If you’re reading this article, I’m willing to bet that you feel hurt, betrayed, discarded and rejected because of a failed relationship or possible romance. You’re probably desperately wondering to yourself, do girls regret losing a good guy? Here’s the truth.
Yes, girls do regret losing a good guy, especially if they took their partner for granted and assumed that it would be easy to find someone who is as compatible, compassionate and morally driven as the good guy they left or lost.
The severity of regret will depend on whether she cared about the guy or not and to what extent they shared a bond with each other.
Far too often, people are driven by a desire for more.
Dissatisfaction inspired by comparison is a thief of joy and can ruin your life, especially if you are unable to rationalize the difference between reality and a fictionalized portrayal of the perfect relationship in your mind or from what you view online.
How many of us scroll through social media and feel discontent with our lives due to the inaccurate and unrealistic imagery of relationships and people online?
It’s preposterous and yet we find ourselves perplexed and confused as to why we are unhappy.
How can you celebrate and cherish the blessings in front of you when your gaze is fixed beyond or behind what you have?
If that’s all you learn how to do, then nothing and nobody will be good enough and you’ll constantly find yourself losing good people in your life.
A girl who lives life in this manner is bound to regret losing a good guy because she’ll only be driven by the one or two things she views in others without recognizing the whole host of good or compatible attributes missing in those people.
She may see the 20% lacking in the good guy that she finds in someone else without realizing that this other person doesn’t have 80% of what she currently finds within the guy in her life.
Then, when she loses the guy she has, reality sets in that the other guy or guys or what she thought she wanted don’t fulfill her.
It’s not just girls who do this. Guys are so guilty of making this mistake over and over again. At certain points in my life, I’ve done this as well.
This is why it’s important to ground yourself in reality and not to get influenced by the intoxication of the grass being greener on the other side.
With that being said, let’s take a look at some reasons why girls regret losing a good guy.
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Reasons Why Girls Regret Losing A Good Guy
1. It may take a long time to find someone as good or better
Dating is difficult, especially if you’re not within big social circles like in colleges and so forth. As you get older, you begin to realize how much longer it takes to cross paths with someone who is good for you and a suitable match.
It can take a long time before you actually meet someone who knocks your socks off and in that time, you have to deal with both loneliness and poor quality individuals.
This can cause a great deal of regret and distress, especially if you lost a good guy because you failed to recognize the value of what you had with him.
This is definitely something girls will go through because let’s face it, how many amazing guys do you personally know?
2. They get hurt by other guys
While we’re on the topic of other guys, it’s not like she’s going to be cut off from dating or other guys hitting on her.
If anything, I’m sure girls are hit on regularly but the quality of guys may not be what she imagined.
Now that she’s screening guys for a relationship, their inadequacies or incompatible qualities start shining brightly.
Furthermore, she may cross paths with some guys who look great and may seem to be awesome only to get rejected, abused, played, used, manipulated or ghosted.
All of that hurts and when she reflects back to the last time she was at peace with someone, she’s going to think about that good guy she lost and regret will be something she has to deal with.
It sucks but this is just what men and women go through in life, especially when they make poor choices.
We have all been through it and I hope to write a few articles that help both men and women who are suffering from regret find peace and comfort.
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3. They realize how much they loved him
People who are dialed into the present moment and spend time focusing on all that they have been blessed with are the lucky few who appreciate and value what they have.
Unfortunately, a large portion of society struggles to live in this manner.
As a result of this behavior, they end up losing someone they actually truly loved.
The value of something or someone is truly asserted when they are no longer in your life.
And it sucks because you come to a realization only when it’s too late.
This one truly hurts me to even think about it because some people really make mistakes and were blinded early on.
These people could actually be wonderful but they made a series of bad decisions without understanding how they truly felt or the value of what they had.
If you have someone good in your life, I plead with you to love them like they deserve to be. Hold them close and make a conscious decision every single day to appreciate the relationship you have.
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4. Their needs and wants start to align with what they lost
Timing plays a factor in life.
There’s a right and wrong time for everything and sometimes, people end up with the right person at the wrong time in their life and ruin things.
But, as time goes on and they mature, it becomes clear to them that their new values, needs and wants all align with what they once had.
If that happens, it’s obvious that girls would regret losing a good guy because they now yearn and desire what they once had.
5. They messed up and know it
“If you look back at the past for too long, you may get stuck there.”
In hindsight, we all can recognize how we messed up and could have done things differently.
Throughout this article, we’ve touched on the idea of losing someone due to a lack of maturity, comparison, inappropriate behavior and a lack of understanding of what one has in their life.
Some of these actions can be explained away while others leave a scar due to the severity of the behavior involved.
It’s not just about losing someone, it’s how you go about losing them that can also cause regret.
I like to believe that most people want to do the right thing and strive to be good people.
But, we also battle with a shadow self that is encouraging us to act poorly.
Losing someone in a manner that hurts them to their core is something any good person would regret.
We can only run from reality for so long and once we are willing to acknowledge how we messed up, it’s going to take a toll on us to deal with that regret.
It should be apparent right now that girls do regret losing a good guy, especially if she had strong feelings for him.
But, does it really help to know that?
Maybe it provides you with some comfort right now but I’m willing to bet that if you still care about this girl, you probably feel some degree of pain at the thought of her suffering from regret.
Even if she hurt you in a way that has scarred you or damaged your heart and self-esteem, don’t lose sight of the healing powers of actually being a good person.
That’s how we redeem ourselves and how we heal.
We practice goodwill on a daily basis and we pour our hearts out to our creator or whatever we believe in.
I’m sure that you’re reading this in hopes of feeling some validation of your worth because you feel discarded and not good enough because of what she’s done.
But, channel this need in a different way. Seek out that validation and worth by doing more of what makes you a good person.
With that being said, I hope this article on do girls regret losing a good guy provided you with some clarity and comfort during this painful time in your life. If you have any questions or thoughts that you would like to share, please do so by visiting the comment section below.