact, I wrote a popular article on the power of silence after a breakup and I highly recommend you give it a read.
The silent treatment is more or less the same thing as no contact. Essentially, by eliminating any and all contact with him, you attach consequences to his decision of either rejecting, ghosting or dumping you. Furthermore, it creates enough space for him to forget about the things that may have turned him or upset him.
Instead, he will start thinking of fond memories about you which will influence his emotions in a positive way.
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Why does the silent treatment work on men?
Even though we spend our entire lives trying to grow into mature and sophisticated adults, the children in us never die.
Think about this for a second – what does a child do when you put him in time out or take away his toys?
He throws a tantrum and starts crying.
Even if he wasn’t so interested in that particular toy at the time, just the idea of not having it drives him to tears and anger.
We carry those reactions into adulthood.
Very few adults are capable of being mature to the point of maintaining their composure. It’s a struggle, even for me. But, I have a firm grip on how I deal with bad situations.
Irrespective, the silent treatment would even have an effect on me.
It’s also a form of rejection.
When we assume that a woman is really into us, we get cocky and start to act as if she’ll always feel that way.
Put simply, we feel powerful, irresistable and in control.
That’s when we may act unappreciative of her presence or we keep her at arm’s length. What we don’t anticipate is the possibility of her walking away and wanting nothing to do with us.
In other words, when she walks away, it’s shocking and jarring.
This hurts the ego and stings our self perception. I truly believe there is no better reaction to rejection and a breakup than the silent treatment or the no contact rule.
She takes away the power we hold over the entire situation.
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Why should you consider using silence on a man?
If he has rejected you, acted horribly or dumped you, the silent treatment or no contact rule can help you to move on.
It gives you a bit of control over the situation and yourself. Rather than being a victim to whatever he chooses to do, you can walk away and not communicate with him at all.
This will attach the consequence of loss to his decision.
If he had any interest or affection for you, the idea of you walking away forever will make him panic to the point of reconsidering his decision.
Additionally, silence gives the two of you enough space and time to reflect on your feelings.
Perhaps at the time of rejecting or dumping you, he was actually overwhelmed and confused. Not speaking can actually make him realize that your presence in his life is far more valuable than he initially perceived it to be.
This could encourage him to reach out and actually change his mind towards you and the relationship.
Apart from that, the child analogy above also applies to those who are rejected, hurt or dumped. When we go through something of this nature, our immediate reaction is an explosively emotional one.
We either throw a tantrum and lash our or we cry and plead.
Neither of these reactions are attractive when it comes to romance. If anything, it makes you look pathetic and desperate. I hate to come across as crass and so straightforward but I want to be honest and fair with you.
If you choose to be silent and walk away, you can keep your self-worth and dignity intact.
Not only that, he’ll probably respect you more and realize that you are more confident than he assumed.
Let me pose something to you – why would someone who has self-respect and a belief in their value waste their time trying to convince a man to be with them or see their worth?
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For how long should you be silent towards him?
Ideally, until he contacts you and makes an effort to reconcile.
If he dumped you, don’t message, call or meet him until he reaches out to you. And when he reaches out, wait a few hours before responding.
You don’t want him to suspect that you only used this technique to get him back.
If you’re using the silent treatment after a fight, do so until you both have cooled down. Don’t snub him when he reaches out either.
This will only exacerbate the situation and cause more problems for you.
A word of caution – if you ignore a man for too long, you run the risk of losing him.
This is why it’s imperative that you open the doors of communication as soon as you feel like he has made a fair effort to communicate with you and fix things.
Additionally, don’t use the silent treatment every single time you have an issue with him. This is unhealthy and unproductive.
Proper communication is the key to a healthy and loving relationship.
Only use this technique when you have no other option at your disposal.
Related post: How to make a guy chase you by ignoring him
The silent treatment is an effective technique that will make a man miss you but only if used in the right context and under the right circumstance.
Make sure your reasoning for using silence on him is to assert your worth and value.
Don’t misuse this technique to gain the upper hand on him or to steal all the power in the relationship.
Additionally, always remember what the end goal is.
If it’s to make him miss you to the point of reaching out by text or phone, your objective is accomplished and you should resume talking to him again.
With that being said, I hope you found this article on does silence make a man miss you to be insightful and informative. Feel free to leave your questions in the comment section below.
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