In this article, I’m going to share my thoughts on whether or not you can have more than one best friend.
Having a best friend would imply that of all your friends, this particular friend is better than any of the other friends you may have. You could have many good or great friends but more often than not, you would have just one best friend.
However, that’s not to say that you could be a part of a group of best friends.
What this simply implies is that of all your friends, this group is better than any other group of friends.
So, as a group, they would be classified as your best friends and in terms of this explanation, you can have more than one best friend.
But, to keep things simple, let’s just go with the answer that you cannot have more than one best friend. You could have many good or great friends or even a group of best friends but not more than one best friend.
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So, can I not have many best friends?
This is just a technical explanation of whether or not you can have more than one best friend. In real life, it isn’t so complicated and if you wish to call multiple friends your best friend then you can do so.
Technicalities don’t really matter because the only thing that truly counts in any friendship is the level of care, trust and respect you have for each other.
Here’s something else to consider, throughout your life, you may end up having multiple different best friends.
The best friend you had in primary school may not be the same best friend you have in high school.
The best friend you have in college may not be the best friend you have right now in your life.
Life is all about relationships and connecting with other people.
In different stages of your life, your best friend may change but that doesn’t take away any importance from the best friends of prior years.
The issue with having more than one best friend
Before deciding whether you personally can have more than one best friend, I think you need to consider whether you can divide your time between them in a somewhat equal manner.
If you can’t and there’s an expectation for you to do so, then that can prove to be problematic.
I’d like to share a quick story to illustrate what I’m trying to say.
I had two friends in my life who I considered my best friends. One of those best friends is someone who I connect with on many levels whereas the other was more of a long-time school best friend.
As we got older, I found myself gravitating towards the best friend who connected with me on a deeper level.
Unfortunately, what happened was that I couldn’t divide my time and effort between them. Because I enjoyed the company of one best friend over the other, it led to situations where the other best friend got upset with me on more than one occasion.
Then there was the whole issue of jealousy that was created due to this.
I always tried my best to never make it an issue and not to make one feel like I didn’t care as much.
But, alas, in the end, one of those friendships soured and I think you can take a guess which one I’m talking about.
And that brings me to my next discovery about having many best friends.
Their level of maturity will heavily influence your ability to make time for all of them, especially if they aren’t good friends with each other.
If there’s one thing that you take away from this article, let it be this, life is too precious to get hung up on silly technicalities.
Being able to even consider multiple people to be your best friends is a good problem to have.
It means that you are surrounded by people who want to be a part of your life and want you to be a part of their life.
Grab this with both hands and try to cultivate some long-lasting friendships that add happiness, joy, support and wisdom to your life.
And since you get to decide which of your friends are the best, be sure to choose those who add value to your life.
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Do you need to have many best friends?
Absolutely not. What matters more than quantity is the quality of your friendships.
It’s pointless to label a bunch of people are best friends if they wouldn’t even spend any time with you.
The way I see it, a best friend is someone who treats you like family.
In other words, apart from any other friend, they’re the one or few friends who know you best, who support you wholeheartedly and who add value to your life.
The worst thing you could ask for is being best friends with a friend who doesn’t care about you.
Be that as it may, just because you may have one or many best friends doesn’t mean that you can’t be a best friend to other people.
Since we get to decide who of all our friends is our best friend, other people have that right as well.
So, you could be best friends with one person whereas another person may consider you their best friend even though they’re just a good friend to you.
It’s great when two people agree that they are each other’s best friends but that’s not something to lose any sleepover.
In summary, can you have more than one best friend? Having a best friend would imply that of all your friends, this particular friend is better than any of the other friends you may have. You could have many good or great friends but more often than not, you would have just one best friend.
It’s all just semantics and technicalities that really don’t matter.
You could cultivate normal friendships that are better than most people’s best friends if you have the right intention and surround yourself with good people.
With that being said, I hope you found this article to be fun, insightful and helpful. Be sure to leave your thoughts or questions in the comment section for me.
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