So, you’ve been dumped, rejected or blown off and you decided to leave him alone and use the no contact rule. Good for you! Or perhaps, you’re getting to know a guy and the two of you haven’t been talking as much. Now, you’re constantly wondering to yourself, does he miss me?
What we absolutely know for sure is that if a man shared a relationship or connection with you for any significant amount of time and you have completely left him alone, there’s a strong chance that he does miss you. If not now, then he surely will at some point or the other.
But, this is the prerequisite for being missed.
If actually, he didn’t care about you as much as you cared about him, he may not miss you even though you’ve chosen to walk away.
I know that it’s difficult to acknowledge that but it’s better than wasting your time pining over a man who doesn’t really care about or miss you.
Signs that he misses you
As much as I wish that people were more forthcoming with their feelings, it actually takes a lot for someone to vocalize that they’re missing you.
First, they’ll display subtle signs of missing you and if none of those work, then they’ll consider telling you how much they miss you.
Unless, ofcourse, the relationship or situation is going really well, then they may be more expressive about their feelings.
The following are some of the most notable signs that he misses you.
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1. He calls and texts you
It’s uncommon for any man in his 20’s to 40’s not to text or call you when he misses you in this day and age.
In fact, you’d be hard pressed to find someone who doesn’t.
Even your ex will make an effort to find out about what you’re up to as a subtle way to let you know that he’s thinking about and missing you.
The more a man calls or texts you when the two of you have not spoken for some time, the more he misses you.
The math is quite simple.
However, if you’re constantly chasing him and not giving him any space, then when does he get the chance to miss you?
Always remember, for someone to miss you, it is imperative that you not be in their presence in person or online.
2. He brings up the past when you were together
Nostalgia and a walk down memory lane is another tell tale sign of someone who misses you.
Ponder about this, when you’re alone with your thoughts, what do you think about?
Either, you’re thinking about things that stress you out or things that excite and make you feel happy.
When he brings up certain fun and loving memories with you, especially from cool dates and experiences you’ve both had together, he’s actually sharing how much he misses you because these thoughts probably bounced around his head during that time.
3. He can’t stop talking about you to his friends or family
Whenever I truly miss someone, not only do I think about them but I find myself talking about them to my family and friends.
Even right now in my life, I still find myself bringing up my partner to my immediate friends and family because she’s such an important person to me and I can’t help but miss her when I get occupied with work and life commitments.
You may not necessarily know of this unless you are in personal contact with the people in his life or share mutual friends but I can assure you that this is a real sign he does miss you.
4. He asks you out
When dating and getting to know someone, the result of missing someone and feeling a strong desire to see them manifests in being asked out.
If he reaches out to find out when you’re free, keeps talking about how excited he is to see you again and makes an effort to do something special, he is absolutely missing you right now and is genuinely invested.
My partner and I live a few hours apart and I can assert that whenever I bring up my desire and excitement to see her again, it’s usually preceded by missing her.
5. Likes your posts on social media
A very subtle but realistic sign of him missing you is when he likes your social media posts and pictures.
Ordinarily, I wouldn’t encourage you to read too much into this kind of thing.
But, when you notice that he’s liking every single post of yours, liking older pictures and is commenting on your updates, this is a sign that he misses you and wants your attention.
Does he miss you or is he just lonely?
A man who misses you and a man who is lonely will often say the same things but the biggest difference lies in their actions.
A man who actually misses you is one who is usually present in your life, he doesn’t seek anything from you other than your presence and he makes an effort to keep the conversation going long after he got your attention.
He’ll also try to facilitate a date with you as soon as possible that is wholesome in nature because he misses you.
A man who is lonely is often only seeking out comfort.
He’s not so concerned about how you’re doing and he really doesn’t care to spend time with you unless it helps him to feel better.
As soon as he gets what he wants or needs, he’ll disappear again or make much less of an effort.
This will go on and on until you actually stop wasting your time by feeding into his desire for comfort.
My advice to you would be as follows – pay attention to his actions.
This will usually give you a good indication of how he really feels about you.
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How to make him miss you
I’ve written multiple articles on making a man miss you which you can read here and here but I’d like to touch on a few principles that are non-negotiable when trying to create attraction and make him miss you.
Keep a distance from him for a short period of time – even if it’s for a few hours, get busy living your life and focusing on yourself.
To miss someone, they have to be absent from your life for some time.
If you’re always around him, how could he possibly miss you?
I encourage you to avoid texting and calling him all the time. Put simply, don’t chase him.
What you don’t want to do is double text him or triple text him all the time. If you reach out to him, wait some time for him to respond.
Focus on becoming the best version of yourself.
When you are with him, make an effort to have a good time and to connect with him on a deeper level.
When he thinks about you, it’s not your looks that he’ll miss.
It’s the quality of the time and experiences he shared with you so invest a lot of time in being your best self and showing him exactly who you are.
More than anything, I would advise you to just allow the connection to establish itself.
If the two of you are meant to be, nothing will separate you.
You won’t have to actively do anything to make him miss you nor will you find yourself battling to find an answer to the question of does he miss me.
On the contrary, you’ll have very little doubt that he misses you because his words and actions will match.
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If there’s just one thing you take away from this article, let it be this – be true to yourself.
When a man realizes your worth and value, he’ll not only miss you but he’ll make an effort to fix his mistakes and bridge the gap.
I can honestly tell you that the right man will never have a problem connecting with you on an emotional and intimate level.
If he doesn’t and you’re trying everything you possibly can to make him miss you but to no avail, it might be time to reflect on what you want in life and consider moving on.
With that being said, I hope this article provided much-needed insight on your question of, “does he miss me?”. Feel free to leave your thoughts or questions in the comment section below.
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