Losing someone you love is a terrible experience for anyone. Most women find themselves feeling confused and heartbroken but also hopeful that the men they love will come. This begs the question, do men always come back?
Yes, men do always come back because time and space have the habit of making people feel nostalgic and sentimental over good memories from the past. As long as he hasn’t completely moved on and doesn’t hate your guts, he will come back.
It’s hard to completely cut off someone you spent a significant amount of time with.
It’s even harder when you have shared a relationship with them and created countless loving and enjoyable memories.
Even if he doesn’t intend on returning to the relationship, he’d still come back to communicate with you at some point or the other.
But, there are some things that may motivate men to always come back and I want to discuss that with you because it’s important if you want to re-attract him.
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Reasons why men always come back
1. They miss you
Separating from someone you loved and spent a lot of time with is difficult. As long as you have some degree of attachment to them and they aren’t dreadful, you will eventually miss them.
Much like you, men are completely susceptible to the same emotion.
None of us get to escape a breakup or divorce unaffected.
There are some predictable and common occurring emotions that everyone will experience and a longing for your ex is something we all will experience at some point or the other.
If he misses you and you haven’t been chasing him, I’m willing to bet that he will come back.
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2. They left impulsively
I won’t lie, I’m quite an impulsive person and when I was younger, I would make silly decisions in the heat of the moment that I later regretted.
For this reason, I tend to encourage most people to apply the 24-hour rule which dictates that you must wait an entire day before making an emotionally motivated decision.
Usually, when impulsive people sleep on a decision, they wake up with more clarity and tend to avoid making a mistake.
Guys who break up or distance themselves impulsively always come back because their decision is predominantly emotionally inspired and not well thought out.
I would compare it to someone who sobers up and realizes the mistake they made while inebriated.
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3. They’re can’t find anyone better
Many men are under the impression that the grass is always greener on the other side only to be met with a slap from reality when they finally get there.
It’s not all sunshine and rainbows and just because they expect to meet countless amazing women like you doesn’t mean that they will or that those women would be interested in them.
At that point, it becomes evident that having you in their life was a blessing and they were lucky to have found you.
Additionally, men tend to overestimate their value in the dating world which often results in them expecting more than what they get.
When it dawns on him that there isn’t a harem of women drooling over him who is fantastic and amazing as you, he’ll be back!
Because when he thinks about the last time he felt happy and in love with someone who knocked his socks off, he’s going to think about you.
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4. They’re lonely
Have you noticed how the dumper tends to underestimate just how big of a role the dumpee has in their life?
They take their partner for granted and assume that being without them won’t hurt much.
But, when they break up with you and walk away, time teaches them how important you were and just how much of their life revolved around you and the relationship.
Transitioning from being with someone most of the time and having them shower you with love and attention to being completely single is jarring.
All that silence and emptiness you will experience at first will be something that takes a lot of time to adjust to.
And so, men come back when they feel lonely and realize just how empty their life is without you.
Again, I must emphasize that all of this is dependent on the quality of partner that you were.
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5. They have a pattern of leaving and coming back
Men are creatures of habit and once they reach a certain age, it becomes quite difficult for them to change for the better.
In other words, you can’t teach an old dog new tricks.
This rings true for men who have been dating for a long time and have a history of walking out on their partners only to come back.
They may use this as a means of manipulation or they may have an unhealthy mindset when it comes to commitment.
Either way, a string of walkouts indicates a pattern which means that he will always come back because that is just what he does.
How to encourage men to come back
Believe me when I tell you that what you do after a break up is just as important as what you do during the relationship.
I’ve done everything wrong and I’ve also done everything right thereafter.
What I know, with absolute certainty, is that chasing your ex or lashing out at them will only drive them away altogether.
Texting them, calling, begging, pleading, arguing and fighting are surefire ways of devaluing your worth and level of attractiveness in the eyes of your ex.
So, what can you do?
Do absolutely nothing.
Okay, I know, that’s not very helpful so allow me to explain.
The temptation to take action after a breakup is enormous. Your fear of loss will encourage you to engage in some form of action to get your ex back.
But, that voice in your head isn’t thinking correctly.
All it wants is to escape the pain and shock. It’s not thinking rationally or clearly.
Listening to that voice is not a healthy option unless it’s telling you to prioritize your own wellbeing.
What you should be doing is initiating the no contact rule and focusing on healing.
Trying to convince your ex to take you back is a fruitless endeavor because it undermines your worth.
You have to be willing to walk away if they’re not ready to work on the relationship or meet you half way.
And by walking away, you’re demonstrating strength and self respect. What we know about these two characteristics is that they are extremely attractive and compelling.
Society usually attaches these traits to high-value people.
So, by walking away and initiating no contact, you’re taking back some control over the situation, you’re exhibiting strength and self respect and you’re preventing yourself from doing things that completely scares your ex away.
Do this with the intention of moving on.
That’s the key to this technique being successful.
Don’t just sit around waiting for your ex to come back.
That will drive you insane.
Embrace the breakup in it’s entirety and prepare yourself to move on as if your ex isn’t going to come back.
By doing this, you will either move on and completely heal from this breakup or your ex will come back and you’d have made enough progress emotionally and intellectually to get them back into a relationship with you.
If you don’t believe this to be true, go and try to chase after your ex and see how that works out.
Most people end up in a forced state of no contact but only after they’ve done enough damage to their reputation for their ex to never look back.
You can prevent that from happening by simply following this advice.
The only time you should consider making an effort to win back your ex is if you were uninvolved in the relationship as you should have been and that caused the breakup.
Do men always come back? Yes, men do always come back because time and space have the habit of making people feel nostalgic and sentimental over good memories from the past. As long as he hasn’t completely moved on and doesn’t hate your guts, he will come back.
In the mean time, what you can do is focus on self development and healing from the breakup.
This will be a painful time in your life but it can bring about a great deal of growth and development that helps you to create a life that makes you incredibly happy in the future.
All you have to do is be patient, respect yourself, find ways to improve yourself, focus on your wellbeing and be caring to those around you.
When he comes back, he’s going to be blown away by the person that you have become.
But, if he doesn’t come back, you’ll go on to meet even better men and you’ll have amazing relationships!
With that being said, I hope you found this article on do men always come back to be thought-provoking and insightful. If you would like to share your thoughts or questions, please do so by visiting the comment section below.
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