The way some guys behave with good girls, it makes a lot of women question whether guys care at all. This brings to light an important question, do guys regret losing a good girl?
Yes, guys do regret losing a good girl, especially if they had any degree of care, attachment and attraction for her. When they are alone or nostalgic, that is when they will usually start to miss her and regret losing her.
However, guys who didn’t care about a girl will not experience regret for losing her even if she was good.
The prerequisite for regret is care.
This applies to anything in life.
As long as you care about something, it has a degree of value that is important to you.
When something valuable is lost, it’s presence is missed and mourned.
So, in this case, if he genuinely valued you as a person or cared about you to some degree, it’s inevitable that he will regret losing you.
Unfortunately, most people don’t realize what they have until it’s lost. That’s the problem.
If we could foresee regret, I would assume that most of us would make better decisions in our life.
But, regret itself can be a great teacher.
It can also bring back a guy who once took you for granted.
And in doing so, he may never make the mistake of losing you again or someone he cares about.
Be that as it may, let’s dissect this topic and analyze why guys regret losing a good girl.
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1. It’s hard to find good girls
Life is ironic. Sometimes, it can paint a picture for you that is deceitful. We are led to believe the grass is greener on the other side only to realize it’s not.
Or, if it is, you don’t actually like it.
When you are always fixated on getting what’s better or moving onto the next thing, you’ll never truly understand or appreciate the value of something until it’s gone.
In this day and age, there are many influences and factors that encourage people to be disingenuous, shallow, conceited and so forth.
Finding good girls becomes harder when those who are less than ideal become role models.
The truth of the matter is, men encourage this behavior.
We are quick to place shallow and superficial women on a pedestal while disregarding those who are genuine human beings.
Then, we are far too quick to cry and complain that there aren’t many good girls.
The problem is that you’re not paying attention to them or treating them properly. I was guilty of this myself until I changed.
When I realized how hard it is to find good girls, it really opened my eyes to the flaws within myself. I had to reassess who I was as a person and become better.
At the same time, this was a period that was accompanied by a lot of regret.
So, what I can say with certainty is that when a guy tries to find someone after losing a good girl, he’ll find himself experiencing regret when he realizes how hard it is to find someone of equal character.
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2. A good girl leaves a lasting impression in your life
The amazing thing about good people is that they touch your heart in ways you may not even comprehend until you lose them.
They’re so humble and wholesome that it’s hard to replace the void they leave behind when they are gone.
When a man is left alone with his thoughts and the adrenalin rush of being single again wears off, he’ll find himself struggling to deal with the ghost of the good girl he lost.
At which point, he’ll start to remember all of the things that separates her from just any other girl.
That’s when regret sets in.
3. They made a mistake that was out of character
Sometimes, a man could have valued and loved a good girl but made a mistake to ruin the relationship.
Now that she’s gone, he immediately regrets losing her because his actions were not in harmony with his personality.
Even the best of people are prone to mistakes.
Nobody is perfect and the unfortunate reality is that we can all fall and fail at times.
If he is someone of a generally good character with his moral compass intact, he’ll experience a great deal of regret for losing a good girl because of his actions.
4. He loves you
At the end of the day, love is an emotion that controls the world. It is so influential in our lives and contributes to most of our decisions.
A man who loves you will regret losing you.
Irrespective of whether he has met someone else or if the loss was caused by something other than his own actions.
That sense of regret will always be experienced because he’ll either wish to have spent more time with you, to have enjoyed you more or to have done more to be with you.
This form of regret is closely tied to love, more so than guilt or shame.
It’s a form of regret that can really influence change in someone and is not easy to let go of.
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How long does it take for a guy to realize he lost a good girl?
Honestly, it can take anywhere from a few weeks to about three months.
That’s usually the time frame when things start to slow down and he has a lot of time to think and analyze.
Immediately after a breakup, some people fall into an immediate state of despair and pain whereas others avoid this by jumping into dating other people.
These guys want to avoid dealing with the pain of their loss.
As such, the first few weeks are spent enjoying their newfound ‘freedom’ until the novelty of it wears off.
When it does, their world starts crashing.
They start to realize that you are gone for good and that there’s this void that is the size of you. It can’t be filled by anything or anyone else.
That’s when regret sets in and they realize they’ve lost a good girl.
Guys who don’t regret losing a good girl
As mentioned earlier in this article, men who didn’t care about you will not regret losing you.
There was no value to your presence in his eyes and so there’s no reason for him to experience regret from loss.
I know it sucks to hear that but it’s the reality.
You shouldn’t waste your time with a guy who doesn’t care about you. He didn’t see your value because he’s blind or silly.
You deserve someone who sees you for the wonderful person that you are.
Another type of guy who won’t regret losing a good girl is one who is a player.
He doesn’t care about the type of person you are.
His goal is to entertain himself with multiple women and to play a game.
Lastly, a guy who is in love with someone else will probably not regret losing a good girl.
He is far too consumed and busy with his love for another person.
He’s not thinking about what he has lost. In fact, he is thinking only about that which he wants to gain or has gained.
There’s no reason for him to be regretting the loss of another girl when his vision and heart are set on someone else.
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Signs he regrets losing a good girl
These are the most common occurring signs that a guy regrets losing a good girl. I would advise you to keep an eye out for these. The more of these signs he displays, the more likely it is that he is full of regret.
1. He shares his regret with her
Telling her that he regrets losing her is pretty obvious.
However, the reason I mention it is because most women experience a lot of doubt and don’t know whether or not a guy is being honest about this.
The truth is that a man who is narcissistic won’t ever put himself in a position to show his weakness.
And a man who doesn’t really care wouldn’t even bother opening up about this.
If he is trying to do nothing other than apologize and share his regret, it’s safe to say that he is being genuine.
2. He can’t stop texting her
If he didn’t regret losing her, he wouldn’t be pumping so much effort into staying in contact with her.
His frequent texts are just symbolic of his emotional state.
He feels a lot of regret and can’t handle the fact that he lost you.
Texting you a lot is just his way of trying to hold onto you or win you back.
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3. He constantly tries to make amends
Most of the time, a guy will make a big effort to make amends when he regrets his actions.
He is unhappy with his mistakes and values you too much to avoid taking responsibility for his actions.
And so, he humbles himself and tries to make things right, despite having to face the fact that he messed up or lost out.
4. He can’t move on
Months or years have gone by but he just can’t move on.
When people ask him why; he is vague and talks about not having a desire to find love.
That stems from regret and an inability to move on from his loss.
5. He keeps talking about the past
One of the signs that he regrets losing a good girl is a fixation with the past, specifically of the good times spent together.
This constant state of nostalgia is indicative of his regret and care.
Like I said above, if he didn’t care, he wouldn’t be thinking about you or investing any time or effort in you.
Talking about the past frequently is a form of investment in staying there rather than moving on.
6. He’s jealous of her moving on
Jealousy is another telltale sign of a guy who regrets losing a good girl. He can’t stand the sight of her with another man.
He keeps thinking about the fact that he used to be the one with her.
This drives him nuts and he can’t help but feel jealous.
He may constantly ask and prod about her love life, he may insult the other guy or be very sarcastic.
He may even tell her that he doesn’t care but in reality, these are just signs of regret.
7. He tries to get her back
Lastly, he does everything in his power to get her back.
The apologies don’t stop, he makes an effort to be better, he constantly tries to stay in contact, he asks her out, he professes feelings and even begs for another chance.
If this isn’t a sign of regret, I don’t know what is!
Just to summarize, do guys regret losing a good girl? Yes, absolutely. They do regret losing a good girl as long as they cared about her and valued her presence.
If not, then there’s absolutely no reason for him to regret anything.
Regret is a slippery slope and the more someone experiences it, the more unbearable it is.
As such, they will often display signs of regret like begging for another chance, asking for forgiveness or constantly texting.
Unfortunately, a man who doesn’t regret losing a good girl will simply move on with his life and not spare a second thought on her or the past.
With that being said, I hope you found this article on do guys regret losing a good girl to be insightful and informative. If you have any questions for me on this topic or a situation you’re dealing with, feel free to leave a comment down below.
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