One of the most effective ways to gain someone’s attention is to remove yours. This begs the question, do guys notice when you stop texting them?
Yes, guys do notice when you stop texting them provided that they actually cared about you or have some level of interest or attachment to you. Otherwise, no, guys won’t notice when you stop texting them.
Generally speaking, we only miss something or someone when they hold some position of value in our lives.
Without that base level of value, there’s really no reason to miss or notice when that thing or person is no longer around.
This can be a difficult concept to accept because you obviously view yourself as a person of value. And, you are! You are a valuable person. But, much like how beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder, so does perceived value.
Irrespective of how amazing you are, if that cannot be perceived by the guy you want to stop texting, it won’t matter what you do.
He simply doesn’t see your value and so anything you say or do to gain his attention will fall on deaf ears and blind eyes.
A big problem with this question is that it often follows being rejected, ghosted or ignored by a guy.
Am I right?
Best case scenario, he’s barely showing interest in you. That, in and of itself, is a problem.
You’re already negotiating from a position of weakness. However, this does not mean that you should resort to chasing him or continuing to shower him with attention.
Just because he may not notice that you stopped texting him now doesn’t mean there’s no value in it.
So, with that being said, I’m going to share some reasons why you should stop texting him as well as reasons why guys do notice when you stop texting them.
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Reasons why you should stop texting him
1. He’s not interested in you
When you offer what you have to someone who doesn’t want it, the result is that you end up being taken for granted and everything you do is not appreciated.
This is hard to accept, especially when you want to give your time and affection to someone who you see value in.
Accepting that they don’t see you in the same light hurts but it is crucial that you do so to maintain self-dignity and self-respect.
For this reason, it is a good idea to stop texting him.
2. You’re not his type
There will be times in your life when you meet someone who will see you for the wonderful person that you are but not in a romantic way.
They will happily be with you as a friend but that’s as far as they are prepared to go because you’re just not their type.
This happens to everyone and it’s just part of life.
Just because someone is your type doesn’t necessarily mean that you will be their type.
3. He’s not looking for a relationship
Some men will find you attractive, have romantic feelings for you and will actually make an effort to be with you but never to the extent of being in a committed and serious relationship.
Commitment is something that he isn’t looking for right now and if you think that he’ll just change his mind because you want him to, then you’ll be in for a bad surprise.
The only time someone will truly be ready for a relationship is when they want to be.
Until then, you can’t force them even if they like you.
So, if he has made it abundantly clear that he is not looking for a relationship and is not working towards preparing himself for one in the near future, then take him at his word and stop texting him because he can’t or won’t give you what you’re looking for.
4. He has someone else
Don’t involve yourself with a man who has someone else.
It won’t end well for anyone in this situation.
Stop texting him and just move on to someone who is single or not in love with someone else.
5. He doesn’t value your time or effort
There will be times when you’re dealing with a man who claims to like you and the two of you are pursuing something but he just doesn’t value your time or effort.
He won’t make an effort and all your pleas fall on deaf ears.
If constant communication with him is one-sided and achieves nothing, it might be time to stop texting him until he learns a lesson and starts taking you seriously.
Without consequences, people will do whatever they want and when they want to. You need to make it known that you are not willing to tolerate this sort of behavior.
Start with communication and if that keeps failing, then pull away.
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Reasons why guys notice when you stop texting them
1. It hurts their ego
I’ll be the first to admit that most guys are ego driven to some extent.
As much as I want to portray myself as someone who is humble, the mistakes and poor reactions throughout my life would paint a picture of a young man or boy who allowed his ego to rule his decision in some key moments.
The ego may be large but it’s fragile like a glass bowl.
It can’t withstand a strong shot and when you stop texting guys who you once chased, their ego can’t handle the fact that they can be forgotten and left.
It’s very easy for the ego to paint a false picture that we might be so amazing that nobody would just walk away once they see our value.
But, in real life, that is not true. So, when you stop texting guys who aren’t interested in you or who treat you poorly, their ego will get hurt.
2. They didn’t realize how valuable you are
I’ve noticed that true worth is something only perceived after it’s lost. And this is something a lot of guys will attest to.
They don’t realize just how amazing someone is until that person walks out of their life.
When it occurs, they fall into a pit of despair, shock and pain.
And this is one of the reasons why a guy will notice when you stop texting them.
He has been so blinded by your effort that only once it’s removed with the void in his life reveals the value of your presence.
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3. They start doubting their own desirability and choice
This goes hand in hand with hurting their ego but when you can walk away from a guy who doesn’t respect or give you the time of day, it plants a seed of doubt in their mind.
Instead of walking around with this air of arrogance, they start to wonder whether you actually felt strongly about them or if you were actually not interested.
This is great because it shifts some of the power back into your side of the court.
Now, instead of being the one who was being rejected, ignored, ghosted or treated poorly, you’re the one who walked away and withdrew all your attention and affection.
This means that they will have to make an effort and reach out if they hope to get you to text them again.
I have to be honest and admit that when you stop texting guys, it has great potential to make them miss you.
This is something I would recommend to anyone who has a habit of chasing after guys or texting too much.
Stop texting him for a short while and make a note of his behavior. If he reaches out or tries to get you to text him again, then it’s quite obvious that not texting him had a positive effect.
If he makes no effort to get in contact with you again, then we know, with certainty, that you were wasting your time with this guy and he didn’t really care about you.
With that being said, I hope this article on do guys notice when you stop texting them is helpful and insightful. If you’d like one on one help, be sure to check out my services page for email coaching.