If you’re reading this article, I’m pretty sure that you are thoroughly confused and searching for some kind of definitive sign that he wants to take things to the next level. So, does he want a relationship?
Based on these signs, yes. If he brings up being exclusive, spends more time with you than before, compliments you, teases you, he makes a move on you and makes future plans with you in them, he wants a relationship.
I can’t think of a single man who will do all of the above and not want to be in a relationship with you.
The only time when he may not want a relationship is if he is still working through unresolved feelings from the past, is rebounding or is a commitmentphobe.
Apart from that, a player may exhibit all of the signs above and still not want to be with you in any sort of committed way.
In such a situation, you’re playing with fire and bound to get burnt.
Be that as it may, let’s analyze each of the above mentioned signs so that you develop a solid understanding of when a man is ready to take things to the next level.
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1. He brings up being exclusive
If there ever was a surefire sign that a guy is interested in a relationship, it would be this. Bringing up labels of exclusivity is indicative of how much he wants to be with you.
The stereotype about men loving their freedom is true.
No man wants to be stuck in a commitment. If he has a choice, the way he feels will predominantly decide whether he chooses to be in a relationship or not.
Usually, how he feels needs to be of such a high level that one could argue he is already in love.
To such a man, the woman he wants to be in a relationship with is unlike anyone else around him.
In his eyes, being with her gives him true freedom, the kind that allows him to be immersed in the feelings of love, vulnerability and closeness.
2. Spends more time with you than before
Not all relationships start hot and heavy. For some, you may know each other for a while, went on a few dates but things didn’t escalate really fast.
At the time, both of you only focused on hanging out and having fun.
Even though things moved at a slow pace, you’ve started to notice that he tries to see you more often. Dates become more frequent and he spends a lot of time on the phone with you.
Sure, this could just be a general sign of fondness found even in friendships but if any of the signs below are present as well, it’s likely that he actually wants a relationship with you.
I get that in some cultures, where physical intimacy is a normal part of casual dating, one could argue that his desire to see you is based on carnal desires and not love.
If so, then perhaps it may be time for you to bring up exclusivity and make a note of his reaction.
Based on that, you’ll be able to deduce how he actually feels.
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3. Compliments you
Once a man feels attracted to you and becomes smitten, he’ll have a hard time containing those feelings.
Usually, they present themselves in genuine compliments.
You’ll notice a spark in his eyes when he’s looking at you and sincerity in his voice when proclaiming his attraction for something about you.
In my opinion, compliments from a man have the most value to them once he starts getting to know you on a deeper level.
Because he’s not doing it to earn your approval or to make you like him.
These compliments go beyond physical attraction and are inspired by the fondness he feels towards you as a person.
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4. Teases you
Remember when we were all just kids and the way boys used to express their feelings for a girl was by teasing her and vice versa?
And since that child in us never really disappears, you may actually find guys teasing you even though they like or love the heck out of you
Heck, even in my serious and committed relationship, I still tease my partner.
Sure, it makes her eyes roll but even she can tell that it stems from a good place.
I adore my partner but I also enjoy troubling her in a playful way. Her reactions are endearing to me and highly attractive.
If he happens to be playfully teasing you amongst other signs of attraction, then he is definitely attracted to you.
Does he want a relationship? Well, it would be hard to say based solely on this sign but it’s definitely an influential factor.
5. Makes a move on you
Perhaps you’ve been friends for a long time or going out on dates but opting not to get physical until feelings are involved.
Maybe in your community or culture, making a move on someone is usually what immediately precedes being in a relationship.
In such a case, whether he’s trying to hold your hand or kiss you, it’s a surefire sign that he is attracted to you, has feelings for you and wants to be something more serious.
Don’t be surprised if he comes outright and tells you that he does want a relationship with you.
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6. Makes future plans with you
When someone is attached to you, wants you to be a part of their life and is invested in you, they will excitedly make plans for the future with you.
These plans will often be their own idea and they’ll have a hard time containing their happiness.
As a man, I can tell you with certainty that this is true. I’ve done this every single time when I was leading up to or ready for a relationship.
Most of the men I know have attested to it and women too.
If a man consistently talks about the future with you and makes plans that involve you, he’s definitely thinking about a relationship.
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Focus on having a good time
If you worry too much about him wanting a relationship, it’s going to affect your ability to have a good time around him. You’ll begin to overthink everything and act in ways that are possibly unattractive.
By focusing on making good memories, it will create a more compelling reason for him to want a relationship with you.
Because he’ll start to associate happiness, joy and fun with you. These feelings are the driving force for the development of love.
Keep doing what you’re doing, especially if you have noticed many of the above signs because they’re indicative of a positive level of attraction.
When you can make a man feel heard, understood and accepted, you’ll often find him falling head over heals in love with you. But, don’t take this as a thumbs up to accept toxic behavior.
Always maintain your standards and be willing to walk away from a guy who is dangerous for your happiness and well being.
When we speak of making him feel accepted, I simply mean appreciating his real personality traits.
Don’t be like the girls who undermine his desire to chase after a dream or force him to become someone he’s not.
Trust me when I tell you that once a man truly falls in love with you, he will continue to grow into a better man as the relationship matures and you’re able to guide him at times.
With that being said, I hope you found this article to be insightful. If you’re still confused about whether or not he wants a relationship, please feel free to drop your questions in the comment section below.
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